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Is being a ‘yes person’ no good for you?

 

How many times have you said, ‘Yes’ to someone, when you really mean, ‘No’? And how many times has this stressed you out?

When we say, ‘Yes’ too many times, people can start taking advantage. Does this remind you of anyone?

Do you know of someone who says, ‘Yes’, when you know they mean, ‘No’?

This comes down to self-care. When you put others before yourself, you don’t allow yourself to grow. Sometimes we don’t have a choice, we have family commitments, work commitments and other commitments that must be fulfilled. However, there are times when we are asked to do something, and we feel we can’t say, ‘No’.

So we often say, ‘Yes’, and suffer the consequences of it interfering in our own lives. This can lead to resentment. This has a ripple effect that can lead to uncomfortableness within friendship and family groups.

Saying, ‘No’ is about setting personal boundaries. Once you know what your boundaries are, and others know what your boundaries are, they will have to respect this. It’s time to get rid of the guilt. Once you practice self-care, you’ll have more to give other people, and yes, sometimes this means saying, ‘NO!’

Daring to set boundaries is about having the courage to love ourselves even when we risk disappointing others

Brene Brown

I felt the need to write about this subject, as it has been something I have struggled with myself. I was an all-around yes person! I’d fit people in, change plans for other people and end up in many situations helping others. I would bend over backwards to help anyone even at the detriment of myself. However, I’ve learnt to say ‘No’ – at first it was hard. I felt guilty. I felt I was letting people down, however, as time went on I realised those who care me, truly understand why I was saying no. This didn’t happen overnight … and even now, I can find myself in a situation and I think, am I being tested? Because I am a person who is full of love and I love helping people. However, I have to judge now whether there is too much implication on my own life. If I feel the situation doesn’t suit me, I simply say, no!

I judge the situation because sometimes, I say, ‘Yes’ and I mean it, but I feel happiness at saying yes.

You too, will feel happiness, if the ‘yes’ suits you. Our mind, body and soul, knows if a situation suits us. We know when we say, ‘Yes’ and we mean it! We also know the feeling of that dark cloud that comes over us when we say, ‘Yes’ but we mean, ‘No’: that frustration, irritation and disappointment. When we are experiencing those feelings, it’s time to draw on our boundaries, it’s time to draw a line of what we are willing to accept.

We can say, ‘Yes’ when we mean, ‘No’ for many reasons: we don’t want to appear selfish, we don’t want to let someone down, we don’t want to seem rude, we don’t want the person to feel rejected … but in the process of saying ‘Yes’, you are doing these things to yourself.

If you read my blog posts, you’ll know I always ask you to come from a place of ‘love’ – so you may ask yourself, ‘How can I be showing love if I’m saying no?’ But ask yourself this … ‘If you are feeling resentment, if you are feeling begrudged, how is that coming from a place of love?’ You are not showing love to the person in question and you are not showing love to yourself. So there’s not much love flowing here … and with the rule of the Law of Attraction, you will attract more resentment! It’s amazing how this works.

So this isn’t asking you to say, ‘No’ to everything and everyone, as I said, you will know when you truly mean ‘Yes!’ It feels good. You are then sending love.

So, if you have the courage, which I know you do, to say, ‘No’ and mean, ‘No’, you may feel guilty, you may feel you are letting that person down, but ask yourself what are you gaining from this? Give yourself a hug, be proud of your decision and know that you are sending love to yourself and in turn, this will spread to others … and guess what, you’ll attract more love to yourself.

So, I talked a lot about saying ‘Yes’ when we mean ‘No’ … however, there are times when we should be ‘Yes’ and we don’t!

Read here, how to turn-up & say Yes …

Say YES to yourself!

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10 Quotes To Encourage You To Celebrate Your Victories Not Your Defeats

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When I wrote the previous blog on victory, I was in two minds whether to actually choose V is for Victory on the A-Z Inspirational Blog.

Because here’s the thing … the definition of victory as set-out by Merriam-Webster  (https://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/victory) : It defines victory as: conquest, and triumph means success in a competition or struggle. Victory is used for a win over an opponent or over difficult problems.

I like to think of the word victory as in competing against yourself. Pushing yourself, beating your own limitations, setting goals and smashing them. Victory is about celebrating your achievements. Concentrating on your successes, no matter how big or small they are. Small steps count. Each step you take today brings you closer to your goal. Those small steps are your biggest victories. Smashing through small victories every day will ensure you reach those big victories.

If you want to see further how you can be celebrating your victories and not focusing on your defeats, see the previous post on V is for Victory here, this also includes a therapeutic writing exercise

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10 Quotes To Help You Thrive Through Life

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Sometimes, we need a reminder to keep going … not to just plod along, but to take life by the horns!

Once we decide to get off the treadmill of life, enjoy the rollercoaster and embrace what is around the corner, you will soon find yourself moving full steam ahead. Thriving in life is about grabbing each day and making the most out of it. This doesn’t just have to be about your work, but your family and friends time, your hobbies … it’s about each day counting. Each day is another opportunity to thrive and make life happen.

As always, I’m here to give you a helping hand …

Here are 10 quotes to help you

not to just sail along and survive,

but to THRIVE!

(You can purchase these quotes as downloadable prints on my online shop. 

A great way to surround yourself with positivity)

If you’d like to find out more about how you can thrive, you can see the previous post here

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How writing can be therapy to the soul; Do you have a book inside of you?

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Writing can be therapeutic; as Psychology Today bloggers, Randi Kreger and Rochelle Melander point out, “Many psychological and medical studies have shown that writing about difficulties and dreams helps people experience increased happiness, health, and productivity.”

When we have lots of things going around in our mind, we often can’t sort through them. When the mind feels chaotic, it does affect the body and soul. If you can soothe your soul, the rest will follow.

One of the best ways to do this is through writing. Therapeutic and self-reflective writing are excellent ways to express your emotions. There are many therapeutic exercises on my blog. If you click through the A-Z you’ll find exercises for certain subjects. If you feel you have a blockage in an area of your life, have a look through and see if you can relate to any of the subjects. Have fun doing this, don’t put pressure on yourself. My exercises help to give you an avenue to start expressing yourself. You don’t need to show anyone these writings, you can keep them or throw them away.

If you feel like your head is in the middle of a motorway, then letting all this go onto paper is an amazing release. Research has shown that writing down our thoughts does help to clear our thoughts: it can help put things into perspective, see things more clearly and prioritise. The latter isn’t saying some thoughts don’t matter, however, there could be thoughts that are murking the waters.

For example, are you worried about the outcome of a situation? Are you stressing about things that haven’t happened yet? If this is the case, when you’re releasing these thoughts, write about the outcome you desire. Write as if you’ve received this outcome. Imagine the emotions and joy you would feel if you were at peace.

Writing is very powerful, many authors have created fictional stories through their own life experiences. When I was studying for my MA in Creative Writing, the saying, ‘Write what you know’, was used quite often. You can read more about, ‘Writing what you know,’ by Joanna Penn here. (It is one of her older posts, however, it is still very useful in terms of how authors bring personal experiences into their writing). My fiction books draw in life experiences, I love turning real-life into fiction, as it can help the reader, especially if they identify with a situation within my books.

Simply putting pen to paper is amazing for your soul. We need to take care of our inner selves so that our outer selves can shine. Don’t worry about spelling, grammar or even if your writing makes sense … just write and get those thoughts, emotions and experiences down on paper.

There is probably a book deep inside of you.

You can see my previous blog post on following your soul here

 

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How To Be Your Most Radiant Self

 

I love the quote above by Jane Seymour. Think about this quote and think about someone you would describe as radiant.

Think about this person and ask yourself, what makes them radiant?

If you are thinking about the way they dress or how they look, then you are missing the point of radiance … because radiance comes from within.

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Radiance is the person who smiles, laughs and brings energy with them that is infectious.

Often, radiance can be wiped from us due to everyday life getting in the way (that treadmill I talk about). From the 9-5 mundane job you are stuck in, to the busy schedule of family life. The only thing radiating from many people by the end of the day is tiredness.

So how can you become more radiant and spread that radiance to others?

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Firstly, think about your life?

Is there something that drags you down?

Can you change this?

Sometimes we can’t. Sometimes we have to take a new perspective on the ‘thing’ that is affecting our radiance. Changing your thoughts to a situation can give you renewed energy.

Here’s a little exercise to get you started:

  1. Write down the things you can change: a quick change, or a change that will happen over a period of time.
  2. Write down a plan to how you can make these changes: writing down your thoughts, emotions and plans is a great way to become focused on the task at hand. If a certain change needs a long time-frame, write down the steps needed to make this change happen.
  3. Now, write down the things you can’t change, as much as you would like to, but you feel these things can’t be changed.
  4. Look at the things you can’t change and write down the positive aspects. Change the way you look at these things, think about how you could embrace them into your life, how can you view these things from a different perspective. This task may be hard, but you will be able to draw something from this. Learning to love whatever life throws at you, helps to release good energy rather than negative dull energy that will affect other areas of your life.

We often wake up on a morning, with all the tasks we’ve got to complete, things we’ve got to do … pulling ourselves from our bed, we then put ourselves on autopilot and make our way through the day. Sound familiar?

One of the best ways to start your day is with gratitude …

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Before you get out of bed on a morning, think about the things you are grateful for in your life. Say thank-you aloud. If you can jump out of bed shouting ‘thank-you’ you’ll soon notice a difference in your mood … and people will soon notice your radiance.

Here are a few more tips on how you can become more radiant:

1. Practise mindfulness: You can practise mindfulness through meditation, or simply look through my blog, there are several blog posts that will help you practise mindfulness. From finding your quiet, to soothing your soul, plus there are plenty of therapeutic writing exercises.

2. Rise above your troubles: Life sometimes throws us a curveball, but often situations arise because they have a deeper meaning. The best way to do this, is to ask yourself: what am I learning from this situation? What can I be grateful for? How will this situation affect me in a year’s time? What can you do to make the situation better? Challenge yourself, fight your way through … get up every morning with a smile and a grateful heart and your radiance will shine through. 

3. Connect with others: When you’re out and about smile at others. A smile, a friendly hello or a small interaction with someone who crosses your path during the day, can give you an energetic boost. Don’t underestimate the power of connecting with others to increase your mood, this will inevitably lead to you becoming more radiant.

Making a conscious effort to be more radiant by bringing all of the above together. This is sure to bring out a radiance that will shine onto others.

You can read the previous blog post on the A-Z Inspirational Blog; R is for Radiance:

BECOME A MORE RADIANT YOU!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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When the world is feeling loud … how can you get some quiet?

Embracing your time alone is good for the mind, soul and heart. Solitude is a great way to recharge your internal batteries. The world can often be busy and chaotic, we can be running from one place to another and not really taking concentrated time to be quiet; to just sit and breathe.

Research has shown that quiet-time relieves stress, tension and helps to boost a person’s mental state. Too much time alone can have an opposite effect, however, on a day-to-day basis when life is full of schedules, deadlines, places to be, things to do, it’s very important to find time to be and relish in quiet.

As a parent, I understand the limited ‘quiet time’ available, however, I have to ensure I do have quiet time, whether this is just 5-10 minutes before bed, or before the craziness starts on a morning, but I know it makes me a better parent. I know it gives me time to focus, re-adjust and feel gratitude.

Researchers have said that meditation is so important, however, many people find it hard to connect with their inner selves. There are many meditation downloads you can choose from that will help you find your inner peace, however, if you prefer to be a bit more active here are 5 ways to enjoy some quiet time and switch off from your hectic world:

1. Bath with candles – either quietly or listening to some soft music

I love baths. A hot soak with bubbles, candles and some soft music can be just the thing to soothe the soul. Being mum, it isn’t always possible to have a bath without the interruptions of children. If you have children who go to bed and sleep, that’s awesome, ‘us mums’ who didn’t succeed in that department praise you. However, those who have children who don’t sleep, need to find their quiet time, dare I say, probably even more so …

I’ve known myself to get in the bath at 1.am and onwards … just to feel the soak of the water and relax from a hectic day. I find water relaxing, although, I’m not a lover of swimming I still like to chill in the pool, and my family does like to swim, so we got the best variable speed pool pump to keep our pool clean. I love stepping into the heat of the bath and just knowing that calmness surrounds me. I can’t use my laptop in the bath, I can’t run errands, I can’t be sorting the house out. It stops you from doing the tasks that can feel mundane and can relax your mind so that you can recharge and feel in control again.

2. Go walking

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By going out walking, we all know it’s a great way to keep fit and healthy, but this is a great way to also find your quiet.

I reiterate this throughout my blog posts, walking in the fresh air is a natural and free way to lift your mood. Research has shown that exposing ourselves to fresh air can relieve stress and anxiety. It can affect the serotonin levels released in our bodies, which then leads to feeling happy and relaxed.

Researchers at New Mexico Highlands University (NMHU) found that the foot’s impact during walking sends pressure waves through the arteries that significantly modify and can increase the supply of blood to the brain. (See science daily)

So whether you walk in silence, or with your headphones on, you will feel immensely better after. You can listen to music or, like myself, listen to an audiobook (I use audible, I absolutely love it, a fab product if you love listening to stories).

3. Read

This is another of my favourites. I love reading all kinds of books, from losing myself in someone else’s fictional drama, learning more about the world of spirituality to being inspired by others who have achieved their goals. Whatever your hobbies and interest, you will find a book that will grab your attention.

4. Jigsaw Puzzles

There have been several studies to show that jigsaws are great for improving both mindfulness and brain activity. You can see more about this on Memory Jogging Puzzles.

Jigsaws have been around for centuries, so it’s not something new, but it may be something that someone hasn’t thought to partake in. Especially in the hustle and bustle of adulthood, the last thing we may consider doing is sitting down to put together a jigsaw.

We all know the world is now full of technology; phones, i-pads, tablets etc. but that isn’t finding our quiet time. Set-up a place in your house; kitchen, bedroom, office etc. where you know you can sit down, focus on a jigsaw and relish in some quiet time.

5. Colour Therapy

Colouring has always been popular for children, but when the colouring books came out for adults, I was in my element. I would colour with my girls when they were younger and found it so relaxing. Therefore having our own designs that are created especially for relaxation, I believe, is just one of the best ideas ever.

Natural Health Courses Website say … colour is just light of varying wavelengths and frequencies. Electromagnetic waves constantly surround us, and colour is part of those waves. Every single cell in the body needs light energy. Our cells absorb colour, and this affects us on every level, physically, emotionally and spiritually.

As above, when doing a jigsaw, find a quiet place to sit, chill and colour.

Why not visit my previous blog post on

‘ The Key to a Peaceful Life is a Quiet Mind’

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10 Ways To Nourish Your Mind

Are you nourishing your mind?

In my last blog post on N is for Nourish, I talked about the importance of nourishing the mind. So this week, I thought I’d talk about ways in which you CAN nourish your mind.

When your mind is nourished, your body and soul will follow. Having a healthy mind is the first steps to having a healthy body & soul. Looking after your mind’s wellbeing is the key to living a happy life.

So here are some ways you can give your mind some TLC:

1.GO FOR A WALK

This is one of my favourites. Getting some fresh air is a great way to feel refreshed because it provides energy and the oxygen intake allows us to feel better. So a twenty-minute walk a day can really help to fight negative emotions, feelings and thoughts.

2. READ / LISTEN TO AUDIO BOOKS

Being a writer, I’m an avid reading. As much as I love fiction, I also love spiritual, inspirational and motivational books. Books that really help me grow and connect with my inner-self & guides. So if I am walking, I will stick on my headphones and listen to books about angels, past-lives, soul-development, living with passion etc. Being certified in the Law of Attraction, I practice mindfulness daily. It truly is important to keep our thoughts positive. When our minds are fresh and in a good place, as the Law of Attraction tells us, we’ll attract good things to us.

3. READ POSITIVE MESSAGES/QUOTES & AFFIRMATIONS

You will find endless positivity on my blog and my shop. When times were at their worst; I was pregnant with our second child, living at my in-laws (because my ex-husband’s business had taken a downward slope practically overnight), we had no idea when we would be able to afford to move out … it was all a bit of a mess! My own family weren’t around to support and it was a very hard time. However, it was at this point in my life when I started to collect inspirational quotes. I would write them down onto a spreadsheet and I couldn’t believe how much it helped.

I realised I had so much to be grateful for. I was pregnant with our 2nd child, how could I not be relishing in this love. We were so lucky that we didn’t need treatment, that I fell pregnant so easily (trust me, if anyone knows anything about depression and sex-drive, you’ll get that we were VERY lucky to fall pregnant so easily!). I was extremely grateful for that. We had a roof over our heads and my in-laws were so lovely, they really looked after us.

So once, I started to look at life from a gratitude point of view, my world changed. It wasn’t long before my husband got a business opportunity and we moved into a 2-bedroomed house, which we rented, but I was so grateful that we had the opportunity to move our life forward & not look at the negative. Since then, I read positive quotes & affirmations daily & I create my own. Hence the reason I set-up my online shop, as I feel it is important to surround yourself with reminders that you do have so much love to give and so much to be grateful for. You can also download my free inspirational messages book, which will show you how to make your own inspirational box.

4. WRITE DOWN POSITIVE MESSAGES/QUOTES & AFFIRMATIONS

As above, it’s just as important to write down quotes & affirmations. I think this really helped me. Just putting them into a spreadsheet. I wasn’t sure what I was going to do with them, but it truly helped. I did eventually make them into ‘annual quote a day’ books, and the process truly helped. It still does now. I’m a true believer this really works. In fact, my own quote is:

‘Positive messages throughout the day help to keep the negative thoughts away.’

You don’t need to use a spreadsheet, you can use a notebook or something that will inspire you. Buy a blackboard or a noticeboard and write down an affirmation/quote for the day. This will help the whole family come from a place of love and believe in themselves. Perfect for inspiring children. Just like the downloadable inspirational quotes will help to lift our children so that they become well-rounded adults who believe in themselves.

5. THERAPEUTIC WRITING

Now, this is my thing! Being an author, of course, I love writing and I love writing my inspirational blog, so I’m bound to say writing helps. But it’s actually a renowned form of therapy. It’s a great way to explore your emotions. The best way is to simply write, without thinking about WHAT you are writing. Just write. It’s like allowing your mind to be released of any pent-up frustrations. The best of it is, with therapeutic writing, you don’t need to be the best writer, best speller or know your grammar, because that’s not what it is about. It’s about writing for you and releasing toxic thoughts.

You will find writing prompts in my A-Z positive word blog.

Just pick a letter you’d like to work on, read the quotes and have a go at the exercise.

I found it also helps, that once my thoughts have been released, is to then think about what I want from a situation, so I write a ‘fantasy page’, I put out my desires to the universe but on paper, as if I’ve already received them, as if my desires have already happened and how that makes me feel. The thing with the Law of Attraction is, people struggle with imagination, so by writing down how something would make you feel, it’s easier to imagine it. It’s not only a great way to release, but it’s a great way to bring joy into your life. Experts at League City Integrative Counseling and Wellness will offer you guidance and expert advice.

6. LISTEN TO MUSIC / MEDITATE

When many people hear the word meditation, they believe that they can’t meditate, because they can’t sit still for five minutes and think of nothing. Admittedly, I found this a struggle at first, but after trying guided meditations I soon learned how to meditate alone. However, I found that music can be a huge avenue to relaxation, I found this out when I went to a Gabrielle Bernstein seminar. She played, ‘Titanium’ by Madilyn Bailey, she asked us all to stand up, close our eyes, put our hands in the air and feel the music … even as I write this I get shivers.

The feeling of joy and calmness filled my body. Since then, I truly listen to the music. I truly listen to the words and feel the music. A great way to listen to music is when you are out walking or when you are in the car (obviously not to close your eyes, but to feel it) … my girls and I are always blasting music and singing at the top of our voices. They had a friend in the car just yesterday, we blasted some music, we sang, we got our groove on … her friend said, ‘I never want to leave this car.’ It’s amazing how much a good sing-song can release those endorphins … so choose some of your favourite songs and get blasting those vocal cords.

7. START A PROJECT OF LOVE

Do something you love. This could be a scrapbook of a holiday, party or significant life event. Put aside some time to create something. If you’re not a creative person, do something that makes you happy. A passion project that will have you excited.

8. DECLUTTER / MAKE SPACE

This is kind of a given in the world of feng-shui. Clutter and mess can cause disorganisation. Now, I always say I have an ‘organised mess’ because I know where everything is, however, I have to admit I do work better when I’m not surrounded by wildness (I don’t mean nature, although, often feels like I’m sat in the middle of a zoo). There’s a wonderful feeling when you clear out the clutter that is causing your mind to feel like a chaotic roundabout. So book a day in your diary and clear out those cupboards … you may have things you can give to charity or for a car boot sale, whichever, you will feel such a calming release once you are decluttered.

9. INDULGE IN A CROSSWORD/WORDSEARCH/SUDOKU/JIGSAW PUZZLE

This to some people may sound extremely boring, but trust me, these activities truly work. Find something that you’re interested in, even sitting down to a colour therapy book is a great way to switch off, because your mind is concentrating on the task at hand, so other worries can be pushed to the back of your mind.

10. LIMIT TECHNOLOGY TIME

In this day and age, this last one is like swearing at people. How on earth did we live without such technology? When I was a teenager, I remember sitting on the stairs to use the house phone and making sure my sister didn’t pick up the other phone to listen in on our conversation. How times have changed? Don’t get me wrong … I do love the way technology has moved on and things we can do today are amazing, it makes running a business much easier: I can sit in my car on the school run and work on my phone – however, there comes a point when it’s too much. One of the sayings we’ve used as a family is, ‘When in the room, be in the room!’ This means, engage with each other. Make time for each other. Listen to each other. Spend time without our heads in any kind of technological device.

You can read more about nourishing the mind on my previous post;

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Turn up and say YES! A to Z Inspirational Blog; Y is for Yes with Motivational Quotes and Therapeutic Writing

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This week’s inspirational word

Y is for YES

Let’s take Eckhart Tolle’s quote and say ‘yes’ to life. So, stop what you’re doing, (which is reading this post – and I thank and appreciate you for doing so, it means the world to me that you are taking time out to join me, it truly does) but, let’s just take a second to stop reading and say ‘yes’ to life.

Here’s a little exercise; stand-up, have a little jump about, give yourself a little shake, feel the vibrations running through your hands, legs and feet … then punch the air like you’ve just been told the most exciting news ever. When you punch the air, shout ‘YES!’ Repeat this until you feel the vibes in your body lighting up. Keep shouting, ‘YES!’ until you feel it! Until you feel the shift in your mind and soul. Feel the excitement.

Now, if you’re not feeling the ‘YES!’ If you’re feeling more on the ‘NO!’ side of things, let’s look at this. It’s ok to feel as if there are more ‘Nos’ than ‘Yeses’ in your life, but the key is to not dwell on the ‘Nos’ … the key is to turn the ‘Nos’ into ‘Yeses’, turn these ‘Nos’ into opportunities, see the challenges, take the learning and turn these life curveballs into ‘Yeses’.

You see, whatever your thoughts, the universe is mirroring that right back to you. So, if you see these ‘Nos’ ask yourself, why is this happening? What can I take from this experience? What can I learn? What can I do differently? Believe that this, ‘No’ has happened for a reason so that you can get your ‘Yes’. Believe in that ‘Yes’. Sometimes life is a mini roller-coaster (or a humongous gigantic one) whichever we have to say ‘Yes’ and turn up. Even on those days when we feel it is impossible to say, ‘Yes’.

One of the best ways we can turn our ‘Nos’ into ‘Yeses’ is through gratitude. You’ll have heard me say this before and that’s because it’s true. I turned my own life around by focuses on my ‘Yeses’. Many many many moons ago, before I discovered the Law of Attraction, before I started my spiritual path and before I started surrounding myself with positivity, I was the ‘Mood-Hoover’ you’d want to avoid. Now, don’t get me wrong there was much to be ‘mood-hoovering’ about … Jeez, was there ever! However, when I realised I could change my ‘Nos’ into ‘Yeses’ my life changed.

Once I started to turn up and shout, ‘YES!’ Once I sought the ‘Yeses’ I bought more ‘Yeses’ to me. This is one of the reasons I write my blog, because this stuff works! It really works guys! I want you to have the ‘Yeses’ in your life. I’m drawn to write weekly about inspiring you because I truly believe, I had to have my ‘Nos’ so I could turn them around into ‘Yeses’ and then spread the word that the Law of Attraction is always working, and the universe is always responding …  so if we concentrate on our ‘Nos’ we will get more ‘Nos’ – so turn those ‘Nos’ into ‘Yeses’.

Seek the ‘Yeses’ in life. Say ‘Yes’. Turn up. Because YOU GOT THIS

 

In this week’s therapeutic writing exercise let’s think about your present ‘Yeses’

You may still be in the ‘No’ mode at the moment but truly think about things that are good in your life.

Start by writing a gratitude list.

Take a small gratitude list; write down 20 things you appreciate in your life. When you’ve done this list, say each one aloud, then do the exercise at the beginning of this post; punch the sky and shout ‘YES!’ Do this repeatedly, every morning this week.

FEEL THE POWER OF SAYING YES! When you feel your yeses, you’ll receive more!

Love & happiness to you always

Victoria xx

 

 

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Express Yourself To Feel Alive – A to Z Inspirational Blog; X=Ex is for Express with Express Quotes and Therapeutic Writing

A-Z Inspirational Journey 

This week’s inspirational word

X = EX

EX is for EXPRESS

Being a creative person, I love this quote by Kat Von D. I’ve always expressed myself through writing. Even in my younger days, I would write stories to express my feelings about what was happening in my life, especially as a teen. Anyone else, remember those days? Hormones raging, everything in the world seemed against you, restrictions from parents, teachers … I don’t know about you, but my teenage years were just a battlefield! Battlefield of emotions, feelings and trying to understand the world … I had a lot of whys that couldn’t be answered … But to release all that pent-up frustration, I would write.

I would write in my diary, but I always found it easier and more comfortable to write in fictional form. I loved (and still love) creating stories but basing them on real-life events. I love expressing myself through writing. I express myself through writing these blog posts and my fiction. We all have a reason for being here, our reason is our passion … our passion is a way of expressing ourselves.

So ask yourself, how are you expressing yourself? Are you expressing yourself? Are you keeping yourself hidden and feeling trapped because you are not allowing yourself the freedom to express?

Once you start to express yourself through a creative source or other, express to rid yourself of negative demons and then you’ll feel more love.

If you are expressing yourself from your truth, from your inner being, from your soul, you can’t help but feel more love. Letting go and expressing yourself is allowing yourself to feel free, allowing yourself to enjoy life and be you! Once you are ‘being you’, you’ll feel lighter, you’ll feel more love for yourself. Feeling love for yourself helps to radiate that love onto others. Once you are expressing from a place of love. You’ll feel peace.

This all sounds lovely, I understand, you may think you haven’t got time to express yourself … well, if you are that person thinking this, then you are the person who NEEDS to express themselves the most. Expressing yourself through your inner desires is as good as meditating. Some people feel meditating is sitting, listening to soft music and allowing our thoughts to fade. Unfortunately, this has never worked for me. I have tried, but I find it hard to switch off. I always have some project or idea fighting its way forward. I do, however, find putting on more upbeat music, something that I can dance too or calmer music I can sing to does help to clear my thoughts. Gabrielle Bernstein has some amazing meditation music, advice and tips.

But the best way for me to clear my thoughts is through writing. Pen on paper, not thinking, just writing … hence, another reason I set-up this blog; to show others how to use therapeutic writing to help them reach their goals, dreams and desires. Free writing is a way of expressing yourself without thinking about what you are writing. Simply write. It’s a great way to express yourself and get all those emotions out.

Your thing may not be writing … but you will have a way of expressing yourself … don’t shy away from that. Get out there and get expressing. The world needs you to express. You need you to express yourself.

In this week’s exercise, we are going to put the therapeutic writing to the side … unless that is the way you express yourself.

As I mentioned above, writing may not be your ‘thing’, so this week sit for five minutes and think about what you love.

Ask yourself …

What do I love doing? What makes me feel alive? What makes me feel like I’m talking from my soul? How can I express myself?

Now go and do it … this week, go and express yourself … Remember, YOU GOT THIS!

Remember: Positive messages throughout the day, helps the negative thoughts stay away.

So be inspired daily with this

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Love & happiness to you always

Victoria xx

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Are You Willing Enough To Achieve Your Goals? – A to Z Inspirational Blog; W is for Willing with Willingness Quotes and Therapeutic Writing

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This week’s inspirational word

W IS FOR WILLING


It’s pretty obvious really that if we want something, we must be willing to put the effort in. Nobody can push us if we’re not willing to be pushed. Just like nobody should be able to stop us if we are willing to push ourselves. You may know from my posts that I’m certified in the Law of Attraction … the LOA says, to relax, to not stress, because you bring more stress to you. So sometimes you may be willing to do what it takes to achieve your goals, but you may be stressing yourself with your over-willingness, your panic and your need to succeed. The universe reflects these feelings back to you, which leads to frustration, as you feel no matter how willing you are, you’re on that treadmill and not getting anywhere.

So, your willingness to put the work in must come from a positive approach. Let go of the angst, the worry, the stress … know that the work you are putting in, your willingness to move your life forward will be reflected back to you. The sooner you think positive clear thoughts, believe and just know that all will be okay, the sooner it will be reflected back to you.

Sometimes we stop willing to succeed because of hurdles or barriers, but if your heart is pulling and your soul is telling you this is your purpose, then you must be willing to overcome any situation that may feel as if it’s holding you back. Often things happen because we need to look deeper into ourselves, or we need to look deeper into the situation, is it trying to tell us something. As you’ll know from my other posts, I truly believe everything happens for a reason, so we must be willing to look for the lessons in anything that steps in our way.

If our heart is telling us this is our purpose, this is our reason for being, then we must be willing to follow our hearts, and most importantly we must be willing to trust our journey. Trust that we are on the right path and that we must overcome obstacles to learn and move forward. We must always be willing to see the bigger picture. If you have that urge inside of you, if your heart and soul are telling you to follow your passions, you must be willing to do what it takes to get there. Through love, effort and belief, you will achieve.


In this week’s therapeutic writing exercise think about your willingness to learn

Do you feel as if you’re being held back? Are you focusing on the negatives? Are you losing your faith? If so, this exercise is perfect for you.

Write down, in list form, all the things that you feel are holding you back. All the things that you believe are stopping you from achieving. Now this could be a certain situation that has happened, or something you are focused on … which you should realise, if you’re focused on the barriers, you’re inviting more barriers …

Take one of the barriers and now freewrite about how you feel it has stopped you progressing … yes, I understand this is negative, however, understanding what is actually stopping you will help you see that it is your attitude that is stopping you, not the actual situation.

Ask yourself, (and write down) what have I gained from this situation (there will be something), what have you taken away that can help you develop as a person and with your goal.

To do this exercise, you must be willing to learn. You must be willing to find the reason behind these barriers, what can you gain from them, what can you do to improve your situation. You must be willing to look at the learning experience of anything that gets in your way, because you will be able to take something away that will help you progress and move forward.

Remember: Positive messages throughout the day, helps the negative thoughts stay away.

So be inspired daily with this

free inspirational guide

Love & happiness to you always

Victoria xx