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How writing can be therapy to the soul; Do you have a book inside of you?

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Writing can be therapeutic; as Psychology Today bloggers, Randi Kreger and Rochelle Melander point out, “Many psychological and medical studies have shown that writing about difficulties and dreams helps people experience increased happiness, health, and productivity.”

When we have lots of things going around in our mind, we often can’t sort through them. When the mind feels chaotic, it does affect the body and soul. If you can soothe your soul, the rest will follow.

One of the best ways to do this is through writing. Therapeutic and self-reflective writing are excellent ways to express your emotions. There are many therapeutic exercises on my blog. If you click through the A-Z you’ll find exercises for certain subjects. If you feel you have a blockage in an area of your life, have a look through and see if you can relate to any of the subjects. Have fun doing this, don’t put pressure on yourself. My exercises help to give you an avenue to start expressing yourself. You don’t need to show anyone these writings, you can keep them or throw them away.

If you feel like your head is in the middle of a motorway, then letting all this go onto paper is an amazing release. Research has shown that writing down our thoughts does help to clear our thoughts: it can help put things into perspective, see things more clearly and prioritise. The latter isn’t saying some thoughts don’t matter, however, there could be thoughts that are murking the waters.

For example, are you worried about the outcome of a situation? Are you stressing about things that haven’t happened yet? If this is the case, when you’re releasing these thoughts, write about the outcome you desire. Write as if you’ve received this outcome. Imagine the emotions and joy you would feel if you were at peace.

Writing is very powerful, many authors have created fictional stories through their own life experiences. When I was studying for my MA in Creative Writing, the saying, ‘Write what you know’, was used quite often. You can read more about, ‘Writing what you know,’ by Joanna Penn here. (It is one of her older posts, however, it is still very useful in terms of how authors bring personal experiences into their writing). My fiction books draw in life experiences, I love turning real-life into fiction, as it can help the reader, especially if they identify with a situation within my books.

Simply putting pen to paper is amazing for your soul. We need to take care of our inner selves so that our outer selves can shine. Don’t worry about spelling, grammar or even if your writing makes sense … just write and get those thoughts, emotions and experiences down on paper.

There is probably a book deep inside of you.

You can see my previous blog post on following your soul here

 

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When the world is feeling loud … how can you get some quiet?

Embracing your time alone is good for the mind, soul and heart. Solitude is a great way to recharge your internal batteries. The world can often be busy and chaotic, we can be running from one place to another and not really taking concentrated time to be quiet; to just sit and breathe.

Research has shown that quiet-time relieves stress, tension and helps to boost a person’s mental state. Too much time alone can have an opposite effect, however, on a day-to-day basis when life is full of schedules, deadlines, places to be, things to do, it’s very important to find time to be and relish in quiet.

As a parent, I understand the limited ‘quiet time’ available, however, I have to ensure I do have quiet time, whether this is just 5-10 minutes before bed, or before the craziness starts on a morning, but I know it makes me a better parent. I know it gives me time to focus, re-adjust and feel gratitude.

Researchers have said that meditation is so important, however, many people find it hard to connect with their inner selves. There are many meditation downloads you can choose from that will help you find your inner peace, however, if you prefer to be a bit more active here are 5 ways to enjoy some quiet time and switch off from your hectic world:

1. Bath with candles – either quietly or listening to some soft music

I love baths. A hot soak with bubbles, candles and some soft music can be just the thing to soothe the soul. Being mum, it isn’t always possible to have a bath without the interruptions of children. If you have children who go to bed and sleep, that’s awesome, ‘us mums’ who didn’t succeed in that department praise you. However, those who have children who don’t sleep, need to find their quiet time, dare I say, probably even more so …

I’ve known myself to get in the bath at 1.am and onwards … just to feel the soak of the water and relax from a hectic day. I find water relaxing, although, I’m not a lover of swimming I still like to chill in the pool, and my family does like to swim, so we got the best variable speed pool pump to keep our pool clean. I love stepping into the heat of the bath and just knowing that calmness surrounds me. I can’t use my laptop in the bath, I can’t run errands, I can’t be sorting the house out. It stops you from doing the tasks that can feel mundane and can relax your mind so that you can recharge and feel in control again.

2. Go walking

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By going out walking, we all know it’s a great way to keep fit and healthy, but this is a great way to also find your quiet.

I reiterate this throughout my blog posts, walking in the fresh air is a natural and free way to lift your mood. Research has shown that exposing ourselves to fresh air can relieve stress and anxiety. It can affect the serotonin levels released in our bodies, which then leads to feeling happy and relaxed.

Researchers at New Mexico Highlands University (NMHU) found that the foot’s impact during walking sends pressure waves through the arteries that significantly modify and can increase the supply of blood to the brain. (See science daily)

So whether you walk in silence, or with your headphones on, you will feel immensely better after. You can listen to music or, like myself, listen to an audiobook (I use audible, I absolutely love it, a fab product if you love listening to stories).

3. Read

This is another of my favourites. I love reading all kinds of books, from losing myself in someone else’s fictional drama, learning more about the world of spirituality to being inspired by others who have achieved their goals. Whatever your hobbies and interest, you will find a book that will grab your attention.

4. Jigsaw Puzzles

There have been several studies to show that jigsaws are great for improving both mindfulness and brain activity. You can see more about this on Memory Jogging Puzzles.

Jigsaws have been around for centuries, so it’s not something new, but it may be something that someone hasn’t thought to partake in. Especially in the hustle and bustle of adulthood, the last thing we may consider doing is sitting down to put together a jigsaw.

We all know the world is now full of technology; phones, i-pads, tablets etc. but that isn’t finding our quiet time. Set-up a place in your house; kitchen, bedroom, office etc. where you know you can sit down, focus on a jigsaw and relish in some quiet time.

5. Colour Therapy

Colouring has always been popular for children, but when the colouring books came out for adults, I was in my element. I would colour with my girls when they were younger and found it so relaxing. Therefore having our own designs that are created especially for relaxation, I believe, is just one of the best ideas ever.

Natural Health Courses Website say … colour is just light of varying wavelengths and frequencies. Electromagnetic waves constantly surround us, and colour is part of those waves. Every single cell in the body needs light energy. Our cells absorb colour, and this affects us on every level, physically, emotionally and spiritually.

As above, when doing a jigsaw, find a quiet place to sit, chill and colour.

Why not visit my previous blog post on

‘ The Key to a Peaceful Life is a Quiet Mind’

and have a go at the therapeutic writing exercise

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Awesome Quotes To Help You Think From Your Heart & Soul

Do you let your heart or your head rule?

Often we let our heads rule over our hearts. We analysis situations, we judge, we criticise … we overthink.

Once you become more aligned with your spiritual being you will find it easier to follow your heart. Imagine your heart is coming from a place of love, passion & purpose and then imagine your head is coming from a place of fear.

This is a dramatic way to look at life and I understand that it really isn’t that simple, however, if you can simplify it then you’ll see how your life is meant to be full of love. Imagine coming from a place of love and light. Imagine following your heart and knowing that everything will fall into place. By listening to your fear, you are listening to what is known as the ego.

Once you learn to listen to your heart, come from only a place of love, you will feel so fulfilled that your ego won’t be able to push you away from the things you love.

If you’d like to more about listening to your heart & not your ego, you can read the previous blog here on how to live with a grateful & loving heart

This week’s update to my Etsy shop is fabulous heart quotes.

Remember to surround yourself with positivity to keep the negative thoughts away.

Often we think with our heads, we over-analyse, we judge, we criticise and we don’t come from a place of love. So to remind yourself to come from a place of love, surround yourself with positivity. There are plenty of other quotes on my shop to help keep these loving thoughts at the forefront of your mind.

‘Positive messages throughout the day, help to keep the negative thoughts away’

Love & happiness to you always

Victoria xx

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Follow Your Soul And Live A Divine Life – A to Z Inspirational Blog; S is for Soul with Soul Quotes and Therapeutic Writing

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This week’s inspirational word

S IS FOR SOUL

I love this quote by Marianne Williamson. Our souls have travelled through many lives. The body in which we live is simply the home for our soul. Our soul represents who we truly are. If you have an interest in something, you will more than likely find this interest relates to a past life interest, because it is our soul that holds our passions. Regression is a hypnotic state that can connect your soul to your previous lives. This may all sound far-fetched to those who are not spiritual or religious believers, however, there are certain things in life we are scared of but we’re not sure why, or things we are drawn to. These are usually linked to our past lives. There is a TV programme called, The Ghost Inside My Child, which features children who remember their past lives. Some of the children could describe in-depth details about their previous life. Some parents researched their child’s claims, such as names and events, and found evidence that what their child was telling them, was true.

Dr Wayne Dyer’s book, Memories of Heaven, is a collection of stories from children who remember their past lives. It’s a brilliant and intriguing read. After reading this I wanted to talk to as many children as I could to try and see if they could remember anything. As babies, our soul starts the life journey again, but because our souls haven’t been trained into the conformity of society, as babies, we are open. It’s only as we grow that we are influenced by society and our minds shut-off from miracles and magic … shut-off from the prospect that we are much bigger than ourselves. That we are one.

Sometimes we are drawn to certain people. We hear the term, ‘soulmate’, usually referred to when lovers meet, however, I believe we have a few soulmates that extend beyond the ‘lover relationship’, it could be family members, friends or people who we meet in passing who have been in our previous lives and were needed for a short amount of time in this life. Others join us in this life early on and stay with us. Whoever we meet, we decide this before our soul arrives here. Just as our soul drives us towards our passions, which is also a decided and known factor before we arrive here on this physical plane.

So imagine that all you needed to focus on was your soul’s desire. Where would your soul take you? What would make you jump out of bed every morning? What are your passions, dreams, goals etc.? These are the things your soul wants you to do. Some of it may not be easy to achieve, in fact, it may seem impossible, but you have that urge and desire for a reason … it’s your soul’s reason for being. It’s the reason your soul chose this life. There are always reasons behind something happening. I’m not a believer in coincidences, I believe we are put in certain situations through the divine, angels and universe to bring our attention to certain things. Often as a wake-up call … to get us to think about our journey. If something happens that seems like a coincidence, we may talk about it with friends and speculate how weird it is. This is us trying to understand the universe at work, something has our attention and for good reason, it’s our job to figure out what that reason is.

When we arrive on this physical plane, Earth, we already have ambitions of the life we will fulfil, the world is an open book and we arrive with every intention of making this life mean something. As mentioned above, as we grow this is often forgotten as we fit into the mould that is expected of us, but it’s never too late to break that mould. It’s never too late to listen to your soul, listen to the universe, listen to the angels, they will be constantly trying to guide you in the right direction, but it’s up to you to listen and watch out for the signs.

God gave us free will, so we can make choices about the life we want to live while we are here. But what will make you happier and more content than you can imagine is following your soul’s desire. Your purpose. Your passion. Anyone who listens to the divine within will live a happier, more fulfilled life.

In this week’s therapeutic writing exercise let’s discover your soul’s purpose …

Before we do any free writing, I’d like you to sit quietly for 5 or 10 minutes. While you are sitting quietly try to connect with your soul. This means going deep into yourself, understanding what it is you are doing here, what is your soul telling you … ask yourself, why are you here? What’s your purpose … you will have one.

Once you feel you have connected, write down what you were feeling, don’t think about it, just free write these feelings down. Just express yourself freely and allow your soul to come forward. Allow yourself the freedom to listen to your heart. Where is it taking you? Are you fulfilling your purpose? If not, what can you do to fulfil that purpose? What changes can you make? What steps can you put in place so you can follow your soul purpose?

 

Remember: Positive messages throughout the day, helps the negative thoughts stay away.

So be inspired daily with this

free inspirational guide

Love & happiness to you always

Victoria xx

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Become A More Radiant You; A to Z Inspirational Blog; R is for Radiance with Radiance Quotes and Therapeutic Writing

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This week’s inspirational word

R IS FOR RADIANCE

Do you know anyone who pours with radiance? Is there anyone who sticks in your mind as a positive, happy person who always looks on the bright side life? Wouldn’t you like to be that person? Wouldn’t you like to be the person who shines so bright, people need sunglasses on to talk to you. I joke … but think about it … how wonderful it would be to be the person who makes others feel great.

People who are radiant aren’t the most attractive, most beautiful on the outside … radiance doesn’t come from outer appearance, it comes from within. The most attractive and beautiful people are those who are radiant from the inside. People who share their inner radiance with others. They spread it around like glitter, their sparkle is left upon others when they leave their company.

So this may all sound fluffy and a bit far-fetched, but think about it … there are people who you will meet and they are always happy. They are always radiant and positive. What we need to understand is, these people have chosen this radiance, no matter what has happened in their life, they have chosen to be positive and spread their joy. Just because they are loving, caring and happy people, it doesn’t mean they haven’t been through any adversity, it means they have chosen to look on the bright side of life. They have chosen to live through love and gratefulness.

Audrey Hepburn, an amazing soul, once said, ‘True beauty in a woman is reflected in her soul. It’s the caring that she lovingly gives, the passion that she shows.’ Here, she is talking about a woman’s radiance. Those that come from a place of love show their radiance through their actions. This doesn’t just go for women obviously, men too can be radiant. Personality and character are the things people remember. The way you made someone feel is what they will remember about you, whether you’re a man or a woman … you will be remembered for your presence.

Do you want to be remembered as the person who always had problems or the mood-hoover who sucks the life out of people with your negativity? I truly hope not … I truly hope you want to be remembered as the person who gives always, always comes from a place of love, the person people like to be around … the person that when people leave your company, they feel warm, light and refreshed.

How do you become more radiant? Again, I go back to basics, start with your gratitude list. Your gratitude list gives you a reason to be happy. Focus on what is important in your life, what do you appreciate? What makes your life amazing? What makes you happy? When you focus on the good in life, you can’t help but become more radiant. Your joy will seep through and it is your job to spread this joy. It is your job to soak up your radiance and sprinkle it around.

In this week’s therapeutic writing exercise imagine you a bright light that inspires others.

You are shining from within, your glow is contagious, you spread love, joy and happiness wherever you go. People want to be like you. You inspire people. You are the person that makes people feel wonderful when they’ve left your company …

Free-write about how this feels. How would it feel to make people feel like they too can shine within? They too can be as radiant as you? This exercise is about feeling that joy from within, this exercise is about feelings … how wonderful it would be to spread your radiance. Feel it … and write about it.

Remember: Positive messages throughout the day, helps the negative thoughts stay away.

So be inspired daily with this

free inspirational guide.

Love & happiness to you always

Victoria xx

 

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The Key To A Peaceful Life Is A Quiet Mind – A to Z Inspirational Blog; Q is for Quiet with Quiet Quotes and Therapeutic Writing

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This week’s inspirational word

Q IS FOR QUIET

Last week I talked about finding your inner peace. That can be quite difficult to do when you can’t quiet your mind. So we talked about meditation last week and how meditation is a great way to find your peace. I hope you found a way to meditate that suits you. Sometimes we just need to quiet our minds from our busy lives, meditation is a great way to do this. We may have found our inner peace, but this doesn’t mean that our minds are always quiet. So in those moments, it is best to take time out to find your quietness.

You may feel you don’t have time to take time out. But you’ll be amazed at how taking half an hour, or even fifteen minutes to re-adjust your thoughts, can lead to a more productive life. When we are in the midst of our busy lives, we often think if we just keep going, if we work our backsides off then we are living up to the standards of our modern world. I remember when I use to arrive at work for 7.30am, I would often skip my lunch break to fulfil tasks and would usually be one of the last to leave … was I happy? Hell, NO! Firstly, I didn’t like my job because I wasn’t fulfilling my passion. I thought the harder I worked, I’d more likely be promoted … however, this was a time before I was introduced to the Law of Attraction. I wasn’t even sure I wanted to be promoted, as I hated the job. I was so negative about everything and I was so tired on a night, I couldn’t think happy quiet thoughts. I was miserable. That misery was projected in the workplace and to the universe … so guess what, guys … I received more misery. I didn’t get promoted and had a ‘woe is me’ attitude to life. I look back and could give my younger self a little slap! In a loving way of course.

Now, I’ve followed my passion, that’s not saying it’s been easy, but I followed my gut instinct, I’ve listened to where I feel the angels and God need me to serve. I watched my life unfold as I’ve changed my thoughts. My quiet mind has helped me to progress in life in ways I never thought imaginable. I do have an over-active mind, but that’s because I want to do so much in this lifetime. I get excited about life. I want you to be excited about life. You can do this when you have a quiet mind.

One of my favourite ways to quiet my mind is walking. Especially walking in the countryside, across the hills and exploring. There’s nothing better than breathing in fresh air, taking in our glorious nature and being part of the wonderful views. It’s one of the most exhilarating experiences. It’s one of the best ways to listen to your thoughts.

Walking in the hills may not be ‘your thing’, or maybe you live in a place that doesn’t have quick access to hills and mountains to climb, but it’s important to find something that is ‘your thing’. It’s important to relax so you can move forward. We live in a world that is full of busy. Busy lives. Busy people. Busy. Busy. Busy. You’ll hear people saying, ‘I haven’t got time to meditate, relax or walk amongst the glorious heather …’ I jest, but you get the picture … people don’t have time to quieten their minds. These are the people that need it the most. These are the people who need to find their quiet.

People don’t realise that stopping and relaxing, to find their quiet and inner peace, will help to bring them more joy. Getting off the treadmill of life is the best therapy. Stepping off for a while is not only great to quiet the mind, it is essential for your soul. It is essential to keep refreshed. Once you have stepped away from the hustle and bustle, once you step back into it, you’ll become more productive. Taking time out is essential in moving forward. A quiet and peaceful mind leads to a quiet and peaceful body which in turn leads to a quiet and peaceful soul.

In this week’s therapeutic writing exercise free-write about all the things that are keeping your mind loud.

I realise this could come across as a negative exercise, but actually, sometimes we need to empty our minds of all the ‘stuff’ that is swirling around. This is a great way to empty your head. This writing exercise can actually help to quieten your mind. This could be something you could do daily. This is why many people write diaries and journals, as it helps to get it out of the mind onto paper.

In this exercise, you can write about your to-do list, your worries, the things that keep you awake at night … empty your mind onto paper … anything that will help to quiet your mind.

If it helps, meditate before this exercise or sit somewhere quiet before emptying your thoughts onto paper.

Remember: Positive messages throughout the day, helps the negative thoughts stay away.

So be inspired daily with this

free inspirational guide.

Love & happiness to you always

Victoria xx

 

 

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How To Find Your Inner Peace – A to Z Inspirational Blog; P is for Peace with Peace Quotes and Therapeutic Writing

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This week’s inspirational word

P IS FOR PEACE

 

This is another of my favourite words. I know, I have many favourite words … but just say the word, ‘peace’.

Peace.

The word itself conjures up so much meaning; tranquillity, quiet, stillness, calm, restful, freedom … if you breathe the word quietly when you’re alone you can almost feel the air around you change.

However, the less inner peace you have, the harder it will be to have outer peace. So breathing the word ‘Peace’ quietly may not have such an impact on you, if your mind is skating around. If the hustle and bustle of life is taking over your thoughts and taking over your being, then you are going to struggle with peace.

Peace is something that you become. It can take practice to become peaceful, but if you can achieve it, it is one of the best feelings in the world, because no matter what is going on around you, you’ll have the ability to stay calm and self-assured. Being at peace means you don’t entertain the negative impact others could have in your life, you override these thoughts because your inner peace is so deep, so pure that others can’t have an effect on you. Yes, you may feel a little sting, that’s natural if you feel you’re being judged or criticised, but if you’re always coming from a place of love, you are not one to judge and criticise others, then you will bounce back quicker. You want to be able to get to a point in your life, where you are hardly ever faced with negativity because you send out so much love, that all you receive back is love. Any negativity is like hitting a shield and the odd comment may burn through the shield but you can easily let it go. When you are at this point, you know the true meaning of inner peace.

How easy is it to become peaceful? Personally, I believe it’s easy if you can live from a place of love. Love for yourself and love for others. Living a life of non-judgement and gratefulness is definitely the way to start. As I always suggest, start by writing your gratitude list. This is one of the most effective ways to come from a place of love.

Some of our most famous inspirational leaders found inner peace through meditation. You may think of meditation as sitting quietly, many people who have busy lives find this hard. I most certainly did when I was first introduced to it and to be honest, it’s not my favourite way to meditate. I find Gabrielle Bernstein’s way of mediating the most effective. Her music is perfect. Sometimes it’s just about putting music on and doing nothing. You’ll be amazed at how productive you feel after.

If you’re not feeling at peace with yourself, ask yourself, what can you do to change this? What can you do about it? If changes need to be made for you to find peace, then make these changes. It may take time to make the changes, but it’s about choices. You must choose to find your peace. Our time here is precious. We must appreciate that we are more than ourselves. We serve a bigger purpose than ourselves. When you follow your passion, when you follow your heart, you will find your soul purpose … this in itself will lead to inner peace. Come from a place of love and watch your world change.

In this week’s therapeutic writing exercise think about your world when you have inner peace.

Firstly before any writing, try to meditate. As I said, I recommend Gabrielle Berstein, you can pick up her free guided meditation on her website. Once you have participated in meditation that suits you, (you may need to experiment), if you’re not keen on Gabrielle’s methods, there are plenty of others you can research and try.

Once you have done this, then write. Freewrite about what you feel when you have inner peace. Concentrate on the feeling inside, not the material things in life, the feelings that come from within. Once you have these feelings conquered your outer world will fall into place.

Remember: Positive messages throughout the day, helps the negative thoughts stay away.

So be inspired daily with this

free inspirational guide.

 

Love & happiness to you always

Victoria xx

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Seek All Opportunities As They Can Lead To An Amazing Life: A to Z Inspirational Blog; O is for Opportunity with Opportunity Quotes and Therapeutic Writing

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This week’s inspirational word

O IS FOR OPPORTUNITY

 

You may have heard 101 quotes about taking the opportunities that are presented to you. I’ve included a few in this blog post. You may feel they are cliche … However, if you are to look throughout your life and think about the coincidences, the decisions, the circumstances or situations that may have been put upon you, you could easily understand how certain opportunities may have arisen from these life events.

This may not make much sense to you at the moment? But often an opportunity will arise when we need it. Sometimes we don’t see opportunities as the opportunities that they are, sometimes we see them as a hindrance. If your gut is telling you that’s not your path, that is fine, you know in your heart your purpose. Sometimes opportunities are presented so we can see what we ‘don’t’ want. If we’re thinking about what we ‘don’t’ want, we are attracting this to us, however, this is a great way to self-analyse and channel your thoughts into what you do want, so the universe can present you with sought-after opportunities. Even if this opportunity is presented as a difficulty, be the person who wants to make a change in your life and grab it with both hands, as a difficulty and a challenge could lead you to the wonderful life you deserve.

If opportunities do arise it means we have to think. We have to truly think about what we want. I truly believe opportunities will arise to test you, this isn’t God or the angels playing games, this is simply them guiding you to your purpose. So if an opportunity arises and you feel it is not right for you, it probably isn’t. However, there will be opportunities that you may have passed quickly and decided they weren’t for you, when in fact they may have guided you down the right path. Do not despair … these opportunities will come round again in a different form. Another gateway, another avenue … you have a purpose, it needs fulfilling, you will be guided down this route until you believe it. You must believe it.

Believing in yourself, your purpose, your reason for being … opportunities will be gifted to you. So don’t dismiss an opportunity because it doesn’t look like something you want, it could easily be an avenue into something that you do want. So look closely and make it work for you.

 

In this week’s therapeutic writing exercise think about opportunities you wish to arise in the future.

Here, I could have asked you to look at opportunities that you have missed that you wished you hadn’t, however, this focuses on the negative. It is hard to turn that missed opportunity into a positive, because it may not come around again in the same form. It will come back around again, if it’s meant to be, just on a different path, in a different way. So this week, ask yourself if you could have an opportunity to arise, what would it be?

Write it down …

Now write about the positive impact this opportunity would have on your life. Keep writing until you feel the desire for this opportunity so bad, you will make the universe create it for you … the universe is listening … it is ready to deliver when you are ready to receive.

Remember: Positive messages throughout the day, helps the negative thoughts stay away.

So be inspired daily with this

free inspirational guide.

Love & happiness to you always

Victoria xx