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Inspirational Words: How To Be A More Loving Person

This week’s positive word

on our A-Z Inspirational Journey …

L is for

LOVE

You may be thinking this is quite an obvious word this week, but you’d be amazed at how many people miss the opportunity to show love.

Ask yourself, how many times in a day do you show love?

When I first heard about the Law of Attraction, it was the love element that struck me first. ‘The Secret‘ came into my life when I needed it, when life seemed to be throwing challenge after challenge at me. Life can still do that sometimes, however, the way I deal with it is so much different now to then. Back then I was angry and upset. I didn’t understand why all these things were happening to me … ‘Why me???’ Trust me there are many people who think like this … in fact the majority of people think like this!

However, when I changed my feelings around, turned anger into love and looked outside of myself and my own world, good things started to happen. It’s not only about the words that are spoken, it’s about the actions that are taken, the thoughts that move in and out of our minds constantly.

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Now, don’t get me wrong, it took effort to turn my thoughts around, it was a real effort in what seemed like utter darkness with no light at the end of the tunnel. But sure enough that light came, not just a dribble of light, not just a small glow, it was a whole load of party lights, fireworks and more!

It becomes an addiction sending out love to people. A good addiction. It’s one of the reasons I qualified as a Law of Attraction Practitioner, because I wanted to teach others have marvellous it actually is. The more love you give out there, the more you receive back.

This week’s therapeutic creative writing exercise involves looking at how much love you give:

  • Start out by writing down what loving things you did last week.
  • Write down the loving things you think you could have improved on: was there an argument with a loved one? Could you have expressed a loving word instead of a negative? Or, could you have kept quiet in a certain situation?
  • Have a freestyle writing session expressing what makes you feel loved.
  • Take these points and look at how you can express them to a loved one. Even if you feel you are not getting the love you would like, it doesn’t mean that someone doesn’t love you, people express things in different ways. So make it your mission to express love in the way that you want love to be expressed to you.
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So make it your mission this week to send out as much love as you can.

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Wishing you love, happiness and fulfilment always

Victoria xx

If you’d like help in surrounding yourself with positivity, you can download your very own FREE inspirational guide here.

 

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Inspirational Words: How To Become A Forgiving Person

This week’s positive word

on our A-Z Inspirational Journey …

F is for

FORGIVENESS

Many people waste much of their life holding grudges, despises others and feeling anger towards certain people. It’s such a shame they don’t realise they are only hurting themselves. The negativity they feel towards another is only reflected back to them through the universe.

In my blog posts I like to ask you questions, because it helps to get you thinking about your life and the world that surrounds you.

So, ask yourself …

Do you feel wronged by someone? Do you feel like these feelings are eating you up?

Are you spending too much time dwelling on these emotions?

Do you realise what these emotions are doing to you?

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You may feel like you’re being weak for being forgiving, or you may feel as if you are saying it’s okay for people to walk all over you. Lack of forgiveness has the opposite effect. Not forgiving someone can make you weak. It takes up a lot of energy to harbour negative emotions. Forgiving someone will only make you stronger. Move on and away from these negative emotions.

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It will enable you to see life from a brighter perspective, learn from the experience and move forward. You can’t move forward when you are dwelling on a negative experience. You must learn to forgive to be truly happy.

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When you are in an unforgiving state, you can’t think straight. You are so wrapped up in anger that every time you think of this person ‘it makes your blood boil’. Once the anger calms down, the hurt can set in … ‘how could they do this to me?’

If we are betrayed by those we are closest to, this hurts even more. It can be harder to forgive someone closer to us, but we must learn to forgive to have a happy life. To find peace.

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When you are lacking forgiveness against a person you are hurting yourself rather than them. They can’t feel the burning sensation that you have inside of you. The feeling that you have been either fooled, played, not cared about, etc. They can’t feel that. They may be feeling guilty and want your forgiveness, in that case, you must give that forgiveness to move forward.

To move on with your life, you must forgive.

But if they are not understanding why you feel hurt, why you feel so angry, then simply move on. Yes, it is that simple, because you are not hurting them, you are only hurting yourself.

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If you’ve been reading my blog posts, you will know that I love therapeutic creative writing exercises to get you thinking, express your emotions which helps to analyse your emotions and feelings. I love therapeutic writing, it can really help when you feel like something is on your mind and churning you over.

This week’s therapeutic creative writing exercise will allow you to unchurn things:

HOW TO BECOME A FORGIVING PERSON

So take a piece of paper and start freestyle writing. In this piece of writing concentrate on the following things:

  • What this person has done to you.
  • What are you gaining from NOT forgiving them?
  • What have you learnt from the situation?
  • Imagine thanking this person for enabling you to learn something new.
  • How can you move on from here? What steps can you put in place?
  • How would it feel to take hold of this situation, bring it close and love the fact that this has happened because you have learnt something new.
  • How wonderful would it feel to let this go?
  • Describe how you would feel if you could love this experience and move on.

Therapeutic writing is very powerful, it can allow you to shout and scream at the page, then move forward to a different moment. Really take the time to write down your emotions and try to learn from this experience.

Imagine if everything DOES happen for a reason … why do you think this has happened? When you look at things from this perspective you’ll be amazed at the answers you will find.

If you could replace those feelings of anger and negativity with love, imagine how amazing you would feel.

Move on, move forward and move up!

Don’t let your lack of forgiveness stop you achieving amazing things with your life. You will find that others will carry on with their life while you dwell on the unfairness of yours. Don’t be the person who is wasting your life with anger … replace it with love and awesome things will happen!

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Wishing you love, happiness and fulfilment always

Victoria xx

If you’d like help in surrounding yourself with positivity, you can download your very own FREE inspirational guide here.

 

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Inspirational Words: How To Choose A Better You

This week’s positive word

on our A-Z Inspirational Journey …

C is for

CHOICES

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Sometimes we are faced with difficulties in life that we have to either overcome or dwell upon.

But once you understand that life is a journey, and every stop is meant to be, you can choose to embrace the tight bends, the smooth corners, the bumpy roads, the upward hills or the tranquil ride.

If you have read about the Law of Attraction  you’ll understand that a tranquil ride will continue to lead to a tranquil ride, whilst a bumpy rollercoaster ride can continue to lead along the same path, this can depend on how you choose to look at your ride.

If you are experiencing some tight bends and bumpy roads at the moment, depending how you choose to think about these life events, will result in the next part of your journey.

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 This may be hard to comprehend if you feel as if you are stuck in some kind of rut or are facing some true life or health difficulities.

Hope you’re enjoying the therapeutic creative writing exercises, here’s this week’s:

HOW TO CHOOSE A BETTER YOU:

Ask yourself these two questions …

  • On a day to day basis do you feel as if you’re plodding through mud?
  • Do you look at other peoples’ lives, envy them and look at the bad in your own life?

If you answered yes to the above questions, here could lie the reasons behind the problems you are experiencing in your life.

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Now ask yourself these two questions …

  • Which part of your life do you feel is running quite smoothly? (One rule with this question – you can’t answer ‘nothing’ – find something! There will be something!)
  • When was the last time you did something with LOVE for someone else?

Now write down your thoughts, here you could do some freestyle writing.

Once you’ve done that, read through and highlight which parts are your choice? You should find that most of it is through choice. If not, have another look through, whilst reading think about your thoughts, can you look at things differently? Can you choose your thoughts? Can you choose to look at a situation and see the good in it?

Now start freestyle writing about how life could be, how you wish it could be if you made these changes to your thoughts.

Life is about making choices; to choose to see the good around us or choose to dwell upon which isn’t good. Sometimes we could dislike something so much in our life that it can take over our whole being. For example: how many people HATE their jobs. I don’t like using the would hate. It’s a very strong passionate word that can seep into someone’s bones. There are people who hear their alarm go off on a morning and feel a deep sickly pit at the bottom of their stomach (I know because I was one of them, many many many years ago!). I deeply HATED the jobs I had, I moved from job to job … but every time I moved jobs, I knew I word HATE it! I knew I would hate it because it wasn’t what I wanted to do with my life. I wasn’t fulfilling my dreams by moving from job to job. But as the LOA would tell us, I brought the hate on myself.

If only I’d known that I was simply dreaming of the life I wanted, but not actually doing anything about it and blaming everyone else, circumstance and life in general – I knew what I wanted to do, I knew what I had to do but I would put constant barriers up … excuses!

I chose excuses!

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In my jobs I wasn’t appreciated – but then I didn’t really appreciate anyone else. I was envious of those who laughed their way through the day and got promoted!!! How dare they! How can these people who spent much of their time laughing and chatting keep getting promoted – especially over someone like me who came in early, worked through my lunch hour, took work home with me and was more qualified than most of the office!

How could this keep happening? If only I could travel back to those days and give that younger version of me a shake. Although, I do often think I had to go through those thoughts to understand my thoughts now. I’m grateful for the experiences I’ve endured. I choose now to be the most positive, grateful and loving person possible.

I don’t recognise the younger me … it doesn’t even feel like me. I wish I’d known then what I know now about choosing my response to my situation … so much unhappiness leads to more unhappiness.

It’s as simple as this –

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Ask yourself two more questions …

  • Do you want to be around someone who has the ability to do a particular job or task, but is deterimental to others, to themselves and to life in general?
  • Do you want to be around someone who may need to learn a few things, but has the determination, enthusiasm and the zest for life to push themselves forward?

Now ask yourself another question …

Who do you CHOOSE to be?

Although it would be great to go back and give the younger version of my selfish self a ‘good old’ talking to, I also understand all my life events have bought me to where I am today. I have had to experience some awful hard times, but I understand now and it all makes perfect sense. Everything happens for a reason, it’s your choice to understand the reason.

Life is simple when you look at it simply! Life is beautiful! We must choose to see the beauty. Once you see the beauty … it all becomes clear.

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Wishing you love, happiness and fulfilment always

Victoria xx

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Inspirational Words: How To Become A Bubbly Person

This week’s positive word

on our A-Z Inspirational Journey …

B is for

BUBBLY

I love this word.

I love being around people who are ‘bubbly’; people who ooze personality and character.

How bubbly would you say you are? Do you talk enthusiastically to people? Or do people leave your company feeling drained?

In the book, The Art of Being Brilliant by Andy Cope & Andy Whittaker they talk about ‘mood-hoovers’ –

the quote below is taken from this awesome book:

A mood hoover is, ‘Someone who has a problem for every solution.’

We all know one … or two … or are you that person?

How do you think people see you?

If someone was describing you to another person … would they say …

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 OR … would they say …

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There’s so many people facing different problems every day, but how those problems are thought about can lead them to being the most tragic problem ever or a simple blip in life.

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I always look for the positive in any situation and truly believe that things happen for a reason. The Law of Attraction shows us that we bring positivity or negativity into our lives, so when something happens that I feel is negative, I search for the positive outcome.

 A situation may be occurring that you feel is completely negative in your life, but try looking at it from a different angle, ask yourself … ‘Why is this happening to me?’ I don’t mean, ‘WHY? WHY? WHY ME??!!’ As you scream to the heavens, I mean, ask yourself, ‘Why is this happening?’ ‘What am I learning from this situation?’ Tell yourself you can gain something from this.

Here’s this week’s therapeutic creative writing exercise:

HOW TO DEAL WITH A SITUATION THAT MAY HAVE BURST YOUR BUBBLES

Write down what happened/what is happening and how it made you feel/feeling.

Write down 5 things that taught you a lesson.

Write down 5 things that have made you a better person from this situation.

You may feel that you haven’t learnt anything, but you will have you just need to look closer. If this means doing some ‘free-style’ writing, this means just letting go, just write, just let rip on your thoughts. Once you’ve got that off your chest, write down what you would like to happen from the situation.

Imagine you are in the place you want to be. Imagine being happy. Smile. Keep smiling all day. Think of yourself in that situation where you feel happy. Your troubles are over. Your life is your own. Imagine … play the game and smile. Everyone you come into contact with smile at them.

Further down, I will give you some more tips on becoming the bubbly person that people not only want to be around … they want to be! They want to be you.

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So look for the positive in any adverse situation you are going through.

Take this and turn it around so that you can project these feelings out to others.

It maybe something that isn’t as serious as you feel it is …

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For example, a little blip happened to me last week …

My bank card got cloned!!! Now I’ve heard people really stressing about this happening and it becoming the biggest deal ever … if you do an internet search you’ll find lots of people becoming angry about this and really throwing their negativity out there. I don’t see the point in getting angry over something I can’t do anything about. The most I can do is protect my card, which I have done, but it still happened.

The point of this story was how I turned it into a positive and was actually buzzing that my bank account was chosen!

Buzzing? How the ‘bleep’ can you be happy your account was cloned???? Hands up if those were your thoughts?

Here’s why it was a positive in my life … Before my knowledge of the Law of Attraction, when I didn’t realise I was the cause of my negative life. We had no money, so there were no pennies for anyone to take, so it wasn’t something I even thought about, let alone worried about.

So when I discovered that someone had spent £104 on train tickets and £59.64 on Pizzas – I was quite pleased I had the money in the bank for them to use! There was money in there, it was such a lovely feeling? It really made me smile.

Now don’t get me wrong, it was a little inconvenient. I was on the phone for over 3 hours (after an hour and 20 minutes I got through to someone, who agreed it was fraud, then he put me on hold and I got lost back in the system for over hour again, but I just focused on getting it sorted. What was the point of screaming at the delightful music and at the woman who automatically kept thanking me for my call!! Oh I’m not a robot and I did beg that someone, ‘pls, pls, pls answer!’ But getting angry would have just made my head hurt. It was also inconvenient that I had no bank card for a few days while I awaited another one … but hey ho … it’s been refunded and all is good.

This situation could have left me in a serious bad mood, I could have felt so much anger to those that had decided to commit fraud, but what was the point? I know that my anger would have led to negative thoughts which in turn would have led to more negative life events. Small things in life being made into something bigger than it really is, leads to more negativity in our lives. I often look around me and at other peoples’ lives and understand how a negative personality does actually lead to more negativity. Where as a bubbly and lovable person sees the good in life … always!

The thing is ….

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So ask yourself how do you view life?

When you are talking to others, what do you hear yourself saying?

Would you like people to leave your company thinking …

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Be the person that people don’t forget for the right reasons …

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Still finding it hard to just simply be happy, let alone bubbly?

Here’s 5 tips on how to be bubbly 

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Wishing you love, happiness and fulfilment always

Victoria xx

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