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10 Ways To Nourish Your Mind

Are you nourishing your mind?

In my last blog post on N is for Nourish, I talked about the importance of nourishing the mind. So this week, I thought I’d talk about ways in which you CAN nourish your mind.

When your mind is nourished, your body and soul will follow. Having a healthy mind is the first steps to having a healthy body & soul. Looking after your mind’s wellbeing is the key to living a happy life.

So here are some ways you can give your mind some TLC:

1.GO FOR A WALK

This is one of my favourites. Getting some fresh air is a great way to feel refreshed because it provides energy and the oxygen intake allows us to feel better. So a twenty-minute walk a day can really help to fight negative emotions, feelings and thoughts.

2. READ / LISTEN TO AUDIO BOOKS

Being a writer, I’m an avid reading. As much as I love fiction, I also love spiritual, inspirational and motivational books. Books that really help me grow and connect with my inner-self & guides. So if I am walking, I will stick on my headphones and listen to books about angels, past-lives, soul-development, living with passion etc. Being certified in the Law of Attraction, I practice mindfulness daily. It truly is important to keep our thoughts positive. When our minds are fresh and in a good place, as the Law of Attraction tells us, we’ll attract good things to us.

3. READ POSITIVE MESSAGES/QUOTES & AFFIRMATIONS

You will find endless positivity on my blog and my shop. When times were at their worst; I was pregnant with our second child, living at my in-laws (because my ex-husband’s business had taken a downward slope practically overnight), we had no idea when we would be able to afford to move out … it was all a bit of a mess! My own family weren’t around to support and it was a very hard time. However, it was at this point in my life when I started to collect inspirational quotes. I would write them down onto a spreadsheet and I couldn’t believe how much it helped.

I realised I had so much to be grateful for. I was pregnant with our 2nd child, how could I not be relishing in this love. We were so lucky that we didn’t need treatment, that I fell pregnant so easily (trust me, if anyone knows anything about depression and sex-drive, you’ll get that we were VERY lucky to fall pregnant so easily!). I was extremely grateful for that. We had a roof over our heads and my in-laws were so lovely, they really looked after us.

So once, I started to look at life from a gratitude point of view, my world changed. It wasn’t long before my husband got a business opportunity and we moved into a 2-bedroomed house, which we rented, but I was so grateful that we had the opportunity to move our life forward & not look at the negative. Since then, I read positive quotes & affirmations daily & I create my own. Hence the reason I set-up my online shop, as I feel it is important to surround yourself with reminders that you do have so much love to give and so much to be grateful for. You can also download my free inspirational messages book, which will show you how to make your own inspirational box.

4. WRITE DOWN POSITIVE MESSAGES/QUOTES & AFFIRMATIONS

As above, it’s just as important to write down quotes & affirmations. I think this really helped me. Just putting them into a spreadsheet. I wasn’t sure what I was going to do with them, but it truly helped. I did eventually make them into ‘annual quote a day’ books, and the process truly helped. It still does now. I’m a true believer this really works. In fact, my own quote is:

‘Positive messages throughout the day help to keep the negative thoughts away.’

You don’t need to use a spreadsheet, you can use a notebook or something that will inspire you. Buy a blackboard or a noticeboard and write down an affirmation/quote for the day. This will help the whole family come from a place of love and believe in themselves. Perfect for inspiring children. Just like the downloadable inspirational quotes will help to lift our children so that they become well-rounded adults who believe in themselves.

5. THERAPEUTIC WRITING

Now, this is my thing! Being an author, of course, I love writing and I love writing my inspirational blog, so I’m bound to say writing helps. But it’s actually a renowned form of therapy. It’s a great way to explore your emotions. The best way is to simply write, without thinking about WHAT you are writing. Just write. It’s like allowing your mind to be released of any pent-up frustrations. The best of it is, with therapeutic writing, you don’t need to be the best writer, best speller or know your grammar, because that’s not what it is about. It’s about writing for you and releasing toxic thoughts.

You will find writing prompts in my A-Z positive word blog.

Just pick a letter you’d like to work on, read the quotes and have a go at the exercise.

I found it also helps, that once my thoughts have been released, is to then think about what I want from a situation, so I write a ‘fantasy page’, I put out my desires to the universe but on paper, as if I’ve already received them, as if my desires have already happened and how that makes me feel. The thing with the Law of Attraction is, people struggle with imagination, so by writing down how something would make you feel, it’s easier to imagine it. It’s not only a great way to release, but it’s a great way to bring joy into your life. Experts at League City Integrative Counseling and Wellness will offer you guidance and expert advice.

6. LISTEN TO MUSIC / MEDITATE

When many people hear the word meditation, they believe that they can’t meditate, because they can’t sit still for five minutes and think of nothing. Admittedly, I found this a struggle at first, but after trying guided meditations I soon learned how to meditate alone. However, I found that music can be a huge avenue to relaxation, I found this out when I went to a Gabrielle Bernstein seminar. She played, ‘Titanium’ by Madilyn Bailey, she asked us all to stand up, close our eyes, put our hands in the air and feel the music … even as I write this I get shivers.

The feeling of joy and calmness filled my body. Since then, I truly listen to the music. I truly listen to the words and feel the music. A great way to listen to music is when you are out walking or when you are in the car (obviously not to close your eyes, but to feel it) … my girls and I are always blasting music and singing at the top of our voices. They had a friend in the car just yesterday, we blasted some music, we sang, we got our groove on … her friend said, ‘I never want to leave this car.’ It’s amazing how much a good sing-song can release those endorphins … so choose some of your favourite songs and get blasting those vocal cords.

7. START A PROJECT OF LOVE

Do something you love. This could be a scrapbook of a holiday, party or significant life event. Put aside some time to create something. If you’re not a creative person, do something that makes you happy. A passion project that will have you excited.

8. DECLUTTER / MAKE SPACE

This is kind of a given in the world of feng-shui. Clutter and mess can cause disorganisation. Now, I always say I have an ‘organised mess’ because I know where everything is, however, I have to admit I do work better when I’m not surrounded by wildness (I don’t mean nature, although, often feels like I’m sat in the middle of a zoo). There’s a wonderful feeling when you clear out the clutter that is causing your mind to feel like a chaotic roundabout. So book a day in your diary and clear out those cupboards … you may have things you can give to charity or for a car boot sale, whichever, you will feel such a calming release once you are decluttered.

9. INDULGE IN A CROSSWORD/WORDSEARCH/SUDOKU/JIGSAW PUZZLE

This to some people may sound extremely boring, but trust me, these activities truly work. Find something that you’re interested in, even sitting down to a colour therapy book is a great way to switch off, because your mind is concentrating on the task at hand, so other worries can be pushed to the back of your mind.

10. LIMIT TECHNOLOGY TIME

In this day and age, this last one is like swearing at people. How on earth did we live without such technology? When I was a teenager, I remember sitting on the stairs to use the house phone and making sure my sister didn’t pick up the other phone to listen in on our conversation. How times have changed? Don’t get me wrong … I do love the way technology has moved on and things we can do today are amazing, it makes running a business much easier: I can sit in my car on the school run and work on my phone – however, there comes a point when it’s too much. One of the sayings we’ve used as a family is, ‘When in the room, be in the room!’ This means, engage with each other. Make time for each other. Listen to each other. Spend time without our heads in any kind of technological device.

You can read more about nourishing the mind on my previous post;

have a go at the therapeutic writing exercise

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Control Your Mind, Don’t Let It Control You – A to Z Inspirational Blog; M is for Mind with Mind Quotes and Therapeutic Writing

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This week’s inspirational word

M IS FOR MIND

Your mind is one of the most powerful tools … have you heard the saying, ‘Your mind is playing tricks on you!’?

What does this actually means?

It usually refers to a time when we are tired or not thinking clearly and the mind starts running away with itself. Have you ever convinced yourself of something that isn’t true? I’m all for gut instinct, as we have it for a reason, however, there are times when our mind decides to wander into depths of the unknown, that unknown becomes real to us, to a point we convince ourselves that this is our belief. For example; we convince ourselves we’re not good enough, that people don’t like us, that we are not worthy! Sound familiar?

This is why mindfulness is important. Mindfulness is somewhat a new buzz word, that actually has been going on for centuries, however, mindfulness is very important to our well-being; mentally, physically and emotionally.

If we can convince ourselves of our unworthiness, we sure as hell can convince ourselves of our worthiness. No-one is more important than you and you are no more important than anyone else. We all exist on this physical plane together, if we encouraged, supported and lived as one, the world would be a better place. Now you may have some kind of passion that you feel you can’t quite muster up the courage to fulfil, you’re worried about what people will say, you’re worried you will be judged, now this little voice is your ego. Your ego will convince you that you are no good at these given talents … because that’s what your passion is, ‘your given talents’ – you’ve been given these talents as a gift to give to others.

Now you can either allow your mind to listen to your ego, which may have been influenced by those around you; not giving you encouragement or support with your passion. This is very common. Parents, siblings and other family members can be the worse influence, believe it or not, often it is not done out of malice, but from a place of fear. ‘They don’t believe that great things can happen to people like you (them)’. ‘They don’t want you to be disappointed if you fail’. ‘It’s best to go down a safe route’. These statements, like many others, can chip away until you believe them. Until you believe them more than you do your in passion.

My passion is writing, it has been since I was a little girl. I love writing fiction, which you can see more about my women’s fiction here, however, I also have the drive to inspire others through my writing, hence the reason I feel drawn to writing my inspirational blog. I could have centred my blog around writing fiction, I have a MA in Creative Writing, I am qualified to teach others on how to put a story together, but instead, I’m drawn to influencing others through my writing. Encouraging others through my writing. I could easily put together videos because that’s a trend that has taken off immensely, I don’t feel that my purpose is to video myself and talk to you … although, if we met, I’m sure you’d find I sure can talk, but my motivation comes from writing. If I’d listened to others, even my parents, I’d be working in a 9-5 unfulfilling job. I did that until I had my daughters and quite honestly, I found it soul-destroying.

I knew I had to follow my passion. I also know I have to encourage others to follow theirs. There are far too many nay-sayers in the world. People who believe we are here to pay our bills and just get on. We are not. We are here to fulfil a purpose. So let your mind wander, let your mind take over, let your mind take you in the direction of your dreams.

If you’re a creative person who needs freedom, you’ll understand where I’m coming from with feeling soul-destroyed because of rules and regulations. You feel restricted. Now, this is because you have a purpose that needs fulfilling. One of the main reasons you are not fulfilling this purpose is because your mind has convinced you that you are not worthy. But if you have that urge or desire then grab it and don’t listen to anyone around you who brings you down, or doesn’t allow you to fulfil your potential. Even if it’s a loved one. This is their fear, don’t allow it to be yours.

So, it’s time to start practising mindfulness and ensure our mind has our back … our mind doesn’t want to rule against us, our mind wants to ensure we fulfil our destiny. It’s the ego that chips away. So let’s get ignoring that ego and focus on nurturing our mind so we can achieve our dreams.

In this week’s therapeutic writing exercise, let go and write about your passion(s);

However, before you start free-writing, take 10-15 minutes out to just breathe. Sit in silence and breathe. If you have children, I understand you’ll be thinking, ’10-15 minutes to breathe, that would be nice’, I get that, but I urge you to do this … and try not to fall asleep!

Once you’ve breathed deeply for 10-15 minutes, write …

Write about your passion. If you could fulfil your purpose what do you think it would be? What do you think you’re here to do?

Write until you feel the need to stop. Get your thoughts out on paper. You are here to fulfil this passion. You have a purpose. Convince your mind of this and ignore the ego.

I realise many of the exercises throughout this blog is to write about what you want to achieve in life, but once you start understanding and reiterating this, you will soon find yourself pushing yourself towards your dreams. Your mind will start focusing on the positives. Positives lead to more energy. Energies lead to greater mindfulness.

Remember: Positive messages throughout the day, helps the negative thoughts stay away.

So be inspired daily with this

free inspirational guide.

Love & happiness to you always

Victoria xx

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Ways To Laugh More; A to Z Inspirational Blog; L is for Laughter with Laughter Quotes and Therapeutic Writing

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This week’s inspirational word

L IS FOR LAUGHTER

You’ll have heard the saying, ‘Laughter is the best form of medicine’ … if not, read this awesome health article.

Science says: Laughter decreases stress hormones and increases immune cells and infection-fighting antibodies, thus improving your resistance to disease. Laughter triggers the release of endorphins, the body’s natural feel-good chemicals. Endorphins promote an overall sense of well-being and can even temporarily relieve pain.

For me, laughter is essential in my every day living. Now, admittedly, I do have a wicked sense of humour, so I do find lots of things funny. I laugh at myself, I laugh with my girls, I laugh with my friends. I like to laugh. I’m not quite sure how people get through their days without a dose of laughter.

You may be thinking at this moment, I have nothing to laugh about. There’s always something to laugh about. ALWAYS! Okay, do you find yourself being annoyed when you hear people laughing, because, life just isn’t funny! Why do some people get to have such a good time and you’re feeling down and miserable. How did you get the raw deal?

Ok, this is where we go back to basics … gratitude! Write a list of all things you are grateful for in your life. This will move you slightly out of the heady zone. The zone of self-pity and low self-worth. Really study these things you have in your life, don’t focus on the things that are bringing you down, focus on the good. This is a sure way to start to bring more laughter into your life.

If you are really feeling that laughter is just not happening at the moment, then go for a walk. Walking in the outside air, in nature, is a great way to release endorphins, which will make you feel better which in turn can lead to more laughter.

Even if you’re not feeling the need to laugh, sometimes if we are in a situation that requires us to be polite, fake laughter can lead to real laughter. Try it with just smiling to yourself. Smile to your heart’s content. Smile until it actually does lead to laughter.

We can all find different things funny, I find most things funny, from comedians to practical jokes … I can find myself in situations where I shouldn’t laugh, but I do! They are the worst. But that’s because I don’t take myself or life too seriously. I like laughing. Laughter is good for the soul.

So find something that is bound to make you laugh; there are endless clips on youtube – from babies giggling to harmless pranks. Spend time with people who make you laugh. If you find these people are few and far between, maybe look at picking up some new hobbies, join some groups and meet new people. Friends should be the people we go to in times of sorrow, the shoulder to cry on, but they are also the people you should turn to if you need a good old belly laugh. Once you start to feel happier, you’ll attract happier people into your life, which will lead to more laughter. So start pasting on that smile and attract more smiley people to you.

This week, is not only about therapeutic writing, we are going to take some physical actions;

Firstly, using the free-writing technique, ask yourself these questions;

1/ When was the last time you laughed? Properly laughed … felt it from inside …

2/ Write about a few situations in your life that have made you laugh …

2/ What makes you laugh? Comedy shows, jokes, conversations with friends … there will be certain things in your life that trigger a release of laughter, think about this and write about it.

Secondly, actions …

This week your task is to do something that makes you laugh … really laugh … from the above writing exercise, you will surely find something in your life that truly makes you giggle. Have fun. Get those laughter lines and memories made … once you increase your laughter levels, watch the joy in your life increase.

Remember: Positive messages throughout the day, helps the negative thoughts stay away.

So be inspired daily with this

free inspirational guide.

Love & happiness to you always

Victoria xx

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Karma Is Always Working, Watch, Listen And Learn – A to Z Inspirational Blog; K is for Karma with Karma Quotes and Therapeutic Writing

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This week’s inspirational word

K IS FOR KARMA

Karma … another of my favourite words!

What you give out … you get back. Simple!

Yes, it really is that simple! Once you realise this, you will reap the rewards of an amazing life.

My motto in life is to, ‘Spread and send the love’. My daughters have this motto instilled in their way of life, to a point that even their friends repeat it … At the ages of 11 and 9 years old, they tell people to, ‘Send the love’. Admittedly sometimes they struggle with the concept as they are learning about life and people, but we talk through situations and circumstances to allow them to understand that they can’t change the behaviour of others, they can only choose their own behaviour. They can only choose their own reaction.

This is the thing with karma, many people think it is a punishment or reward, but it is simply a reflection of the life the person is living. Choose happy, loving actions and karma will reflect back a happy, loving life. Just like the ‘Law of Attraction’ – what you put out there, you get back. Karma talks more about your actions, where the Law of Attraction relates to not just actions but to your thoughts too.

We can’t change someone else’s behaviour, so if they hurt us that is their doing and that will be reflected back to them, it’s not our place to reflect it back to them, how we react to that hurt will be reflected back to us. If you seek to spread love rather than cause disruptions in the lives of others, then you will receive that love back. People in your life who do not serve your loving purpose will dwindle away because they are not serving you or your purpose. Unless of course, you keep attracting them back to you! If this is the case, ask yourself why? It could be they need you to show them your loving ways.

We say simple things such as, ‘What you put out there, you get back.’ But when we really look into our life, we don’t understand some behaviours of others, so we judge them … this judging leads to negative thoughts … these negative thoughts lead to negative outcomes. It’s like a little circle that keeps turning. But it is very simple, you just have to believe and live your life with love. Live your life happily, not judging others, letting people live the life they want, while you live the life you want.

Think about how you treat people and see how you feel people treat you. Sometimes it’s hard to analyse ourselves. We can be very judgemental of ourselves but then we can display behaviours that we don’t even realise we possess. Maybe watch the behaviour of others, you may not see some of the karmic energy working in the background, but it will be there. When you start to see these energies working, you will soon get a buzz from being the loving, non-judgemental person you were put here to be.

Now, don’t get me wrong, some people are mood-hoovers, miserable, complainers … there are people out there who like to see others suffer, who relish in the joy of upsetting others or the failures of others. Sometimes these people are in our life as lessons. We need to rise above their negativity and spread out our own positive thoughts and beliefs. Once you stop reacting negatively towards others, even when you are faced with negative people, you will start to attract more positive people into your life. It’s like a little chain reaction. So be joyful and happy for others. Be the person who wants peace in the world. Carry your pure heart and soul and watch karma work for you, not against you.

 In this week’s therapeutic exercise think about the actions you have taken this week, free writing style;

Write about the actions you have taken and how you think these actions have influenced your life?

What has happened recently in your life that you feel you may have influenced by Karma?

What could you change in your life, so that Karma reflects good intentions back to you?

Remember: Positive messages throughout the day, helps the negative thoughts stay away.

So be inspired daily with this

free inspirational guide.

Love & happiness to you always

Victoria xx

 

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Take The Jump And Ignore The Fear; A to Z Inspirational Blog; J is for Jump with Jump Quotes and Therapeutic Writing

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This week’s inspirational word

J IS FOR JUMP

Jumping doesn’t sound like the most inspirational of words, however, the connotation behind it can mean so much more than we can imagine. Let’s look at it from the verb that it is, ‘Jump’ – Give yourself a shake on a morning, stick on some tunes and jump! Yes, if you’ve got kids, get them to join in and jump, dance and shake away all that negativity that may be hanging over you first thing on a morning. Not only is this a great way to start your day, if you do have kids, you’ll be showing them the best way to live their life.Once you’ve jumped around the kitchen in your pj’s, you’ll feel that you can jump into life.

Starting your morning routine with a jump is a great way to increase your energy levels. Increased energy levels will allow you to live life from a positive angle.

Ok, so maybe you don’t have any inclination to jump out of bed on a morning and dance around the kitchen, but on a serious note, you should look at jumping into a life you want and deserve. A leap into your passions, the things that make you tick. If you jump into your life and follow your heart, you’ll want to jump out of bed every morning and dance around the kitchen.

I know, it seems like a catch-22 situation … but you must take the plunge to live a different life, if the life you are leading at the moment isn’t serving you. You must take the jump to make the changes and grow. When you take the leap you have to hold on and fly with it. There’s no point half-heartedly attempting, yes take small steps, but your heart and soul needs to be in it, even if the steps are small, because if the slightest hiccup occurs, you’ll be running the other way fast. Once you start running the other way it’s hard to get back on track. But when you take a jump that fills your body with joy, you will knock down any barriers that come your way.

Sometimes we need an extra push to take a plunge, take a risk or simply live our life. Fear is your ego talking. Telling you not to take the jump. Fear will stop you leading the life you truly deserve. If you listen to your fear, you will allow circumstances, situations and people to get in the way of the life you SHOULD be leading.

Is there something you long to do with your life? Is there a dream you wish to fulfil? Waiting for circumstances to change or be perfect before you take that jump, will inevitably leave you standing still; stuck in the same spot. If you feel an urge to make a change in your life, follow your instincts, follow your gut and make it happen.

Jump into the life you want; the life you deserve – only you can make these changes. If jumping feels scary then do it in stages, take baby steps, because remember the smallest steps count.

In this week’s therapeutic writing exercise, ask yourself these questions; (and then free write for as long as needed)

If I could take one jump in my life, what would it be?

Why would I want to take this jump?

What difference would this jump make to my life?

How would it improve my energy levels?

What can I do to make this jump happen?

Remember: Positive messages throughout the day, helps the negative thoughts stay away.

So be inspired daily with this

free inspirational guide.

Love & happiness to you always

Victoria xx

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Use Your Imagination To Live The Life You Dream About: A to Z Inspirational Blog; I is for Imagination with Imagination Quotes and Therapeutic Writing

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This week’s inspirational word

I IS FOR IMAGINATION

We use logic every day. We live our lives logically. That’s the way the world works. That’s what we’ve had brainwashed into us since we realised all the make-believe playing we did as a child was just that, play! It was us using our imagination to create a whole new world. More than likely you were told that imagination is for children. As we grow out of childhood, the play stops. As teenagers, we want to be just that, ‘teenagers’, we don’t want to labelled immature and childish, so as we grow older we stop using our imaginations as much.

We become adults and more often than not, in the daily routine of life, we forget how to use our imagination. We get caught up in chores, tasks and deadlines, we forget to use our inner child to bring to us what we want from life. We might have children and watch them use their imaginations to play, we feel nostalgic and, maybe a little sad, because we think, if only life could be all imagination and play. As adults, we forget this is one of the key ingredients to living a happier more fulfilled life.

Here she goes again, I hear you saying, with her fluffy view on life … I love it if you did say that. I do have a very fluffy view on life. Proudly so. Life is full of joy and happiness. When I think about how wonderful life is, I feel all marshmallowy inside. I’m warmed by the miracles and magic that have happened in my own life and I know that’s why I have to write these blog posts, to get you to understand the fulfilment you can have in your own life, if you simply imagine it.

As I always tell people, I haven’t always been so bubbly and positive … gosh, in my early twenties, I was probably the biggest mood-hoover roaming the earth! But it is amazing what can happen when you start coming from a place of love, gratitude and joy. Amazing things happen.

The Law of Attraction works. It is always working whether you have positive or negative thoughts, it is working and it is delivering back to you those thoughts. So just imagine, if you could imagine something and make it happen!

Have you heard the saying, ‘Fake it, until you make it’? Think about this, while you’re faking it, you’re imagining living the life you want. So whether you want to run your own business, be healthier or have more ‘me-time’ – if you start to imagine these things are happening. They soon will. It sounds simple. If it is that simple, why isn’t this working for everyone?

The thing is, it is working, but people are not believing either in themselves, their ideas, their imagination or all of these things. So the Law of Attraction is working … if you don’t truly believe in this imaginary world then you’re telling the universe it is imaginary. You’re not allowing yourself to be deserving of this imaginery world. Your imagination is so powerful, but a true core belief has to come with it.

The Law of Attraction works simply; what you think about you attract. So use your imagination to attract the life you want … the life you deserve.

Imagine a life full of laughter, joy and happiness … sit back for five minutes and imagine yourself in this state of euphoria.

Now let’s use this week’s therapeutic writing exercise to help you get there;

Simply use the free-writing technique to answer this question; (just write, don’t stop writing until you have poured out onto the paper the life you wish to imagine).

Question: Write your own story … write a story of bliss, happiness, joy … where are you? What are you doing? What does your life look like?Imagine your best life … what does it look like? Use your senses to imagine this life … what can you see? Hear? Smell? Touch? Taste?

Remember: Positive messages throughout the day, helps the negative thoughts stay away.

So be inspired daily with this

free inspirational guide.

Love & happiness to you always

Victoria xx

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How To Live With A Grateful And Loving Heart When Times Are Hard – A to Z Inspirational Blog; H is for Heart with Heart Quotes and Therapeutic Writing

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This week’s inspirational word

H IS FOR HEART

‘Love’ is one of my favourite words … once you start living a life of love, rather than, jealousy, anger, hatred etc. you realise how wonderful life can be. So opening up your heart and letting the world in, is the greatest gift you can give yourself.

The best way to open your heart is to look at all the things you have to be grateful for. There is so much in your life that you could be taking for granted; your family, your health, your job … Once you start realising how blessed you are, your heart will naturally sore.

Life, for myself, has not always been easy. There have been devastating family fallouts, to a point I didn’t know how to get out of bed on a morning. Over time I’ve learned to live with the situation, as much as I didn’t want to. I’ve learned to forgive even when the other person is no longer around me. I’ve learned that my heart is strong. My giving heart has allowed me to experience other forms of love from friends who have become my family.

Now don’t get me wrong, at one point in my life I felt so alone. You made have heard the saying, ‘there’s a difference between being alone and being lonely.’ You can be in a crowd with thousands of people and still feel lonely. When you have lost that connection with the outside world, your ability to feel with your heart becomes extremely hard. I remember feeling so angry.  This anger didn’t last a day or a week, it lasted for years. It was like a disease inside of me, I couldn’t seem to get myself out of this ball of fury.

If you know much about the Law of Attraction, you’ll understand when I say I just seem to have more and more things to be angry about. It was at this time that a friend of mine introduced me to ‘The Secret.’ The secret changed my life. Since then I have read and learned so much more about the Law of Attraction, the universe, angels and God. There is an indescribable peace within my soul now. Since I lived my life coming from a place of love and having a generous heart, guess what? Yes … I’ve received more love back than I could ever have imagined possible.

So now, whatever the situation or circumstance that years ago would have had me seething, I give my heart and come from a place of love. This didn’t happen overnight. It did take practice to think with my heart. To practice living my life with all my heart. To come from a place of pure love. If you struggle with this, I always say, start with gratitude. Once you start practising gratitude daily you will automatically start coming from a place of love. Today, I wouldn’t know how to live any other way. Living through love and giving my heart always, is so natural to me now. Now, don’t get me wrong there are times when I get upset, of course there is, but the bounce back time to love, understanding and pure heartfelt gratitude is much quicker. I can turn this negative emotion around in seconds. Wouldn’t you love to be able to do that?

Life is full of wonder. Once you open your heart to this amazing prospect you will understand how your heart can be filled with joy. Having a grateful, giving and non-judgemental heart will open you up to an amazing life of warmth.

There are so many wonderful things happening in life and around us, feeling these precious things with our heart and soul is the most amazing experience. Once you start to live from your heart, from a place of love you will receive more love … your heart will sore.

Try it this week, when someone upsets you, stop and think. Don’t just shout or confront them back. Use your heart to give. Breathe deeply and imagine wrapping your arms around this person and smothering them with love. This doesn’t mean that people can walk all over you. The exact opposite, because once you come from a place of love, once you use your heart to make your life decisions, you will find that some people are no longer in your life. We attract our tribe … meaning you attract those in your life who are similar. So if you see something in someone you don’t like, have a little self-analyse of yourself and your own behaviours. It is time to no longer be a mood-hoover, it’s time be the loving, kind, giving individual you were put on this earth to be.

In week’s therapeutic writing exercise let’s look at gratefulness;

1/ Write a list of all the things you are grateful for in your life. What makes your heart swell? Kids, a cosy home, friends, family etc. Really think about all the good in your life.

2/ Write a list of the things you would like to change, at each point, ask yourself why. Write down what you can do to change it. What is your heart telling you to do?

If you feel these questions are too particular, just write … write about your grateful heart. How can you make your heart more grateful? How can you make your heart swell and sore? What can you do differently? Writing with a loving heart is a great way to start understanding your grateful heart.

Remember: Positive messages throughout the day, helps the negative thoughts stay away.

So be inspired daily with this

free inspirational guide.

Love & happiness to you always

Victoria xx

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How To Personally Grow When You Feel Stuck In A Rut – A to Z Inspirational Blog; G is for Growth with Growth Quotes and Therapeutic Writing

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This week’s inspirational word

G IS FOR GROWTH

 

Becoming stagnant in life is very easily done.

We become accustomed to the routine of life; waking up – kids at school – job – pick kids up – dinner – bed! In addition to that, there will be a mixture of after-school activities, parent taxi-service, household chores and other essential tasks that need fulfilling. Sound familiar?

So then when we talk about growth on a personal level, we often feel we don’t have the capacity to fit anything else in, let alone look after ourselves. Wouldn’t it be great to just feel stable? Really … do we need to bring in the extra pressure of personal growth?

Being stuck in a rut is actually damaging to your health. Read here research from Harvard Medical School about the dangers; Samuel Parkes Cadman said, “the only difference between a rut and a grave is a matter of depth.”

Let’s look at this last quote … ‘unlearning old limits’ … so when we talk about being stuck in a rut, what part of your life do you feel reflects this rut? What old beliefs, if any, do you feel are holding you back?

Is there an area in your life that you want to grow and learn new ways of living? Or as we said above, unlearn habits and limitations? This could be your career, health, family … there could be an area in your life you feel is lacking. It’s your choice to push yourself forward and grow in this area. We always have a choice to either stay where we are or make the changes needed to live the life we want and deserve. Even if these changes are small, a small change made daily is better than no change at all. You will soon see results in this area of your life.

The key to change and growth is staying focused. Sometimes when we need to grow it can be hard work. It can be an effort that we really are not sure we have the energy to pursue. But you can do this. You got this. If you feel a pull towards a certain change, an area in your life that needs your attention so you can grow and prosper then go with it. That pull is there for a reason, you need to follow that pull. Don’t be pushing it back. You may even tell yourself you are pushing it back until ‘later’ … but does ‘later’ ever come? Forget whatever else is going on in your life, and yes, sometimes it isn’t the right time to make changes, but if you feel that it’s never the right time to make changes, then there never will be a right time, so just do it. Just start putting steps in place to push yourself forward.

Continue to grow even when it feels too hard … because this will be the time when you desperately need to grow. Growing will leave these hard times behind.

In this week’s therapeutic writing exercises, let’s look at how you can help yourself grow …

Let’s focus on where you’d like to be in the future. Thinking ahead will help you focus on the tasks that need to be fulfilled to achieve these goals. I’m all for living in the moment, but if you’re not growing as a person, if you feel stuck in a rut, you’re not really living in the moment.

This is a free-writing exercise, so simply write down what comes into your head … (we are going to work back over as it will help you focus on your long-term goals and break them down).

1/ Where would you WANT to be in 10 years time?

2/ Where would you WANT to be in 5 years time?

3/ Where would you WANT to be in 1 year’s time?

Now take each question and break it down … what do you need to do to reach these achievements? Obvious question is, what can you do today to help yourself grow? What can you do today to take you closer to your goal? This includes, what do you need to stop doing to grow? What old beliefs and limitations do you need to change?

Remember; small steps count. Ask yourself; what would you thank yourself for tomorrow?

Throughout all this exercise, remember; YOU GOT THIS! You are strong! You have these urges, passions and goals because you are meant to achieve them. We are all here for a reason, you need to ask yourself if you are fulfilling your reasons for being? If you feel as if you are not growing into the person you want to be, what can you do to make this happen?

If you feel the above questions are too difficult to think about? You’re not sure where you want to be, simply write. Write about the life you’d like to have, where you’d like to be in the future, write about want you feel is holding you back, write about your unlimited beliefs and limitation … simply write and you will find your answers to the above questions.

Remember: Positive messages throughout the day, helps the negative thoughts stay away.

So be inspired daily with this

free inspirational guide.

Love & happiness to you always

Victoria xx

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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How To Stay Focused In Your Busy World – A to Z Inspirational Blog; F is for Focus with Focus Quotes and Therapeutic Writing

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This week’s inspirational word

F IS FOR FOCUS

Admittedly this is one word I can struggle with … FOCUS!

What? And I’m writing a blog on it?

Yes … because I’ve had to learn several ways to stay focused on one particular task. I often have many projects on the go at once, which is never a great thing, but they are all projects I want to do. When I lose focus, nothing gets finished. I have projects hanging over me and I wonder which is a priority … then the kids are off school with their half-term holidays which seem to come round pretty fast! Once again, projects are put back, as the chaotic life with kids envelopes our world.

Sound familiar?

The first quote by Eric Thomas and this second quote by T.F.Hodge, seem to contradict each other a little. However, put them together, they do make perfect sense. If you have set yourself a task, then you have a specific outcome you desire. However, focusing daily on steps that will help you reach that outcome is the best way forward.

So in times of life’s upheavals, focus on where you want to be daily, do something in that given moment to help you to move closer to the outcome. Putting plans and steps in place will help you focus on the tasks that need to be achieved.

In this week’s therapeutic creative writing exercise, we are going to FOCUS on lists …

Lists are a fantastic way to off-load everything you need to do and everything you ‘want’ to do. I find, the ‘want’ seems to stay somewhere in the distance when the ‘need to dos’ take over.

How can writing a simple list be classed as therapeutic writing? Try it and see how therapeutic it feels. Even more so, see how therapeutic it feels when you can start ticking off the things you have achieved. Especially, ‘your wants’ list.

So in this exercise, the key is to write 2 lists …

Your first list is your ‘need to do’ list – this could be anything from making kids packed lunches to filing tax returns … get scribbling away! If it helps think about your chores throughout the day, write down the things you MUST do daily.

Your second list is your ‘want to do’ list – this is all the things you would love to squeeze in; this could be a drink with friends, buying a new pair of shoes or simply have a relaxing bath without a child coming in to use the toilet! Obviously, you might want to elaborate a bit more than relaxing baths, such as, developing a new career, starting a healthier lifestyle or achieving a goal that is out of your comfort zone.

Only you can decide what to put on your list, as these are your ‘wants’ – you’ll realise once you start focusing and achieving these ‘wants’ life becomes a happier place to be. A happier place leads to an increase in positive energy, once your positive energy increases so will your focus.

Once you have your lists, you will complete the ‘need to dos’ and they will be a priority, but now focus on something you would love to do. Can you put steps in place to work towards these ‘want’ daily? Even choose one of your ‘wants’ to work towards.

Remember, SMALL STEPS COUNT!

What can you do to start ticking off your ‘want’ list?

Talking about serious personal-development ‘wants’ now – your ‘want’ could be that you’d like to start your own business, you’d like to experiment with a new hobby or you’d like to change a habit. These goals may not seem like a priority to you, however, making them a priority will enhance your well-being and mindfulness. Doing something you love can often make people feel guilty, but focus on the feel-good factor and watch your life improve ten-fold.

Once you focus on what you want from life, you will receive more of what you want. Focus on being grateful for all that you receive and the opportunities available to you – grab your life with both hands. Remember that the universe is always projecting back to us our thoughts. So whatever we focus on, we gain more of. So focus on what you want and make your life amazing.

Remember: Positive messages throughout the day, helps the negative thoughts stay away.

So be inspired daily with this

free inspirational guide.

Love & happiness to you always

Victoria xx

 

 

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Ten Products That Will Help To Lift Your Positive Energy Levels

Are you struggling to keep your energy levels high?

Would you love to increase your energy levels to draw more positivity to you?

Depending on our environment, our circumstances or other external influences, our energy vibrations can vary. The key in life is to not let external ‘stuff’ affect your energy levels. I realise this is easier said than done. Especially if you’re an empath, like me. (Empaths feel people’s energy levels, they are sensitive to people’s vibrations … we often draw people to us who need to ‘talk’. I could tell you many stories from a relaxing spa day that turned into me counselling the beauty therapist, to the poor man whose wife had left him by text for his friend and he ended up in hospital – the latter I was simply stood outside a shop … this type of thing happens to me all the time. Rather than take the person’s energy, I give them some of my positive vibes. I always send them love and ask that a higher power guides and helps them.)

Feeling at peace with yourself is the best way to protect yourself from negative influences. There could be things going on in your life that you have no control over. If this is the case, choose your reaction towards it. Once you choose a positive reaction, think from a positive perspective you will see how your world will change. Protecting yourself helps to enhance your energy, this, in turn, vibrates onto others.

Before I show you some awesome products that will help your energy levels, don’t forget to check out my Etsy shop. You can download and print awesome quotes that will help you stay positive. 

Below I’ve listed some awesome products that can help you, but before you look through them, why not try out the self-reflective therapeutic creative writing exercise, that will help you lift your energy levels.

The Energy Bus: 10 Rules to Fuel Your Life, Work, and Team with Positive Energy

This has to be one of my favourite positivity books. I love the intertwined story of George. Not only giving us tips and advice but relating it to real-life with a story. This is an inspiring and fun read. Highly recommended.

      

The Energy Bus for Kids: A Story about Staying Positive and Overcoming Challenges

This is perfect to show children to look on the bright side of life. We live in a world that is full of negativity and nay-sayers. So it’s important that we keep our children positive. It’s important we allow them to believe in themselves. This book by Jon Gordon, the author of the above book, is absolutely awesome for this.

      

The Power of Positive Energy: Everything you need to awaken your soul, raise your vibration, and manifest an inspired life

This book is full of tips on living a life that is full of self-love and high energetic vibes. There are lots of books about positivity, however, this gives great detailed advice on lifting your energy. How lifting your energy will bring positive energy back to you.

      

Positive Energy: 10 Extraordinary Prescriptions for Transforming Fatigue, Stress, and Fear intoVibrance, Strength, and Love

Another great book that gives advice on finding your inner self. Understanding your soul and attracting that goodness to you.

      

Positive Energy 7 in 1 Box Set: Feng Shui, 50 Secrets Of A Danish Happy Life, 7 Steps To Build Easy and Everlasting Habits, The Power of Positive Thinking, Raising Confident Kids, Self-Discipline

This box set is awesome. I love all these books. If you find yourself in a ‘funk’ these books address different parts of life, helping to bring it all together so you can enjoy the journey of life.

      

Clearing Energising Essential Oil

I love a good energy clearing. I love sage for that purpose. But these oils work amazingly well too.

Positive Energy Candle – Reiki Charged Herbal Magic Candle

I love Reiki, so having a candle that can release positive energy, is just what we all need. Different coloured candles attract and give off certain vibes, so having a candle that releases positivity is a must for everyone.

       

Gemstone Reiki Positive Energy Positive Energy Pyramid

These pyramids are simply gorgeous. If you surround yourself with positivity, you will enhance your energy levels. You will no longer feel drawn to negativity. You will attract positive vibes. Therefore, stunning ornaments like these, are wonderful to have around your home.

Natural Himalayan, Crystal, Salt, Rock Lamp to Release Positive Energy

Rock lamps are known for releasing positive energy. I love this lamp as the rocks all fit together snuggling and it’s a bit different to the usual rock lamps. However, if you can get yourself a rock lamp, I highly recommend them. Not only for the positive energy but they look gorgeous.

      

Positive Energy Cosmic Amulet Crystal Lucky Charm Blue Pendant

You will have heard me mention that wearing any accessory that brings positivity to you, is a must. This beautiful amulet is stunning. I’m a huge believer in making your home a positive energetic place, but by wearing something that reminds you to stay positive, wherever you go the vibes go with you. Stay positive in and out of your home.

      

Reminding yourself that if you protect yourself from negativity, you can stay positive. During the day you may come across someone who is oozing negativity, but the key is to protect yourself with positive vibes, the above products can help you achieve this.

‘Positive messages throughout the day, help to keep the negative thoughts away’

Download my free inspirational guide, that is full of quotes and posters, that you can print off to keep yourself motivated.

In this post, you can see some of my favourite products that I believe will help you find courage, simply click on the pink button, if you’d like to see more about each product. The button will lead you to Amazon*

Love & happiness to you always

Victoria xx

*Please note, that this post contains affiliate links. If you click one of the links and make a purchase, I may receive a small commission. However, I truly would never recommend a product that I don’t love myself. I’m not sure the Angels would agree with that …