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When the world is feeling loud … how can you get some quiet?

Embracing your time alone is good for the mind, soul and heart. Solitude is a great way to recharge your internal batteries. The world can often be busy and chaotic, we can be running from one place to another and not really taking concentrated time to be quiet; to just sit and breathe.

Research has shown that quiet-time relieves stress, tension and helps to boost a person’s mental state. Too much time alone can have an opposite effect, however, on a day-to-day basis when life is full of schedules, deadlines, places to be, things to do, it’s very important to find time to be and relish in quiet.

As a parent, I understand the limited ‘quiet time’ available, however, I have to ensure I do have quiet time, whether this is just 5-10 minutes before bed, or before the craziness starts on a morning, but I know it makes me a better parent. I know it gives me time to focus, re-adjust and feel gratitude.

Researchers have said that meditation is so important, however, many people find it hard to connect with their inner selves. There are many meditation downloads you can choose from that will help you find your inner peace, however, if you prefer to be a bit more active here are 5 ways to enjoy some quiet time and switch off from your hectic world:

1. Bath with candles – either quietly or listening to some soft music

I love baths. A hot soak with bubbles, candles and some soft music can be just the thing to soothe the soul. Being mum, it isn’t always possible to have a bath without the interruptions of children. If you have children who go to bed and sleep, that’s awesome, ‘us mums’ who didn’t succeed in that department praise you. However, those who have children who don’t sleep, need to find their quiet time, dare I say, probably even more so …

I’ve known myself to get in the bath at 1.am and onwards … just to feel the soak of the water and relax from a hectic day. I find water relaxing, although, I’m not a lover of swimming I still like to chill in the pool, and my family does like to swim, so we got the best variable speed pool pump to keep our pool clean. I love stepping into the heat of the bath and just knowing that calmness surrounds me. I can’t use my laptop in the bath, I can’t run errands, I can’t be sorting the house out. It stops you from doing the tasks that can feel mundane and can relax your mind so that you can recharge and feel in control again.

2. Go walking

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By going out walking, we all know it’s a great way to keep fit and healthy, but this is a great way to also find your quiet.

I reiterate this throughout my blog posts, walking in the fresh air is a natural and free way to lift your mood. Research has shown that exposing ourselves to fresh air can relieve stress and anxiety. It can affect the serotonin levels released in our bodies, which then leads to feeling happy and relaxed.

Researchers at New Mexico Highlands University (NMHU) found that the foot’s impact during walking sends pressure waves through the arteries that significantly modify and can increase the supply of blood to the brain. (See science daily)

So whether you walk in silence, or with your headphones on, you will feel immensely better after. You can listen to music or, like myself, listen to an audiobook (I use audible, I absolutely love it, a fab product if you love listening to stories).

3. Read

This is another of my favourites. I love reading all kinds of books, from losing myself in someone else’s fictional drama, learning more about the world of spirituality to being inspired by others who have achieved their goals. Whatever your hobbies and interest, you will find a book that will grab your attention.

4. Jigsaw Puzzles

There have been several studies to show that jigsaws are great for improving both mindfulness and brain activity. You can see more about this on Memory Jogging Puzzles.

Jigsaws have been around for centuries, so it’s not something new, but it may be something that someone hasn’t thought to partake in. Especially in the hustle and bustle of adulthood, the last thing we may consider doing is sitting down to put together a jigsaw.

We all know the world is now full of technology; phones, i-pads, tablets etc. but that isn’t finding our quiet time. Set-up a place in your house; kitchen, bedroom, office etc. where you know you can sit down, focus on a jigsaw and relish in some quiet time.

5. Colour Therapy

Colouring has always been popular for children, but when the colouring books came out for adults, I was in my element. I would colour with my girls when they were younger and found it so relaxing. Therefore having our own designs that are created especially for relaxation, I believe, is just one of the best ideas ever.

Natural Health Courses Website say … colour is just light of varying wavelengths and frequencies. Electromagnetic waves constantly surround us, and colour is part of those waves. Every single cell in the body needs light energy. Our cells absorb colour, and this affects us on every level, physically, emotionally and spiritually.

As above, when doing a jigsaw, find a quiet place to sit, chill and colour.

Why not visit my previous blog post on

‘ The Key to a Peaceful Life is a Quiet Mind’

and have a go at the therapeutic writing exercise

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M is for Meditation

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I have such a busy and active mind, to a point where unless I have my to-do list, shopping list and random other lists it doesn’t get done.

So when the idea of meditation came up I really loved the thought of this relaxing technique, but really didn’t think I could quieten my mind. I really thought there is no way in this world, I can think about nothing!

How wrong could I be?

If you’ve not tried meditating, if you’re one of those people, like me, who would swear blind it’s just not going to happen. Think again!

Because it’s not about thinking about ‘nothing’, it’s about looking within and finding your inner peace.

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I first experienced meditation in a class environment, it was lovely and I felt so refreshed and renewed for days after. However, I then discovered meditation apps; Headspace and Calm. Both are amazing for really chilling the mind.

By focusing on your breathing, it’s amazing how even those with busy minds can actually distract away from the active overload of thinking about too much. The best part is, the usual busy mind becomes more focused.

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It’s the strangest but most loveliest feeling to feel at one with your body.

I love this article by Zen Habits, which tells us,

‘Beginners must understand that meditation is an ACTIVE process.

The art of focusing your attention to a single point is hard work, and you have to be purposefully engaged!’

So for those who like hard work and a challenge, meditation is definitely for you …

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So whether you’re too busy or too skeptical, mediation is a must for you all.

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And as a final thought of the week …

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Thank you as always for visiting, wishing you lots of love.

Victoria

xx

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Taking time to breathe!

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I realise I haven’t written a blog post on my own site for over 2 months!

I actually didn’t realise how long it had been until I checked back over and I thought, ‘It’s time to air some thoughts on here!’

So where have I been? Well, most authors will tell you they’ve been working on a new book. Although, I have many notepads with stories that I will tell at some point, one of my other focuses is my online wedding business, Calm Weddings. There have been major developments in the business which has taken me away from writing fiction for a while. But not that I’m complaining, as I love my business. So I’ve still been blog writing, but it’s been on topics related to gorgeous wedding dresses, glamourous shoes and awesome fancy paraphernalia! Even if you’re not getting married, but you lovely girlie things … I’m sure you’ll love some of the things I find! There are lots of images on our pintrest page (which we’ve just joined and seriously becoming addicted too!).

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So, with all this going on. It got me thinking about how do all other people out there with busy lives prioritise? I know it’s not only me who is a busy working mum and wife, trying to put my family first, while trying to juggle work, household tasks and everything else that is thrown at us. Again, not that I’m complaining, but it did make me think … where is time going? Are we savouring this time as much as we should?

I like to think I am … I love what I do and I’m really lucky to have the opportunities that I have, so I’m so grateful that I’m not bound to a restricted life of a 9-5 job where someone else dictates the rules. But I don’t want it to pass me by so quickly that I wonder, ‘What on earth happened?’

So, I suppose I wanted to reach out to all you other busy people out and ask you to take 5 … I keep saying I’m going to meditate, but then I’ll tell myself, ‘I don’t have time!’ But meditation is so good for re-focusing and we’d also be savouring our moments.

If anything that I have learnt through my whirlwind life, is to be grateful for all that I have. I’ve read so much on the ‘law of attraction’ and ‘being at one with the Universe’, which I won’t go into in this post, however, there’s some amazing stuff to read out there, and I’ll be recommending some inspiring books soon. But often in our busy lives we forget what’s good in our lives, we focus on the next thing we have to do and this can cause a surmountable amount of stress.

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So take 5 minutes … If you can take longer, do it!T

Taking that 5 minutes to just breathe is so important to being healthy and feeling a renewed energy.

Feel what’s good in your life, it’s the healthiest way to live!

Sending happiness to you

xxx