Well, hi guys, I’ve left this blog untouched since the beginning of January!
That’s because I’ve been working full out on my wedding business www.calmweddings.com (getting married or know anyone getting married, please give it a visit – plus get your FREE wedding tips ebook!)
Anyway, this blog post isn’t about promoting my wedding business, but the idea for the series of these blog posts has come from Calm Weddings. You see, today we started our A to Z of wedding tips/ideas blog posts, and I thought, why not do it on inspiring and motivating blog posts!
So every Monday, I’m hoping to post something that will hopefully inspire you for the coming week!
Here’s a quote from Jason Calacanis (an American Internet entrepreneur and blogger).
‘You have to have a big vision and take very small steps to get there. You have to be humble as you execute but be visionary and gigantic in terms of your aspiration. In the Internet industry, it’s not about grand innovation, it’s about a lot of little innovations: every day, every week, every month, making something a little bit better.’
I absolutely love this quote, and this doesn’t just come down to the internet, this comes down to following your dreams and making it happen. If anyone has read my inspirational book or follows me on twitter, you will know how I truly believe, ‘little steps count’. It’s always knowing that you have a goal in mind, and it’s about striving to achieve this goal, facing challenges, stepping over these challenges and knowing in your heart where it is you want to be.
When you hear the saying, ‘overnight success,’ I’m not sure there are many overnight successes out there – if any! Most successes have come through determination and belief that they can make it work. Most ‘overnight successes’ have taken many years to achieve their dream.
It’s about having that apsiration and never giving up on your dreams. Having aspirations gives you a focus, gives you something to work towards, it gives a meaning to life!
So today, have a think about your aspirations. Make them clear by writing them down.
Keep this list with you and whenever you feel a challenge is too big, visualise yourself already being there. The Law of Attraction tells us to believe we’re already there, you can do this, but you need to aspire to do or be something before you can believe you’re already there.
Good luck with your aspirational list and have an awesome week!
Sending you lots of love and happiness
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Do you forget to have fun?
If you’re like me, following the law of attraction is all above giving love, being grateful and savouring every breath that we take. However, this doesn’t mean that life doesn’t take over … I still find my to-do list growing daily, I still run around like a headless chicken when trying to get my girls to school and I still have 101 things to do that I didn’t do yesterday.
However, I’m grateful for all of these things. Time is precious and as we rush through traffic on a morning, then remember we’ve forgotten the wellies that your eldest child needed for the muddy walk around the school field (yes, that was us this morning – although she was asked at least 5 times to put them in a bag!!) I’m still grateful for my child. I’m grateful for the opportunity that she can experience a new activity in the fresh air, I’m grateful that we can afford wellies for her, I’m grateful she has legs in which she can wear wellies, I’m grateful that I got them to school and I got back home safely … more so, I’m grateful that hubby was still home and he could take the wellies back to school 🙂
But in the midst of my gratitude and love, sometimes I do become a little overwhelmed by the tasks that need doing and also the tasks I want to do. There’s so much I want to achieve with my businesses and writing, but there are stepping stones that have to be put in place first. Patience isn’t my best virtue. However, once again, I’m grateful for all the opportunities that come my way.
So although I’m passionate about my work and my family, I have another need that I do like to fulfil and that’s spending time with friends. My family and work are my priority, but I love chilling and relaxing with friends. I’m very lucky to have some gorgeous supportive friends, who are practically my family. If you have friends who don’t make you feel good about yourself, then maybe you should re-think this friendship. Friends don’t judge, they listen, support and advise if neccessary.
Friends should be a get away to have some fun when all the mundane every day tasks (that we maybe grateful for) get a little too much. Recently I had a great night with some friends when we decided to do a Murder Mystery Night. Page2Stage a fab local company put on an awesome event for us. We dressed in 1920’s clothes and we had the best time ever! It took a few days to recover, but it was so worth it.
So, although I totally believe we should all follow our dreams and work hard to achieve our goals, I’m a huge believer in taking time out to recharge those batteries. If you feel you need a bit of downtime, arranging time with family and friends is the way forward. Make time for laughter and fun. It’s the best way to feel refreshed, blissful and extremely grateful for having such amazing people in your life 🙂
Do you ever feel like you’re on a treadmill? And no matter how much effort you put in, it doesn’t seem to be coming together, you don’t seem to be moving forward?
Well, I’m here to tell you, you are moving forward. You may feel like you’ve come to a standstill, but you haven’t, if your goal is still in your mind, you’re still ahead! Don’t give up on your passion … don’t choose to just exist.
I love listening to stories from others, how they have worked so hard to achieve their goal. Don’t get me wrong, I have days were I think, ‘What is this all about?’ But I truly believe I’ve been blessed with the need to achieve more in my life. Opportunities come to me and I feel truly lucky to have such scope to move forward towards my ambitions. I want to encourage others to do the same, as what would life be if we were all striving for the same thing (or not striving at all!)
I suppose my message today is, not to give up! No matter how hard things may seem, this is your life purpose, you’re needed to fulfil these dreams. The universe wants you to succeed … In the words of Churchill, ‘Never Give Up!’
And just to encourage you even more … here’s a list of famous people who were homeless before they made it!
My message today: Totally believe in yourself. You can do it. It may seem hard but you’ll appreciate it more when you get there.
Wishing you all the love and success in the world
You may have noticed today I’ve shared a few posts about ‘Flourish with Confidence’.
I absolutely love this lady; Tracy Russell. She is so amazingly warm and is so determined to help women out there who need to boost their confidence – in any area of their life.
I met Tracy at a networking event and I was so inspired by the work she does. She is such an inspiration to other women. What strikes me most about Tracy, is that she truly cares. She truly cares about helping women believe in themselves. She’s so passionate about what she does.
Here’s just a small part of what Kay said, one of her very grateful clients:
I found your programme very helpful in bringing my confidence back to where it needs to be and I will be recommending your programme to others who are looking to be more confident in themselves in order to be more confident in life & business.
You can find even more testimonials on her website: www.flourishwithconfidence.co.uk
Are you someone who needs more confidence?
Do others see you as confident, but somewhere deep down you just don’t feel it?
Do you truly believe in yourself?
There’s many women out there who don’t; with a niggle of self-doubt or an open invitation to allow others to criticise you! Does this sound familiar? How many times do you criticise yourself?
Wouldn’t you just love to be happy with who you are? Well, Tracy’s ‘Flourish with Confidence’ workshops and programmes can definitely help you find your way forward.
Flourish with Confidence is currently running a 6-week programme that will help you feel better about yourself. Don’t worry if you don’t fancy group work, there’s a one-to-one service available. Also don’t worry if you’re not local, Flourish with Confidence offer an internet and Skype service too.
Please visit her website www.flourishwithconfidence.co.uk.
You won’t be disappointed 🙂
Now, even if you’re not an author, but believe in following your dreams, hopefully you’ll enjoy this blog post.
When I released How My Life Became Chaos, it was quite a daunting experience. Reading is so subjective, just because one person loves a book it doesn’t mean the next person will. I’m all for this, as how boring would the world be if we all loved the same things. We’d all wear the same clothes, drive the same cars, have our houses decorated in the same design and colours … can you imagine? Stepford wives eat your heart out!
Just imagine if no-one had achieved anything amazing! Something great! Something that changed the world. Can you imagine if those people blended into the background and allowed society to rule who they should be!
However, although I’m up for individualism, this made the release of my book very scary. I was very lucky though (and relieved) to have amazing feedback & recently after my book tour I received awesome feedback from book bloggers.
Although, I’ve had great reviews, it can still be quite a lonely place; you work endlessly on your book, you’re involved in a whole new world, creating characters, developing plots (this part I don’t, as many other writers, find lonely), but then when you’re back to your real world, you then have to be subjective about your own writing. Editing can be a lonely place; pulling your own work to pieces … it’s not the nicest side of writing. I love my editor Jenny Drewery but when I received my first manuscript back, I could have cried. There was so much red pen, I nearly threw the whole thing in the bin.
While interviewing other authors you get to see that they too have been through it. Joanna Penn mentions the ‘red-pen from editors’ in her book, ‘How to Market a Book‘. Interviewing authors like Joanna helps me realise that I’m not alone, that other authors have been, and are going, through exactly the same thing. I’m a huge believer in, ‘Never giving up’.
Following dreams and goals is a huge passion of mine, I believe everyone should follow their destiny. So even if you’re not a writer, if you’re struggling or have lost your way, I find the best way to keep focused is to associate with people who believe in you and believe in themselves! Maybe you can chat to people online who are having similar experiences to yourself. Maybe your goal is harder to reach than you initially realised, research people who have done something similar to you. If your goal is something that no-one has ever achieved, then research all the greats in the world: Alexandra Bell, who invented the telephone, Frederick McKinley Jones, who invented refrigeration systems, Patricia Bath, who invented a form of eye surgery using lasers … the list is endless. If you need encouragement do some research on the amazing people who have developed or invented something new. Read biographies … you will find things didn’t happen overnight for most people.
It’s hard work following a dream, but you’ve got to make sure you’re enjoying the journey. This is just one of the reasons I love interviewing other authors, not only do I feel like I’m connecting with people who have the same dream as me, but I’m finding out about them. I’m finding out about their books, what has inspired them to write, what advice would they give to other authors … it’s so lovely speaking to other people who are passionate about what I’m passionate about.
So if you have a dream you want to achieve, seek out others who have the same passion as you.
And remember: NEVER GIVE UP!
‘You need to associate with people that inspire you, people that challenge you to rise higher, people that make you better. Don’t waste your valuable time with people that are not adding to your growth. Your destiny is too important.’ Joel Ostee
Anyone who follows my blog, facebook or twitter page will understand how I love inspirational messages. But it’s not just the messages themselves, it is the people behind the messages that I love to learn about.
I love reading about people’s life experiences and how things in their life have changed them. I find those who have been through difficulties in life and have managed to pull themselves through so inspiring, especially when they’ve come out the other side a better person.
I love quotes from Dr Wayne W.Dyer, you see can lots of quotes from him on Brainy Quote.
So when his latest book ‘I Can See Clearly Now‘ was released, I just had to read it.
This book helps to understand Dyer’s life. Rather than a self-help book of exercises, goal-setting tasks etc. this is Dyer and his life: what has made him strong. We get to see him at his lowest points. We read how he has managed to pull himself through the hardest times in his life. It’s raw. As I said, I love learning how other people have overcome hardship, it’s inspiring to watch others grow from the problems they’ve had to face. This book shows how Dyer saw his problems as solutions to a better life.
This book also shows us how Dyer follows his path of life, how he understands the stepping stones that led him to where he needed to be in his life. I think this book is a must-read for anyone who feels at a loss in their own world, or resassurance that they should follow their own destiny.
So if you’re at a bit of a loss as to what to read, or if you’re wondering how the problems in your life could be the solution to a better place … it might be worth giving this a read 🙂
If you follow me on twitter (@victoriajbrown) you will see how I love inspirational messages, and inspiring people to follow their dreams. Achieving goals and living the life you deserve is a huge passion of mine. I’m going to share with you today how these motivational messages work for me.
One day I will share with you the darker times in my life, when I felt as if I was slipping down a deep dark hole, having no energy or inclination to climb back out. I know many of you reading this will have been there yourself, or are there at the moment. I hope you can take something from this post. It was in this time I discovered, Rhonda Byrne’s The Secret. I am now a huge believer in the Law of Attraction. This didn’t happen overnight, it took years of reading and learning.
One of the most important teachings with the Law of Attraction is gratitude. However, when you’re in that state of despair, when your mind just doesn’t want to look out from this black hole, or you feel as if it can’t, there will always be something you can be grateful for. Gratitude is definitely what helped me move forward. Every day I read the ‘Daily Teachings’ from The Secret. I wanted to share today’s teaching with you:
“Ancient wisdom dating back thousands of years gave us the truth about gratitude. Every single religion speaks of giving thanks. All the sages and saviors of the world demonstrated the use of gratitude in all their teachings. The greatest human beings who have ever lived showed us the way with gratitude, and by their example became shining lights in our history. Surely this is why Einstein said ‘Thank you’ hundreds of times every single day!”
The Secret Daily Teachings, Day 80
It’s amazing how wonderful you will feel when you start to appreciate what you have in your life, instead of what you don’t have.
Good Luck xx
So we’re halfway through January … how are you feeling?
Are you feeling as upbeat and as motivated as you did on January 1st when you made those New Year resolutions?
The Mental Health Foundation says, ‘millions of people make resolutions yet almost 80% fail to achieve them’. Read this great article from the Mental Health Foundation about keeping those resolutions.
Many people set too many resolutions, or unrealistic goals that can’t be sustained. And many people find that once they drop one resolution the others quickly follow.
It’s hard to stay on track of your goals when there is so much going on in your life. Circumstances, family, work … without adding anything else to the equation these things can keep you majorly busy.
But, at some point today, take 5 minutes out. Even if it’s before you go to bed tonight. Now, in this five minutes, breath slowly and deeply, and connect with your breathing. Keep doing this until you feel calm. Now, visualise your goals. Visualise sticking to those New Year resolutions. Really feel that connection with those goals. Visualise how you would feel.
The trick is to not look too far ahead into the future: Yes, if one of your resolutions is too lose weight, eat healthier, then visualising how you will look and feel in 3, 6 or 12 months time is a great motivator. However, every step counts – even the smallest. So visualising how you will feel this time next week, if you stick to your plan, is easier to achieve. The best time to visualise is 5 minutes before you get out of bed on a morning, or 5 minutes before you drop off to sleep.
Now all this may seem great, ‘in theory’! As Zig Ziglar said ‘Motivation is like showering. The effects are not long term – but that’s why it’s recommend that you do it daily’. Bringing out your positive side can be difficult for many people. We live in a world of hussle and bussle! Life is busy … but when you learn how to stay positive, how to visualise and how to stop any negativity creeping in – the world seems a nicer place.
Many years ago when things seemed very dark for us: my husband lost his (once – very successful) business, I was pregnant with our 2nd child and because we had no money we had to move in with my in-laws (that’s just a fraction of what was going on around us at the time). I couldn’t believe that this was it! This was our life! We both had degrees and MAs. We’d worked really hard … how could this be happening to us? What type of life were we providing for our children? The guilt, the anguish, the anger, the frustration would eat away at me. Then I realised living my life in the ‘blame game’ wasn’t going to move me forward.
So, what did I do? Did I sit there and continue to wallow in my own self-pity, or did I do something about it? Hopefully, you’ve gathered I most certainly wasn’t going to wallow anymore. It was making me ill. But the first thing I had to work on was changing my thought patterns. Instead of looking at ‘what I didn’t have’ – I looked at what I did have and what I was truly grateful for. I’ve always had big dreams – to become an author and to own my own business. I’m now doing those things! And I couldn’t be happier. I’m not going to lie and say it’s been a stress-free journey, like riding on a train looking at the fields as the sun spreads it’s golden glow across the fresh greenery. It’s been more like a ride on a rollercoaster: exhilarating in parts but downright scary in others! But I’d rather be doing what I’m doing now than anything else in the world.
So, how did I become positive (can I say naturally positive – positivity isn’t an effort anymore, it’s a way of life!). Well, I’ve always enjoyed reading inspirational quotes. When I decided to lift my head out of my backside, I started collecting inspirational quotes, which felt like messages just for me. I have thousands. And I would read several a day.
Many years ago I recieved a gift from a friend: a box full of inspirational quotes which were to be read daily. This gave me the idea to put some of the quotes I had collected into a book for other people, so they too could be encouraged every day. My books ‘Daily Inspirational Messages 2012/2013’ can be download for free here. Now you may be thinking, but these are old books! Inspirational messages can never be old! My advice to you is to use both these books, morning and night. The inspirational messages 2013, also has weekly tasks included. These are designed to help you achieve your goal.
My ‘Daily Inspirational Messages 2014’ is available on Amazon for £1.53. A great way to use all 3 books daily is as follows:
Morning: Before you visualise read your daily message from 2014.
Afternoon: Read your daily message from 2012.
Evening: Read 2013 – This will hopefully allow you time to read and achieve the weekly tasks.
You’ll find within a few weeks of reading these quotes how you start thinking more positively and start to believe in yourself!
There have been other things that have helped me along my journey.
Rhonda Byrne who wrote the book ‘The Secret’, has definitely helped me change my thought patterns. If you’ve not read it, it’s a must! She has also written, ‘The Power’, ‘The Magic’ and her latest release ‘The Hero’. I have just finished ‘The Hero’ and I loved it. I really do recommend these books for anyone who wants to understand what their life is about. These books are amazing for helping to understand the Law of Attraction and for helping to look at the positive side of your life, feeling love rather than anger and being grateful for all that you have.
Another website and amazing inspirational lady is Lousie L.Hay. Lousie Hay is a renowned best-selling author of many books. Her website offers so much, you really must have a look.
Once you start to change your thought patterns, it becomes second nature. It becomes a way of life. It doesn’t feel natural anymore for me to have a negative thought. I’m not comfortable with negativity passing through my being. Being negative is draining. It zaps you of energy that you could be using for so many useful things. I’m not saying it’s an easy journey to start thinking more positively, but it is definitly a nicer one!
I hope you feel this post has helped you. Life is too short to just let it pass you by … so download my free books, and if you would like to purchase Daily Inspirational Quotes 2014, I send my love and thanks to you.
Good luck in achieving your New Year Resolutions. Just remember to believe in yourself. Anything is possible!