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How writing can be therapy to the soul; Do you have a book inside of you?

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Writing can be therapeutic; as Psychology Today bloggers, Randi Kreger and Rochelle Melander point out, “Many psychological and medical studies have shown that writing about difficulties and dreams helps people experience increased happiness, health, and productivity.”

When we have lots of things going around in our mind, we often can’t sort through them. When the mind feels chaotic, it does affect the body and soul. If you can soothe your soul, the rest will follow.

One of the best ways to do this is through writing. Therapeutic and self-reflective writing are excellent ways to express your emotions. There are many therapeutic exercises on my blog. If you click through the A-Z you’ll find exercises for certain subjects. If you feel you have a blockage in an area of your life, have a look through and see if you can relate to any of the subjects. Have fun doing this, don’t put pressure on yourself. My exercises help to give you an avenue to start expressing yourself. You don’t need to show anyone these writings, you can keep them or throw them away.

If you feel like your head is in the middle of a motorway, then letting all this go onto paper is an amazing release. Research has shown that writing down our thoughts does help to clear our thoughts: it can help put things into perspective, see things more clearly and prioritise. The latter isn’t saying some thoughts don’t matter, however, there could be thoughts that are murking the waters.

For example, are you worried about the outcome of a situation? Are you stressing about things that haven’t happened yet? If this is the case, when you’re releasing these thoughts, write about the outcome you desire. Write as if you’ve received this outcome. Imagine the emotions and joy you would feel if you were at peace.

Writing is very powerful, many authors have created fictional stories through their own life experiences. When I was studying for my MA in Creative Writing, the saying, ‘Write what you know’, was used quite often. You can read more about, ‘Writing what you know,’ by Joanna Penn here. (It is one of her older posts, however, it is still very useful in terms of how authors bring personal experiences into their writing). My fiction books draw in life experiences, I love turning real-life into fiction, as it can help the reader, especially if they identify with a situation within my books.

Simply putting pen to paper is amazing for your soul. We need to take care of our inner selves so that our outer selves can shine. Don’t worry about spelling, grammar or even if your writing makes sense … just write and get those thoughts, emotions and experiences down on paper.

There is probably a book deep inside of you.

You can see my previous blog post on following your soul here

 

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How To Be Your Most Radiant Self

 

I love the quote above by Jane Seymour. Think about this quote and think about someone you would describe as radiant.

Think about this person and ask yourself, what makes them radiant?

If you are thinking about the way they dress or how they look, then you are missing the point of radiance … because radiance comes from within.

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Radiance is the person who smiles, laughs and brings energy with them that is infectious.

Often, radiance can be wiped from us due to everyday life getting in the way (that treadmill I talk about). From the 9-5 mundane job you are stuck in, to the busy schedule of family life. The only thing radiating from many people by the end of the day is tiredness.

So how can you become more radiant and spread that radiance to others?

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Firstly, think about your life?

Is there something that drags you down?

Can you change this?

Sometimes we can’t. Sometimes we have to take a new perspective on the ‘thing’ that is affecting our radiance. Changing your thoughts to a situation can give you renewed energy.

Here’s a little exercise to get you started:

  1. Write down the things you can change: a quick change, or a change that will happen over a period of time.
  2. Write down a plan to how you can make these changes: writing down your thoughts, emotions and plans is a great way to become focused on the task at hand. If a certain change needs a long time-frame, write down the steps needed to make this change happen.
  3. Now, write down the things you can’t change, as much as you would like to, but you feel these things can’t be changed.
  4. Look at the things you can’t change and write down the positive aspects. Change the way you look at these things, think about how you could embrace them into your life, how can you view these things from a different perspective. This task may be hard, but you will be able to draw something from this. Learning to love whatever life throws at you, helps to release good energy rather than negative dull energy that will affect other areas of your life.

We often wake up on a morning, with all the tasks we’ve got to complete, things we’ve got to do … pulling ourselves from our bed, we then put ourselves on autopilot and make our way through the day. Sound familiar?

One of the best ways to start your day is with gratitude …

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Before you get out of bed on a morning, think about the things you are grateful for in your life. Say thank-you aloud. If you can jump out of bed shouting ‘thank-you’ you’ll soon notice a difference in your mood … and people will soon notice your radiance.

Here are a few more tips on how you can become more radiant:

1. Practise mindfulness: You can practise mindfulness through meditation, or simply look through my blog, there are several blog posts that will help you practise mindfulness. From finding your quiet, to soothing your soul, plus there are plenty of therapeutic writing exercises.

2. Rise above your troubles: Life sometimes throws us a curveball, but often situations arise because they have a deeper meaning. The best way to do this, is to ask yourself: what am I learning from this situation? What can I be grateful for? How will this situation affect me in a year’s time? What can you do to make the situation better? Challenge yourself, fight your way through … get up every morning with a smile and a grateful heart and your radiance will shine through. 

3. Connect with others: When you’re out and about smile at others. A smile, a friendly hello or a small interaction with someone who crosses your path during the day, can give you an energetic boost. Don’t underestimate the power of connecting with others to increase your mood, this will inevitably lead to you becoming more radiant.

Making a conscious effort to be more radiant by bringing all of the above together. This is sure to bring out a radiance that will shine onto others.

You can read the previous blog post on the A-Z Inspirational Blog; R is for Radiance:

BECOME A MORE RADIANT YOU!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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When the world is feeling loud … how can you get some quiet?

Embracing your time alone is good for the mind, soul and heart. Solitude is a great way to recharge your internal batteries. The world can often be busy and chaotic, we can be running from one place to another and not really taking concentrated time to be quiet; to just sit and breathe.

Research has shown that quiet-time relieves stress, tension and helps to boost a person’s mental state. Too much time alone can have an opposite effect, however, on a day-to-day basis when life is full of schedules, deadlines, places to be, things to do, it’s very important to find time to be and relish in quiet.

As a parent, I understand the limited ‘quiet time’ available, however, I have to ensure I do have quiet time, whether this is just 5-10 minutes before bed, or before the craziness starts on a morning, but I know it makes me a better parent. I know it gives me time to focus, re-adjust and feel gratitude.

Researchers have said that meditation is so important, however, many people find it hard to connect with their inner selves. There are many meditation downloads you can choose from that will help you find your inner peace, however, if you prefer to be a bit more active here are 5 ways to enjoy some quiet time and switch off from your hectic world:

1. Bath with candles – either quietly or listening to some soft music

I love baths. A hot soak with bubbles, candles and some soft music can be just the thing to soothe the soul. Being mum, it isn’t always possible to have a bath without the interruptions of children. If you have children who go to bed and sleep, that’s awesome, ‘us mums’ who didn’t succeed in that department praise you. However, those who have children who don’t sleep, need to find their quiet time, dare I say, probably even more so …

I’ve known myself to get in the bath at 1.am and onwards … just to feel the soak of the water and relax from a hectic day. I find water relaxing, although, I’m not a lover of swimming I still like to chill in the pool, and my family does like to swim, so we got the best variable speed pool pump to keep our pool clean. I love stepping into the heat of the bath and just knowing that calmness surrounds me. I can’t use my laptop in the bath, I can’t run errands, I can’t be sorting the house out. It stops you from doing the tasks that can feel mundane and can relax your mind so that you can recharge and feel in control again.

2. Go walking

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By going out walking, we all know it’s a great way to keep fit and healthy, but this is a great way to also find your quiet.

I reiterate this throughout my blog posts, walking in the fresh air is a natural and free way to lift your mood. Research has shown that exposing ourselves to fresh air can relieve stress and anxiety. It can affect the serotonin levels released in our bodies, which then leads to feeling happy and relaxed.

Researchers at New Mexico Highlands University (NMHU) found that the foot’s impact during walking sends pressure waves through the arteries that significantly modify and can increase the supply of blood to the brain. (See science daily)

So whether you walk in silence, or with your headphones on, you will feel immensely better after. You can listen to music or, like myself, listen to an audiobook (I use audible, I absolutely love it, a fab product if you love listening to stories).

3. Read

This is another of my favourites. I love reading all kinds of books, from losing myself in someone else’s fictional drama, learning more about the world of spirituality to being inspired by others who have achieved their goals. Whatever your hobbies and interest, you will find a book that will grab your attention.

4. Jigsaw Puzzles

There have been several studies to show that jigsaws are great for improving both mindfulness and brain activity. You can see more about this on Memory Jogging Puzzles.

Jigsaws have been around for centuries, so it’s not something new, but it may be something that someone hasn’t thought to partake in. Especially in the hustle and bustle of adulthood, the last thing we may consider doing is sitting down to put together a jigsaw.

We all know the world is now full of technology; phones, i-pads, tablets etc. but that isn’t finding our quiet time. Set-up a place in your house; kitchen, bedroom, office etc. where you know you can sit down, focus on a jigsaw and relish in some quiet time.

5. Colour Therapy

Colouring has always been popular for children, but when the colouring books came out for adults, I was in my element. I would colour with my girls when they were younger and found it so relaxing. Therefore having our own designs that are created especially for relaxation, I believe, is just one of the best ideas ever.

Natural Health Courses Website say … colour is just light of varying wavelengths and frequencies. Electromagnetic waves constantly surround us, and colour is part of those waves. Every single cell in the body needs light energy. Our cells absorb colour, and this affects us on every level, physically, emotionally and spiritually.

As above, when doing a jigsaw, find a quiet place to sit, chill and colour.

Why not visit my previous blog post on

‘ The Key to a Peaceful Life is a Quiet Mind’

and have a go at the therapeutic writing exercise

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Turn up and say YES! A to Z Inspirational Blog; Y is for Yes with Motivational Quotes and Therapeutic Writing

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This week’s inspirational word

Y is for YES

Let’s take Eckhart Tolle’s quote and say ‘yes’ to life. So, stop what you’re doing, (which is reading this post – and I thank and appreciate you for doing so, it means the world to me that you are taking time out to join me, it truly does) but, let’s just take a second to stop reading and say ‘yes’ to life.

Here’s a little exercise; stand-up, have a little jump about, give yourself a little shake, feel the vibrations running through your hands, legs and feet … then punch the air like you’ve just been told the most exciting news ever. When you punch the air, shout ‘YES!’ Repeat this until you feel the vibes in your body lighting up. Keep shouting, ‘YES!’ until you feel it! Until you feel the shift in your mind and soul. Feel the excitement.

Now, if you’re not feeling the ‘YES!’ If you’re feeling more on the ‘NO!’ side of things, let’s look at this. It’s ok to feel as if there are more ‘Nos’ than ‘Yeses’ in your life, but the key is to not dwell on the ‘Nos’ … the key is to turn the ‘Nos’ into ‘Yeses’, turn these ‘Nos’ into opportunities, see the challenges, take the learning and turn these life curveballs into ‘Yeses’.

You see, whatever your thoughts, the universe is mirroring that right back to you. So, if you see these ‘Nos’ ask yourself, why is this happening? What can I take from this experience? What can I learn? What can I do differently? Believe that this, ‘No’ has happened for a reason so that you can get your ‘Yes’. Believe in that ‘Yes’. Sometimes life is a mini roller-coaster (or a humongous gigantic one) whichever we have to say ‘Yes’ and turn up. Even on those days when we feel it is impossible to say, ‘Yes’.

One of the best ways we can turn our ‘Nos’ into ‘Yeses’ is through gratitude. You’ll have heard me say this before and that’s because it’s true. I turned my own life around by focuses on my ‘Yeses’. Many many many moons ago, before I discovered the Law of Attraction, before I started my spiritual path and before I started surrounding myself with positivity, I was the ‘Mood-Hoover’ you’d want to avoid. Now, don’t get me wrong there was much to be ‘mood-hoovering’ about … Jeez, was there ever! However, when I realised I could change my ‘Nos’ into ‘Yeses’ my life changed.

Once I started to turn up and shout, ‘YES!’ Once I sought the ‘Yeses’ I bought more ‘Yeses’ to me. This is one of the reasons I write my blog, because this stuff works! It really works guys! I want you to have the ‘Yeses’ in your life. I’m drawn to write weekly about inspiring you because I truly believe, I had to have my ‘Nos’ so I could turn them around into ‘Yeses’ and then spread the word that the Law of Attraction is always working, and the universe is always responding …  so if we concentrate on our ‘Nos’ we will get more ‘Nos’ – so turn those ‘Nos’ into ‘Yeses’.

Seek the ‘Yeses’ in life. Say ‘Yes’. Turn up. Because YOU GOT THIS

 

In this week’s therapeutic writing exercise let’s think about your present ‘Yeses’

You may still be in the ‘No’ mode at the moment but truly think about things that are good in your life.

Start by writing a gratitude list.

Take a small gratitude list; write down 20 things you appreciate in your life. When you’ve done this list, say each one aloud, then do the exercise at the beginning of this post; punch the sky and shout ‘YES!’ Do this repeatedly, every morning this week.

FEEL THE POWER OF SAYING YES! When you feel your yeses, you’ll receive more!

Love & happiness to you always

Victoria xx

 

 

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Express Yourself To Feel Alive – A to Z Inspirational Blog; X=Ex is for Express with Express Quotes and Therapeutic Writing

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This week’s inspirational word

X = EX

EX is for EXPRESS

Being a creative person, I love this quote by Kat Von D. I’ve always expressed myself through writing. Even in my younger days, I would write stories to express my feelings about what was happening in my life, especially as a teen. Anyone else, remember those days? Hormones raging, everything in the world seemed against you, restrictions from parents, teachers … I don’t know about you, but my teenage years were just a battlefield! Battlefield of emotions, feelings and trying to understand the world … I had a lot of whys that couldn’t be answered … But to release all that pent-up frustration, I would write.

I would write in my diary, but I always found it easier and more comfortable to write in fictional form. I loved (and still love) creating stories but basing them on real-life events. I love expressing myself through writing. I express myself through writing these blog posts and my fiction. We all have a reason for being here, our reason is our passion … our passion is a way of expressing ourselves.

So ask yourself, how are you expressing yourself? Are you expressing yourself? Are you keeping yourself hidden and feeling trapped because you are not allowing yourself the freedom to express?

Once you start to express yourself through a creative source or other, express to rid yourself of negative demons and then you’ll feel more love.

If you are expressing yourself from your truth, from your inner being, from your soul, you can’t help but feel more love. Letting go and expressing yourself is allowing yourself to feel free, allowing yourself to enjoy life and be you! Once you are ‘being you’, you’ll feel lighter, you’ll feel more love for yourself. Feeling love for yourself helps to radiate that love onto others. Once you are expressing from a place of love. You’ll feel peace.

This all sounds lovely, I understand, you may think you haven’t got time to express yourself … well, if you are that person thinking this, then you are the person who NEEDS to express themselves the most. Expressing yourself through your inner desires is as good as meditating. Some people feel meditating is sitting, listening to soft music and allowing our thoughts to fade. Unfortunately, this has never worked for me. I have tried, but I find it hard to switch off. I always have some project or idea fighting its way forward. I do, however, find putting on more upbeat music, something that I can dance too or calmer music I can sing to does help to clear my thoughts. Gabrielle Bernstein has some amazing meditation music, advice and tips.

But the best way for me to clear my thoughts is through writing. Pen on paper, not thinking, just writing … hence, another reason I set-up this blog; to show others how to use therapeutic writing to help them reach their goals, dreams and desires. Free writing is a way of expressing yourself without thinking about what you are writing. Simply write. It’s a great way to express yourself and get all those emotions out.

Your thing may not be writing … but you will have a way of expressing yourself … don’t shy away from that. Get out there and get expressing. The world needs you to express. You need you to express yourself.

In this week’s exercise, we are going to put the therapeutic writing to the side … unless that is the way you express yourself.

As I mentioned above, writing may not be your ‘thing’, so this week sit for five minutes and think about what you love.

Ask yourself …

What do I love doing? What makes me feel alive? What makes me feel like I’m talking from my soul? How can I express myself?

Now go and do it … this week, go and express yourself … Remember, YOU GOT THIS!

Remember: Positive messages throughout the day, helps the negative thoughts stay away.

So be inspired daily with this

free inspirational guide

Love & happiness to you always

Victoria xx