When I wrote the previous blog on victory, I was in two minds whether to actually choose V is for Victory on the A-Z Inspirational Blog.
Because here’s the thing … the definition of victory as set-out by Merriam-Webster (https://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/victory) : It defines victory as: conquest, and triumph means success in a competition or struggle. Victory is used for a win over an opponent or over difficult problems.
If you want to see further how you can be celebrating your victories and not focusing on your defeats, see the previous post on V is for Victory here, this also includes a therapeutic writing exercise
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Wouldn’t it be a boring world if we were all the same? You may enjoy things that other people don’t enjoy, or you may want to live a life that others are not willing to live. Don’t put pressure on yourself to be something you are not! This includes listening to negative naysayers. Don’t listen to people who don’t believe that there is a bigger and better world out there. Believe in yourself, embrace your passions and your uniqueness … and once you embrace this uniqueness you will feel such joy and warmth that you will spread this to others.
Once you become a person of light and love, you will encourage others to embrace their unique selves.
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Sometimes, we need a reminder to keep going … not to just plod along, but to take life by the horns!
Once we decide to get off the treadmill of life, enjoy the rollercoaster and embrace what is around the corner, you will soon find yourself moving full steam ahead. Thriving in life is about grabbing each day and making the most out of it. This doesn’t just have to be about your work, but your family and friends time, your hobbies … it’s about each day counting. Each day is another opportunity to thrive and make life happen.
As always, I’m here to give you a helping hand …
Here are 10 quotes to help you
not to just sail along and survive,
but to THRIVE!
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Writing can be therapeutic; as Psychology Today bloggers, Randi Kreger and Rochelle Melander point out, “Many psychological and medical studies have shown that writing about difficulties and dreams helps people experience increased happiness, health, and productivity.”
When we have lots of things going around in our mind, we often can’t sort through them. When the mind feels chaotic, it does affect the body and soul. If you can soothe your soul, the rest will follow.
One of the best ways to do this is through writing. Therapeutic and self-reflective writing are excellent ways to express your emotions. There are many therapeutic exercises on my blog. If you click through the A-Z you’ll find exercises for certain subjects. If you feel you have a blockage in an area of your life, have a look through and see if you can relate to any of the subjects. Have fun doing this, don’t put pressure on yourself. My exercises help to give you an avenue to start expressing yourself. You don’t need to show anyone these writings, you can keep them or throw them away.
If you feel like your head is in the middle of a motorway, then letting all this go onto paper is an amazing release. Research has shown that writing down our thoughts does help to clear our thoughts: it can help put things into perspective, see things more clearly and prioritise. The latter isn’t saying some thoughts don’t matter, however, there could be thoughts that are murking the waters.
For example, are you worried about the outcome of a situation? Are you stressing about things that haven’t happened yet? If this is the case, when you’re releasing these thoughts, write about the outcome you desire. Write as if you’ve received this outcome. Imagine the emotions and joy you would feel if you were at peace.
Writing is very powerful, many authors have created fictional stories through their own life experiences. When I was studying for my MA in Creative Writing, the saying, ‘Write what you know’, was used quite often. You can read more about, ‘Writing what you know,’ by Joanna Penn here. (It is one of her older posts, however, it is still very useful in terms of how authors bring personal experiences into their writing). My fiction books draw in life experiences, I love turning real-life into fiction, as it can help the reader, especially if they identify with a situation within my books.
Simply putting pen to paper is amazing for your soul. We need to take care of our inner selves so that our outer selves can shine. Don’t worry about spelling, grammar or even if your writing makes sense … just write and get those thoughts, emotions and experiences down on paper.
There is probably a book deep inside of you.
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I love the quote above by Jane Seymour. Think about this quote and think about someone you would describe as radiant.
Think about this person and ask yourself, what makes them radiant?
If you are thinking about the way they dress or how they look, then you are missing the point of radiance … because radiance comes from within.
Radiance is the person who smiles, laughs and brings energy with them that is infectious.
Often, radiance can be wiped from us due to everyday life getting in the way (that treadmill I talk about). From the 9-5 mundane job you are stuck in, to the busy schedule of family life. The only thing radiating from many people by the end of the day is tiredness.
So how can you become more radiant and spread that radiance to others?
Firstly, think about your life?
Is there something that drags you down?
Can you change this?
Sometimes we can’t. Sometimes we have to take a new perspective on the ‘thing’ that is affecting our radiance. Changing your thoughts to a situation can give you renewed energy.
Here’s a little exercise to get you started:
- Write down the things you can change: a quick change, or a change that will happen over a period of time.
- Write down a plan to how you can make these changes: writing down your thoughts, emotions and plans is a great way to become focused on the task at hand. If a certain change needs a long time-frame, write down the steps needed to make this change happen.
- Now, write down the things you can’t change, as much as you would like to, but you feel these things can’t be changed.
- Look at the things you can’t change and write down the positive aspects. Change the way you look at these things, think about how you could embrace them into your life, how can you view these things from a different perspective. This task may be hard, but you will be able to draw something from this. Learning to love whatever life throws at you, helps to release good energy rather than negative dull energy that will affect other areas of your life.
We often wake up on a morning, with all the tasks we’ve got to complete, things we’ve got to do … pulling ourselves from our bed, we then put ourselves on autopilot and make our way through the day. Sound familiar?
One of the best ways to start your day is with gratitude …
Before you get out of bed on a morning, think about the things you are grateful for in your life. Say thank-you aloud. If you can jump out of bed shouting ‘thank-you’ you’ll soon notice a difference in your mood … and people will soon notice your radiance.
Here are a few more tips on how you can become more radiant:
1. Practise mindfulness: You can practise mindfulness through meditation, or simply look through my blog, there are several blog posts that will help you practise mindfulness. From finding your quiet, to soothing your soul, plus there are plenty of therapeutic writing exercises.
2. Rise above your troubles: Life sometimes throws us a curveball, but often situations arise because they have a deeper meaning. The best way to do this, is to ask yourself: what am I learning from this situation? What can I be grateful for? How will this situation affect me in a year’s time? What can you do to make the situation better? Challenge yourself, fight your way through … get up every morning with a smile and a grateful heart and your radiance will shine through.
3. Connect with others: When you’re out and about smile at others. A smile, a friendly hello or a small interaction with someone who crosses your path during the day, can give you an energetic boost. Don’t underestimate the power of connecting with others to increase your mood, this will inevitably lead to you becoming more radiant.
Making a conscious effort to be more radiant by bringing all of the above together. This is sure to bring out a radiance that will shine onto others.
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Embracing your time alone is good for the mind, soul and heart. Solitude is a great way to recharge your internal batteries. The world can often be busy and chaotic, we can be running from one place to another and not really taking concentrated time to be quiet; to just sit and breathe.
Research has shown that quiet-time relieves stress, tension and helps to boost a person’s mental state. Too much time alone can have an opposite effect, however, on a day-to-day basis when life is full of schedules, deadlines, places to be, things to do, it’s very important to find time to be and relish in quiet.
As a parent, I understand the limited ‘quiet time’ available, however, I have to ensure I do have quiet time, whether this is just 5-10 minutes before bed, or before the craziness starts on a morning, but I know it makes me a better parent. I know it gives me time to focus, re-adjust and feel gratitude.
Researchers have said that meditation is so important, however, many people find it hard to connect with their inner selves. There are many meditation downloads you can choose from that will help you find your inner peace, however, if you prefer to be a bit more active here are 5 ways to enjoy some quiet time and switch off from your hectic world:
1. Bath with candles – either quietly or listening to some soft music
I love baths. A hot soak with bubbles, candles and some soft music can be just the thing to soothe the soul. Being mum, it isn’t always possible to have a bath without the interruptions of children. If you have children who go to bed and sleep, that’s awesome, ‘us mums’ who didn’t succeed in that department praise you. However, those who have children who don’t sleep, need to find their quiet time, dare I say, probably even more so …
I’ve known myself to get in the bath at 1.am and onwards … just to feel the soak of the water and relax from a hectic day. I find water relaxing, although, I’m not a lover of swimming. I love stepping into the heat of the bath and just knowing that calmness surrounds me. I can’t use my laptop in the bath, I can’t run errands, I can’t be sorting the house out. It stops you from doing the tasks that can feel mundane and can relax your mind so that you can recharge and feel in control again.
2. Go walking
By going out walking, we all know it’s a great way to keep fit and healthy, but this is a great way to also find your quiet.
I reiterate this throughout my blog posts, walking in the fresh air is a natural and free way to lift your mood. Research has shown that exposing ourselves to fresh air can relieve stress and anxiety. It can affect the serotonin levels released in our bodies, which then leads to feeling happy and relaxed.
Researchers at New Mexico Highlands University (NMHU) found that the foot’s impact during walking sends pressure waves through the arteries that significantly modify and can increase the supply of blood to the brain. (See science daily)
So whether you walk in silence, or with your headphones on, you will feel immensely better after. You can listen to music or, like myself, listen to an audiobook (I use audible, I absolutely love it, a fab product if you love listening to stories).
This is another of my favourites. I love reading all kinds of books, from losing myself in someone else’s fictional drama, learning more about the world of spirituality to being inspired by others who have achieved their goals. Whatever your hobbies and interest, you will find a book that will grab your attention.
4. Jigsaw Puzzles
There have been several studies to show that jigsaws are great for improving both mindfulness and brain activity. You can see more about this on Memory Jogging Puzzles.
Jigsaws have been around for centuries, so it’s not something new, but it may be something that someone hasn’t thought to partake in. Especially in the hustle and bustle of adulthood, the last thing we may consider doing is sitting down to put together a jigsaw.
We all know the world is now full of technology; phones, i-pads, tablets etc. but that isn’t finding our quiet time. Set-up a place in your house; kitchen, bedroom, office etc. where you know you can sit down, focus on a jigsaw and relish in some quiet time.
5. Colour Therapy
Colouring has always been popular for children, but when the colouring books came out for adults, I was in my element. I would colour with my girls when they were younger and found it so relaxing. Therefore having our own designs that are created especially for relaxation, I believe, is just one of the best ideas ever.
Natural Health Courses Website say … colour is just light of varying wavelengths and frequencies. Electromagnetic waves constantly surround us, and colour is part of those waves. Every single cell in the body needs light energy. Our cells absorb colour, and this affects us on every level, physically, emotionally and spiritually.
As above, when doing a jigsaw, find a quiet place to sit, chill and colour.
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I’ve become a little obsessed with peace poles since I discovered them …
A what? You may be asking …
was created to spread peace across the world.
These are poles (they look similar to a fence post) and each side is decorated. When you create and plant a peace pole, you are connecting to people all over the world. There are thousands of peace poles across the globe. They are designed as reminders to give out love for world peace.
Peace Poles inscribed with the message, May Peace Prevail On Earth,
is a trademark icon of
The Peace Pole Project
Would you like to create your own? This is a great activity to do with children. Not only is it fun, but it will give them insight into spreading and feeling peace within themselves and for our world.
1. BUY YOUR POLE
Your local garden centre or building supplies will have a range of wooden posts. If you’re not sure about using wood, you can use PVC, that is made to look like wood.
Ask the supplier what is the best way to prepare the posts; for painting and outside use. If you explain your project, they will advise the best equipment/materials needed.
But be prepared to; scrub, sand and use a primer. These will be the basics. There will be lots of drying time needed before you start decorating your pole.
2. DESIGN YOUR POLE
Decide what words, pictures and colours you would like on your pole. If you’re stuck for ideas, there’s plenty of images on Pinterest to get your creative juices flowing. Research other peace poles, write and plan your ideas.
3. SET OUT YOUR DESIGN
It’s best to draft your design on a piece of paper before you actually start drawing/painting on your pole. So get to work with words, colours and wonderful pictures.
4. SKETCH LIGHTLY ONTO THE POLE
Once you are happy with your design, sketch lightly onto the pole, therefore if you make any mistakes, you can either rub them out or they are not as visible.
5. PAINT OR COLOUR YOUR POLE
Once you are happy with your sketching, start using colours to bring the pole to life. Depending on the type of post you have chosen, will depend on the type of colouring you can use. Again, when purchasing your post, ask for advice. Would felt-tips work, or is paint better? Get as much information from the store as possible.
6. FINISH OFF WITH VARNISH
When your colouring is complete, using a varnish, or similar product will protect your post from extreme weather conditions. You don’t want your peace pole dripping with ink after a rainstorm. Make sure you get advice from the store when you purchase your pole.
7. DISPLAY OUTSIDE AND SHOW THE WORLD
Secure the pole into the ground in your garden. You can even place them in plant pots if you have no place in your garden. Once you have displayed your pole, take a photo and upload onto the peace pole project website. You can also show others through social media what you have created, encourage others to take part and make their own peace poles.
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Are you leaving things up to Karma?
When we talk about karma it is often used to refer to ‘negative things’ that have happened. You’ll have heard people referring to Karma in terms of revenge, i.e: ‘They’ll get their karma!’ But Karma isn’t a ‘thing’, imagine it as an energy being transmitted back to you. Whatever you give out, you are receiving back. So think about this quote from Dr. Wayne Dyer,
‘How people treat you is their karma, how you react is yours.’
Therefore, if you feel someone has mistreated you in some way, the worst thing you can do is be full of hatred, anger and wishing them bad karma. You are inevitably wishing it upon yourself. Come from a place of love and simply understand what they put out into the world is what they will receive back. Karma is a loving energy that when embraced will bring to you wonderful loving delights … when we understand this, we come from a place of appreciation and gratitude.
If we are feeling mistreated it can sometimes be hard to come from a place of love and forgiveness, so surrounding yourself with reminders to keep hold of a positive attitude will bring good Karma to you.
So remember, it doesn’t matter what others do to you … send them loving good thoughts … karma is always working, make it work for you, not against you.
Love & happiness to you always