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EX is for EXPRESS

Being a creative person, I love this quote by Kat Von D. I’ve always expressed myself through writing. Even in my younger days, I would write stories to express my feelings about what was happening in my life, especially as a teen. Anyone else, remember those days? Hormones raging, everything in the world seemed against you, restrictions from parents, teachers … I don’t know about you, but my teenage years were just a battlefield! Battlefield of emotions, feelings and trying to understand the world … I had a lot of whys that couldn’t be answered … But to release all that pent-up frustration, I would write.

I would write in my diary, but I always found it easier and more comfortable to write in fictional form. I loved (and still love) creating stories but basing them on real-life events. I love expressing myself through writing. I express myself through writing these blog posts and my fiction. We all have a reason for being here, our reason is our passion … our passion is a way of expressing ourselves.

So ask yourself, how are you expressing yourself? Are you expressing yourself? Are you keeping yourself hidden and feeling trapped because you are not allowing yourself the freedom to express?

Once you start to express yourself through a creative source or other, express to rid yourself of negative demons and then you’ll feel more love.

If you are expressing yourself from your truth, from your inner being, from your soul, you can’t help but feel more love. Letting go and expressing yourself is allowing yourself to feel free, allowing yourself to enjoy life and be you! Once you are ‘being you’, you’ll feel lighter, you’ll feel more love for yourself. Feeling love for yourself helps to radiate that love onto others. Once you are expressing from a place of love. You’ll feel peace.

This all sounds lovely, I understand, you may think you haven’t got time to express yourself … well, if you are that person thinking this, then you are the person who NEEDS to express themselves the most. Expressing yourself through your inner desires is as good as meditating. Some people feel meditating is sitting, listening to soft music and allowing our thoughts to fade. Unfortunately, this has never worked for me. I have tried, but I find it hard to switch off. I always have some project or idea fighting its way forward. I do, however, find putting on more upbeat music, something that I can dance too or calmer music I can sing to does help to clear my thoughts. Gabrielle Bernstein has some amazing meditation music, advice and tips.

But the best way for me to clear my thoughts is through writing. Pen on paper, not thinking, just writing … hence, another reason I set-up this blog; to show others how to use therapeutic writing to help them reach their goals, dreams and desires. Free writing is a way of expressing yourself without thinking about what you are writing. Simply write. It’s a great way to express yourself and get all those emotions out.

Your thing may not be writing … but you will have a way of expressing yourself … don’t shy away from that. Get out there and get expressing. The world needs you to express. You need you to express yourself.

In this week’s exercise, we are going to put the therapeutic writing to the side … unless that is the way you express yourself.

As I mentioned above, writing may not be your ‘thing’, so this week sit for five minutes and think about what you love.

Ask yourself …

What do I love doing? What makes me feel alive? What makes me feel like I’m talking from my soul? How can I express myself?

Now go and do it … this week, go and express yourself … Remember, YOU GOT THIS!

Remember: Positive messages throughout the day, helps the negative thoughts stay away.

So be inspired daily with this

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Love & happiness to you always

Victoria xx

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This week’s inspirational word

T IS FOR THRIVE

It’s hard to thrive at something if you don’t enjoy what you’re doing … this works in all areas of your life. You may find that you are thriving in one area but not in another. Sometimes the areas that we are not thriving in as much can affect other areas of our lives. For example, we may have a wonderful relationship but we are not happy in our work. This work situation may affect your relationship; if you feel tired, worn-out, stressed etc. you won’t want to make the effort with your relationships when you are away from work. When you feel unhappy in one area of your life, it has a chain reaction to the other areas of your life. It’s sometimes hard to switch our feelings off when we are unhappy.

So, what can we do to thrive in every situation?

If we can change it … we should! If we can’t change it, then we can change our attitude and feelings towards it. For example, you may love your work but you may have issues with people you work with. You can’t change these people. Just like people can’t change you (or shouldn’t change you). What we can do is put out to the universe that we want to change our attitude, we want to thrive, we want to live a more peaceful life … You’d be amazed when you start thinking about thriving in certain situations you bring more to you to thrive on.

So how we do we go from ‘just living’ to thriving? If you read my blog posts, you’ll know it comes down to gratefulness, being grateful for the good in your life will help develop your gratefulness throughout other areas of your life and the universe responds by giving you more to be grateful for. Once you become more grateful your attitude automatically changes and this will bring you an abundance of things to be grateful for … an abundance of things to thrive from.

Research, by Daniel Brown, a professor, psychology lecturer, at the University of Portsmouth, showed that a person must possess some (but not necessarily all) certain characteristics to be able to thrive in life, you can see the interesting research here.

Sometimes we feel we have nothing to thrive towards. There are problems, issues, life is just going along on its treadmill and we wonder what it is we should be thriving towards. The best way forward with this is to change your attitude towards your life. Look for the love. Take one of the situations that you feel is unthriving, and ask yourself, ‘If I can’t change it, what can I do to feel better about it?’ Once you start to thrive in one area of your life, the others areas will fall into place too. It’s amazing how our feelings towards a certain life situation can take up our whole being. So rather than a negative situation taking up your whole being, work on your attitude towards these feelings and watch how your world changes.

In this week’s therapeutic writing exercise let’s write about thriving in life.

Take one situation in your life that you wish you could thrive in … this could be work, relationships, hobbies … anything where you feel you are lacking. An area of your life you wish you could improve.

Now, free-write how you would feel if you could thrive in this area of your life. Visualise how you would feel and then write these feelings down. How would it feel to get out of bed every morning, thriving in just this one area of your life? Now imagine how this would impact the other areas of your life and write down the positivity this could bring to all areas of your life. Write down the chain reaction you think this could have. Write down how you could thrive in other areas of your life if you made changes to one area.

Now … ask yourself, how can I make these changes? When will I make these changes? Put a plan in place to start thriving … you got this!

 

Remember: Positive messages throughout the day, helps the negative thoughts stay away.

So be inspired daily with this

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Love & happiness to you always

Victoria xx

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S IS FOR SOUL

I love this quote by Marianne Williamson. Our souls have travelled through many lives. The body in which we live is simply the home for our soul. Our soul represents who we truly are. If you have an interest in something, you will more than likely find this interest relates to a past life interest, because it is our soul that holds our passions. Regression is a hypnotic state that can connect your soul to your previous lives. This may all sound far-fetched to those who are not spiritual or religious believers, however, there are certain things in life we are scared of but we’re not sure why, or things we are drawn to. These are usually linked to our past lives. There is a TV programme called, The Ghost Inside My Child, which features children who remember their past lives. Some of the children could describe in-depth details about their previous life. Some parents researched their child’s claims, such as names and events, and found evidence that what their child was telling them, was true.

Dr Wayne Dyer’s book, Memories of Heaven, is a collection of stories from children who remember their past lives. It’s a brilliant and intriguing read. After reading this I wanted to talk to as many children as I could to try and see if they could remember anything. As babies, our soul starts the life journey again, but because our souls haven’t been trained into the conformity of society, as babies, we are open. It’s only as we grow that we are influenced by society and our minds shut-off from miracles and magic … shut-off from the prospect that we are much bigger than ourselves. That we are one.

Sometimes we are drawn to certain people. We hear the term, ‘soulmate’, usually referred to when lovers meet, however, I believe we have a few soulmates that extend beyond the ‘lover relationship’, it could be family members, friends or people who we meet in passing who have been in our previous lives and were needed for a short amount of time in this life. Others join us in this life early on and stay with us. Whoever we meet, we decide this before our soul arrives here. Just as our soul drives us towards our passions, which is also a decided and known factor before we arrive here on this physical plane.

So imagine that all you needed to focus on was your soul’s desire. Where would your soul take you? What would make you jump out of bed every morning? What are your passions, dreams, goals etc.? These are the things your soul wants you to do. Some of it may not be easy to achieve, in fact, it may seem impossible, but you have that urge and desire for a reason … it’s your soul’s reason for being. It’s the reason your soul chose this life. There are always reasons behind something happening. I’m not a believer in coincidences, I believe we are put in certain situations through the divine, angels and universe to bring our attention to certain things. Often as a wake-up call … to get us to think about our journey. If something happens that seems like a coincidence, we may talk about it with friends and speculate how weird it is. This is us trying to understand the universe at work, something has our attention and for good reason, it’s our job to figure out what that reason is.

When we arrive on this physical plane, Earth, we already have ambitions of the life we will fulfil, the world is an open book and we arrive with every intention of making this life mean something. As mentioned above, as we grow this is often forgotten as we fit into the mould that is expected of us, but it’s never too late to break that mould. It’s never too late to listen to your soul, listen to the universe, listen to the angels, they will be constantly trying to guide you in the right direction, but it’s up to you to listen and watch out for the signs.

God gave us free will, so we can make choices about the life we want to live while we are here. But what will make you happier and more content than you can imagine is following your soul’s desire. Your purpose. Your passion. Anyone who listens to the divine within will live a happier, more fulfilled life.

In this week’s therapeutic writing exercise let’s discover your soul’s purpose …

Before we do any free writing, I’d like you to sit quietly for 5 or 10 minutes. While you are sitting quietly try to connect with your soul. This means going deep into yourself, understanding what it is you are doing here, what is your soul telling you … ask yourself, why are you here? What’s your purpose … you will have one.

Once you feel you have connected, write down what you were feeling, don’t think about it, just free write these feelings down. Just express yourself freely and allow your soul to come forward. Allow yourself the freedom to listen to your heart. Where is it taking you? Are you fulfilling your purpose? If not, what can you do to fulfil that purpose? What changes can you make? What steps can you put in place so you can follow your soul purpose?

 

Remember: Positive messages throughout the day, helps the negative thoughts stay away.

So be inspired daily with this

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Love & happiness to you always

Victoria xx

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R IS FOR RADIANCE

Do you know anyone who pours with radiance? Is there anyone who sticks in your mind as a positive, happy person who always looks on the bright side life? Wouldn’t you like to be that person? Wouldn’t you like to be the person who shines so bright, people need sunglasses on to talk to you. I joke … but think about it … how wonderful it would be to be the person who makes others feel great.

People who are radiant aren’t the most attractive, most beautiful on the outside … radiance doesn’t come from outer appearance, it comes from within. The most attractive and beautiful people are those who are radiant from the inside. People who share their inner radiance with others. They spread it around like glitter, their sparkle is left upon others when they leave their company.

So this may all sound fluffy and a bit far-fetched, but think about it … there are people who you will meet and they are always happy. They are always radiant and positive. What we need to understand is, these people have chosen this radiance, no matter what has happened in their life, they have chosen to be positive and spread their joy. Just because they are loving, caring and happy people, it doesn’t mean they haven’t been through any adversity, it means they have chosen to look on the bright side of life. They have chosen to live through love and gratefulness.

Audrey Hepburn, an amazing soul, once said, ‘True beauty in a woman is reflected in her soul. It’s the caring that she lovingly gives, the passion that she shows.’ Here, she is talking about a woman’s radiance. Those that come from a place of love show their radiance through their actions. This doesn’t just go for women obviously, men too can be radiant. Personality and character are the things people remember. The way you made someone feel is what they will remember about you, whether you’re a man or a woman … you will be remembered for your presence.

Do you want to be remembered as the person who always had problems or the mood-hoover who sucks the life out of people with your negativity? I truly hope not … I truly hope you want to be remembered as the person who gives always, always comes from a place of love, the person people like to be around … the person that when people leave your company, they feel warm, light and refreshed.

How do you become more radiant? Again, I go back to basics, start with your gratitude list. Your gratitude list gives you a reason to be happy. Focus on what is important in your life, what do you appreciate? What makes your life amazing? What makes you happy? When you focus on the good in life, you can’t help but become more radiant. Your joy will seep through and it is your job to spread this joy. It is your job to soak up your radiance and sprinkle it around.

In this week’s therapeutic writing exercise imagine you a bright light that inspires others.

You are shining from within, your glow is contagious, you spread love, joy and happiness wherever you go. People want to be like you. You inspire people. You are the person that makes people feel wonderful when they’ve left your company …

Free-write about how this feels. How would it feel to make people feel like they too can shine within? They too can be as radiant as you? This exercise is about feeling that joy from within, this exercise is about feelings … how wonderful it would be to spread your radiance. Feel it … and write about it.

Remember: Positive messages throughout the day, helps the negative thoughts stay away.

So be inspired daily with this

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Love & happiness to you always

Victoria xx

 

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Q IS FOR QUIET

Last week I talked about finding your inner peace. That can be quite difficult to do when you can’t quiet your mind. So we talked about meditation last week and how meditation is a great way to find your peace. I hope you found a way to meditate that suits you. Sometimes we just need to quiet our minds from our busy lives, meditation is a great way to do this. We may have found our inner peace, but this doesn’t mean that our minds are always quiet. So in those moments, it is best to take time out to find your quietness.

You may feel you don’t have time to take time out. But you’ll be amazed at how taking half an hour, or even fifteen minutes to re-adjust your thoughts, can lead to a more productive life. When we are in the midst of our busy lives, we often think if we just keep going, if we work our backsides off then we are living up to the standards of our modern world. I remember when I use to arrive at work for 7.30am, I would often skip my lunch break to fulfil tasks and would usually be one of the last to leave … was I happy? Hell, NO! Firstly, I didn’t like my job because I wasn’t fulfilling my passion. I thought the harder I worked, I’d more likely be promoted … however, this was a time before I was introduced to the Law of Attraction. I wasn’t even sure I wanted to be promoted, as I hated the job. I was so negative about everything and I was so tired on a night, I couldn’t think happy quiet thoughts. I was miserable. That misery was projected in the workplace and to the universe … so guess what, guys … I received more misery. I didn’t get promoted and had a ‘woe is me’ attitude to life. I look back and could give my younger self a little slap! In a loving way of course.

Now, I’ve followed my passion, that’s not saying it’s been easy, but I followed my gut instinct, I’ve listened to where I feel the angels and God need me to serve. I watched my life unfold as I’ve changed my thoughts. My quiet mind has helped me to progress in life in ways I never thought imaginable. I do have an over-active mind, but that’s because I want to do so much in this lifetime. I get excited about life. I want you to be excited about life. You can do this when you have a quiet mind.

One of my favourite ways to quiet my mind is walking. Especially walking in the countryside, across the hills and exploring. There’s nothing better than breathing in fresh air, taking in our glorious nature and being part of the wonderful views. It’s one of the most exhilarating experiences. It’s one of the best ways to listen to your thoughts.

Walking in the hills may not be ‘your thing’, or maybe you live in a place that doesn’t have quick access to hills and mountains to climb, but it’s important to find something that is ‘your thing’. It’s important to relax so you can move forward. We live in a world that is full of busy. Busy lives. Busy people. Busy. Busy. Busy. You’ll hear people saying, ‘I haven’t got time to meditate, relax or walk amongst the glorious heather …’ I jest, but you get the picture … people don’t have time to quieten their minds. These are the people that need it the most. These are the people who need to find their quiet.

People don’t realise that stopping and relaxing, to find their quiet and inner peace, will help to bring them more joy. Getting off the treadmill of life is the best therapy. Stepping off for a while is not only great to quiet the mind, it is essential for your soul. It is essential to keep refreshed. Once you have stepped away from the hustle and bustle, once you step back into it, you’ll become more productive. Taking time out is essential in moving forward. A quiet and peaceful mind leads to a quiet and peaceful body which in turn leads to a quiet and peaceful soul.

In this week’s therapeutic writing exercise free-write about all the things that are keeping your mind loud.

I realise this could come across as a negative exercise, but actually, sometimes we need to empty our minds of all the ‘stuff’ that is swirling around. This is a great way to empty your head. This writing exercise can actually help to quieten your mind. This could be something you could do daily. This is why many people write diaries and journals, as it helps to get it out of the mind onto paper.

In this exercise, you can write about your to-do list, your worries, the things that keep you awake at night … empty your mind onto paper … anything that will help to quiet your mind.

If it helps, meditate before this exercise or sit somewhere quiet before emptying your thoughts onto paper.

Remember: Positive messages throughout the day, helps the negative thoughts stay away.

So be inspired daily with this

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Love & happiness to you always

Victoria xx

 

 

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P IS FOR PEACE

 

This is another of my favourite words. I know, I have many favourite words … but just say the word, ‘peace’.

Peace.

The word itself conjures up so much meaning; tranquillity, quiet, stillness, calm, restful, freedom … if you breathe the word quietly when you’re alone you can almost feel the air around you change.

However, the less inner peace you have, the harder it will be to have outer peace. So breathing the word ‘Peace’ quietly may not have such an impact on you, if your mind is skating around. If the hustle and bustle of life is taking over your thoughts and taking over your being, then you are going to struggle with peace.

Peace is something that you become. It can take practice to become peaceful, but if you can achieve it, it is one of the best feelings in the world, because no matter what is going on around you, you’ll have the ability to stay calm and self-assured. Being at peace means you don’t entertain the negative impact others could have in your life, you override these thoughts because your inner peace is so deep, so pure that others can’t have an effect on you. Yes, you may feel a little sting, that’s natural if you feel you’re being judged or criticised, but if you’re always coming from a place of love, you are not one to judge and criticise others, then you will bounce back quicker. You want to be able to get to a point in your life, where you are hardly ever faced with negativity because you send out so much love, that all you receive back is love. Any negativity is like hitting a shield and the odd comment may burn through the shield but you can easily let it go. When you are at this point, you know the true meaning of inner peace.

How easy is it to become peaceful? Personally, I believe it’s easy if you can live from a place of love. Love for yourself and love for others. Living a life of non-judgement and gratefulness is definitely the way to start. As I always suggest, start by writing your gratitude list. This is one of the most effective ways to come from a place of love.

Some of our most famous inspirational leaders found inner peace through meditation. You may think of meditation as sitting quietly, many people who have busy lives find this hard. I most certainly did when I was first introduced to it and to be honest, it’s not my favourite way to meditate. I find Gabrielle Bernstein’s way of mediating the most effective. Her music is perfect. Sometimes it’s just about putting music on and doing nothing. You’ll be amazed at how productive you feel after.

If you’re not feeling at peace with yourself, ask yourself, what can you do to change this? What can you do about it? If changes need to be made for you to find peace, then make these changes. It may take time to make the changes, but it’s about choices. You must choose to find your peace. Our time here is precious. We must appreciate that we are more than ourselves. We serve a bigger purpose than ourselves. When you follow your passion, when you follow your heart, you will find your soul purpose … this in itself will lead to inner peace. Come from a place of love and watch your world change.

In this week’s therapeutic writing exercise think about your world when you have inner peace.

Firstly before any writing, try to meditate. As I said, I recommend Gabrielle Berstein, you can pick up her free guided meditation on her website. Once you have participated in meditation that suits you, (you may need to experiment), if you’re not keen on Gabrielle’s methods, there are plenty of others you can research and try.

Once you have done this, then write. Freewrite about what you feel when you have inner peace. Concentrate on the feeling inside, not the material things in life, the feelings that come from within. Once you have these feelings conquered your outer world will fall into place.

Remember: Positive messages throughout the day, helps the negative thoughts stay away.

So be inspired daily with this

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Love & happiness to you always

Victoria xx

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O IS FOR OPPORTUNITY

 

You may have heard 101 quotes about taking the opportunities that are presented to you. I’ve included a few in this blog post. You may feel they are cliche … However, if you are to look throughout your life and think about the coincidences, the decisions, the circumstances or situations that may have been put upon you, you could easily understand how certain opportunities may have arisen from these life events.

This may not make much sense to you at the moment? But often an opportunity will arise when we need it. Sometimes we don’t see opportunities as the opportunities that they are, sometimes we see them as a hindrance. If your gut is telling you that’s not your path, that is fine, you know in your heart your purpose. Sometimes opportunities are presented so we can see what we ‘don’t’ want. If we’re thinking about what we ‘don’t’ want, we are attracting this to us, however, this is a great way to self-analyse and channel your thoughts into what you do want, so the universe can present you with sought-after opportunities. Even if this opportunity is presented as a difficulty, be the person who wants to make a change in your life and grab it with both hands, as a difficulty and a challenge could lead you to the wonderful life you deserve.

If opportunities do arise it means we have to think. We have to truly think about what we want. I truly believe opportunities will arise to test you, this isn’t God or the angels playing games, this is simply them guiding you to your purpose. So if an opportunity arises and you feel it is not right for you, it probably isn’t. However, there will be opportunities that you may have passed quickly and decided they weren’t for you, when in fact they may have guided you down the right path. Do not despair … these opportunities will come round again in a different form. Another gateway, another avenue … you have a purpose, it needs fulfilling, you will be guided down this route until you believe it. You must believe it.

Believing in yourself, your purpose, your reason for being … opportunities will be gifted to you. So don’t dismiss an opportunity because it doesn’t look like something you want, it could easily be an avenue into something that you do want. So look closely and make it work for you.

 

In this week’s therapeutic writing exercise think about opportunities you wish to arise in the future.

Here, I could have asked you to look at opportunities that you have missed that you wished you hadn’t, however, this focuses on the negative. It is hard to turn that missed opportunity into a positive, because it may not come around again in the same form. It will come back around again, if it’s meant to be, just on a different path, in a different way. So this week, ask yourself if you could have an opportunity to arise, what would it be?

Write it down …

Now write about the positive impact this opportunity would have on your life. Keep writing until you feel the desire for this opportunity so bad, you will make the universe create it for you … the universe is listening … it is ready to deliver when you are ready to receive.

Remember: Positive messages throughout the day, helps the negative thoughts stay away.

So be inspired daily with this

free inspirational guide.

Love & happiness to you always

Victoria xx

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N IS FOR NOURISH

Last week we talked about the mind and how it can convince us that we are not worthy, so I thought nourish was a great word to follow with this week because if we nourish our mind, we inevitably nourish our body and soul.

Even simply by reading these blog posts you are nourishing your mind, because you are looking to improve your outlook on life. This is amazing nourishment for the mind because you want to grow and learn. Sometimes, we are hit with hard times, there are situations and circumstances we can’t do anything about, but if our minds are nourished we can deal with these upheavals better.

You could be dealing with some heavy stuff at the moment, you may be struggling to see the wood for the trees, you may feel as if life is against you. You may feel it’s too late to start nourishing your mind because you’re already in the midst of some life chaos … it’s never too late. The best time to start nourishing your mind, body and soul is now! Most definitely if you’re in the middle of one of life’s rollercoaster moments. Nourishing yourself will help you deal with any situation much better.

So, how do we keep our minds nourished? There are wonderful techniques, such as the therapeutic writing that I encourage on my blog, meditation or exercise that involves mindfulness like yoga, pilates or walking. There are many ways to keep our minds nourished and healthy. However, maybe you feel you can’t do some of the techniques daily. If you can exercise daily that is great. You are well on your way to having a healthy nourished mind.

Personally, I love walking in the hills, but this is something that I only do once a month because it takes a full day to thoroughly enjoy the scenery and really breathe in the experience. I love writing my blog posts which I do weekly, plus, I love writing fiction which again I try to do as often as I can. But when it comes to running my own business, I have to make sure accounts etc. are kept in order, this for me isn’t very nourishing of the mind. For some people, it might be. Figures and numbers might be your thing. If it is your thing, then follow it with your heart, as this is your purpose. Taking a step back to understand what makes you tick is a great way to understand how you can nourish your mind.

It doesn’t mean that I stop the parts of my business that don’t nourish my mind, it just means I continue to enjoy the parts of my business and life that do nourish my mind. That’s the key, we can’t stop all the things in life that don’t make our soul tick, but what we can do is be grateful for the things that do make our soul tick.

We have dreams that need fulfilling, passions that drive us forward, these need nourishment … if we don’t nourish our dreams and our purpose, our minds become under-nourished. Keep your mind healthy and the rest will follow.

In this week’s therapeutic writing exercise think about what does make you tick;

What makes you excited? Think about something other than sleep, resting, watching TV etc. something that really gives you a sense of belonging.

Imagine you are at your most peaceful, where, who, how, what … does this involve? Write until your hand hurts. Really delve deep into this one guys … really give your heart, mind and soul the nourishing it needs.

Remember: Positive messages throughout the day, helps the negative thoughts stay away.

So be inspired daily with this

free inspirational guide

Love & happiness to you always

Victoria xx

 

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M IS FOR MIND

Your mind is one of the most powerful tools … have you heard the saying, ‘Your mind is playing tricks on you!’?

What does this actually means?

It usually refers to a time when we are tired or not thinking clearly and the mind starts running away with itself. Have you ever convinced yourself of something that isn’t true? I’m all for gut instinct, as we have it for a reason, however, there are times when our mind decides to wander into depths of the unknown, that unknown becomes real to us, to a point we convince ourselves that this is our belief. For example; we convince ourselves we’re not good enough, that people don’t like us, that we are not worthy! Sound familiar?

This is why mindfulness is important. Mindfulness is somewhat a new buzz word, that actually has been going on for centuries, however, mindfulness is very important to our well-being; mentally, physically and emotionally.

If we can convince ourselves of our unworthiness, we sure as hell can convince ourselves of our worthiness. No-one is more important than you and you are no more important than anyone else. We all exist on this physical plane together, if we encouraged, supported and lived as one, the world would be a better place. Now you may have some kind of passion that you feel you can’t quite muster up the courage to fulfil, you’re worried about what people will say, you’re worried you will be judged, now this little voice is your ego. Your ego will convince you that you are no good at these given talents … because that’s what your passion is, ‘your given talents’ – you’ve been given these talents as a gift to give to others.

Now you can either allow your mind to listen to your ego, which may have been influenced by those around you; not giving you encouragement or support with your passion. This is very common. Parents, siblings and other family members can be the worse influence, believe it or not, often it is not done out of malice, but from a place of fear. ‘They don’t believe that great things can happen to people like you (them)’. ‘They don’t want you to be disappointed if you fail’. ‘It’s best to go down a safe route’. These statements, like many others, can chip away until you believe them. Until you believe them more than you do your in passion.

My passion is writing, it has been since I was a little girl. I love writing fiction, which you can see more about my women’s fiction here, however, I also have the drive to inspire others through my writing, hence the reason I feel drawn to writing my inspirational blog. I could have centred my blog around writing fiction, I have a MA in Creative Writing, I am qualified to teach others on how to put a story together, but instead, I’m drawn to influencing others through my writing. Encouraging others through my writing. I could easily put together videos because that’s a trend that has taken off immensely, I don’t feel that my purpose is to video myself and talk to you … although, if we met, I’m sure you’d find I sure can talk, but my motivation comes from writing. If I’d listened to others, even my parents, I’d be working in a 9-5 unfulfilling job. I did that until I had my daughters and quite honestly, I found it soul-destroying.

I knew I had to follow my passion. I also know I have to encourage others to follow theirs. There are far too many nay-sayers in the world. People who believe we are here to pay our bills and just get on. We are not. We are here to fulfil a purpose. So let your mind wander, let your mind take over, let your mind take you in the direction of your dreams.

If you’re a creative person who needs freedom, you’ll understand where I’m coming from with feeling soul-destroyed because of rules and regulations. You feel restricted. Now, this is because you have a purpose that needs fulfilling. One of the main reasons you are not fulfilling this purpose is because your mind has convinced you that you are not worthy. But if you have that urge or desire then grab it and don’t listen to anyone around you who brings you down, or doesn’t allow you to fulfil your potential. Even if it’s a loved one. This is their fear, don’t allow it to be yours.

So, it’s time to start practising mindfulness and ensure our mind has our back … our mind doesn’t want to rule against us, our mind wants to ensure we fulfil our destiny. It’s the ego that chips away. So let’s get ignoring that ego and focus on nurturing our mind so we can achieve our dreams.

In this week’s therapeutic writing exercise, let go and write about your passion(s);

However, before you start free-writing, take 10-15 minutes out to just breathe. Sit in silence and breathe. If you have children, I understand you’ll be thinking, ’10-15 minutes to breathe, that would be nice’, I get that, but I urge you to do this … and try not to fall asleep!

Once you’ve breathed deeply for 10-15 minutes, write …

Write about your passion. If you could fulfil your purpose what do you think it would be? What do you think you’re here to do?

Write until you feel the need to stop. Get your thoughts out on paper. You are here to fulfil this passion. You have a purpose. Convince your mind of this and ignore the ego.

I realise many of the exercises throughout this blog is to write about what you want to achieve in life, but once you start understanding and reiterating this, you will soon find yourself pushing yourself towards your dreams. Your mind will start focusing on the positives. Positives lead to more energy. Energies lead to greater mindfulness.

Remember: Positive messages throughout the day, helps the negative thoughts stay away.

So be inspired daily with this

free inspirational guide.

Love & happiness to you always

Victoria xx

A-Z Inspirational Journey 

This week’s inspirational word

L IS FOR LAUGHTER

You’ll have heard the saying, ‘Laughter is the best form of medicine’ … if not, read this awesome health article.

Science says: Laughter decreases stress hormones and increases immune cells and infection-fighting antibodies, thus improving your resistance to disease. Laughter triggers the release of endorphins, the body’s natural feel-good chemicals. Endorphins promote an overall sense of well-being and can even temporarily relieve pain.

For me, laughter is essential in my every day living. Now, admittedly, I do have a wicked sense of humour, so I do find lots of things funny. I laugh at myself, I laugh with my girls, I laugh with my friends. I like to laugh. I’m not quite sure how people get through their days without a dose of laughter.

You may be thinking at this moment, I have nothing to laugh about. There’s always something to laugh about. ALWAYS! Okay, do you find yourself being annoyed when you hear people laughing, because, life just isn’t funny! Why do some people get to have such a good time and you’re feeling down and miserable. How did you get the raw deal?

Ok, this is where we go back to basics … gratitude! Write a list of all things you are grateful for in your life. This will move you slightly out of the heady zone. The zone of self-pity and low self-worth. Really study these things you have in your life, don’t focus on the things that are bringing you down, focus on the good. This is a sure way to start to bring more laughter into your life.

If you are really feeling that laughter is just not happening at the moment, then go for a walk. Walking in the outside air, in nature, is a great way to release endorphins, which will make you feel better which in turn can lead to more laughter.

Even if you’re not feeling the need to laugh, sometimes if we are in a situation that requires us to be polite, fake laughter can lead to real laughter. Try it with just smiling to yourself. Smile to your heart’s content. Smile until it actually does lead to laughter.

We can all find different things funny, I find most things funny, from comedians to practical jokes … I can find myself in situations where I shouldn’t laugh, but I do! They are the worst. But that’s because I don’t take myself or life too seriously. I like laughing. Laughter is good for the soul.

So find something that is bound to make you laugh; there are endless clips on youtube – from babies giggling to harmless pranks. Even sitting and people watching can be amusing.

Spend time with people who make you laugh. If you find these people are few and far between, maybe look at picking up some new hobbies, join some groups and meet new people. Friends should be the people we go to in times of sorrow, the shoulder to cry on, but they are also the people you should turn to if you need a good old belly laugh. Once you start to feel happier, you’ll attract happier people into your life, which will lead to more laughter. So start pasting on that smile and attract more smiley people to you.

Take a rule from my life book; don’t take yourself or life so seriously, find the joy in the wonder of life, and you too will find yourself laughing through the days.

This week, is not only about therapeutic writing, we are going to take some physical actions;

Firstly, using the free-writing technique, ask yourself these questions;

1/ When was the last time you laughed? Properly laughed … felt it from inside …

2/ Write about a few situations in your life that have made you laugh …

2/ What makes you laugh? Comedy shows, jokes, conversations with friends … there will be certain things in your life that trigger a release of laughter, think about this and write about it.

Secondly, actions …

This week your task is to do something that makes you laugh … really laugh … from the above writing exercise, you will surely find something in your life that truly makes you giggle. Have fun. Get those laughter lines and memories made … once you increase your laughter levels, watch the joy in your life increase.

Remember: Positive messages throughout the day, helps the negative thoughts stay away.

So be inspired daily with this

free inspirational guide.

Love & happiness to you always

Victoria xx