A is for Aspiration!

Well, hi guys, I’ve left this blog untouched since the beginning of January!

That’s because I’ve been working full out on my wedding business www.calmweddings.com (getting married or know anyone getting married, please give it a visit – plus get your FREE wedding tips ebook!)

Anyway, this blog post isn’t about promoting my wedding business, but the idea for the series of these blog posts has come from Calm Weddings. You see, today we started our A to Z of wedding tips/ideas blog posts, and I thought, why not do it on inspiring and motivating blog posts!

So every Monday, I’m hoping to post something that will hopefully inspire you for the coming week!

So today, A is for Aspiration …successful-mountain-top

Here’s a quote from Jason Calacanis (an American Internet entrepreneur and blogger).

‘You have to have a big vision and take very small steps to get there. You have to be humble as you execute but be visionary and gigantic in terms of your aspiration. In the Internet industry, it’s not about grand innovation, it’s about a lot of little innovations: every day, every week, every month, making something a little bit better.’

I absolutely love this quote, and this doesn’t just come down to the internet, this comes down to following your dreams and making it happen. If anyone has read my inspirational book or follows me on twitter, you will know how I truly believe, ‘little steps count’. It’s always knowing that you have a goal in mind, and it’s about striving to achieve this goal, facing challenges, stepping over these challenges and knowing in your heart where it is you want to be.

When you hear the saying, ‘overnight success,’ I’m not sure there are many overnight successes out there – if any! Most successes have come through determination and belief that they can make it work. Most ‘overnight successes’ have taken many years to achieve their dream.

It’s about having that apsiration and never giving up on your dreams. Having aspirations gives you a focus, gives you something to work towards, it gives a meaning to life!

So today, have a think about your aspirations. Make them clear by writing them down.

Keep this list with you and whenever you feel a challenge is too big, visualise yourself already being there. The Law of Attraction tells us to believe we’re already there, you can do this, but you need to aspire to do or be something before you can believe you’re already there.

Good luck with your aspirational list and have an awesome week!

Sending you lots of love and happiness

Victoria

x

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To drink or not to drink!

wine and tape measurephoto credit:www.cosmopolitan.com

In my last post, I mentioned I’d lost a stone in 3 weeks. I must admit, I am very pleased with myself. But not because of the stone (well, obviously that’s fantastic) but how I’ve lost it.

Now, this is where I admit I absolutely love wine! Not in an alcoholic way (well, maybe a little), but I love the 1st and 2nd glass the most, the sound of it swishing as it drops into the glass, the chilled feeling as it flows effortlessly down my throat and finally the ‘Aahh,’ sound I can’t help but air as my shoulders drop 2 inches.

Usually Friday and Saturday nights are my chilled vino time. However, when the kids are off school, this does admittedly creep into the weeknights too, plus the hot weather is so lovely but doesn’t help: sitting in the garden with a cider, shandy or a chilled glass of wine, is just perfect. So, I’m sure you can understand that I was mortified over the summer holidays when I put a stone on! The problem is I have more to worry about than the calories in the wine, because when I drink, I eat. I’m a savoury girlie: crisps, cheese sarnies with white bread and full-fat mayo and anything else that’s full of carbs … So, it’s quite understandable how this stone crept on in 6 weeks.

So, September came and I thought, I can’t continue like this, as on an average I could potentially put on at least 8 stone in a year! Not to even mention the health risks. So I decided to go totally cold turkey and not drink in September – well until last night (which I’ll tell you more about further down) – I’ve also introduced exercise into my routine, which I’m actually loving. I’ve been using a flabelos vibration plate (my good friend Rebecca has this in her home salon in Ingleby Barwick, so if you live near please do call/text on 07432147933 to find out more – it’s amazing). I’ve cut out all the rubbish, been eating very healthy and remember the GGS I told you about, that’s been my energy boost, as I was off caffeine until today! (Please read my past blog to find out more about GGS and how I learned to survive without caffeine, which used to be an essential part of my diet).

But yes, I’ll be honest I have found not drinking a struggle, but I’ve learned to find other mechanisms (such as exercise), and this makes me feel really good.

Anyway, so what happened last night? Well, I had a candle party, (if anyone is interested in holding a candle party, please visit www.tinabooth.partylite.co.uk/shop or phone Tina Booth on 07971 854881 – if you live out of the Teesside area, I’m sure Tina will point you in the right direction – gorgeous products, fab freebies for hostesses, all-in-all a great girlie night). There was laughter, wine, food and good company. So I decided that I deserved a glass or two of wine because I’d gone without for so long (well, long in my books). Unfortunately, although it didn’t feel so unfortuate last night, the one or two turned into about six, seven, eight, maybe more!

So, I awoke this morning (just!) thinking WHY? And I know many of you have been there before. And I have to ask, why do we do it?

The other problem with a hangover – because that’s exactly what this is – we then need stodge to keep us going throughout the day. So after the energy drink I downed after dropping the girls at school, I went through a litre of Pepsi Max, which I haven’t drank for months (so now I’ve broken the no calorie rule), and I’ve stuffed my face with crisps, chocolate and anything else that would make me feel better. But it hasn’t made me feel great but it has made me feel better than I would have felt without the help. But it’s a vicious cycle, isn’t it? Because now, although I feel very tired and wiped, I know the caffeine I’ve had will keep me awake tonight, so the best thing to do is have a few glasses of wine to help me sleep! I can now see how this cycle is so easy to get into, but with this in mind, I know that I can break it.

So I’m wondering if I can take my no drinking rule into October! I’ll keep you all posted. For anyone else out there who thinks they could do with cutting down on the alcoholic beverages, trust me, I really didn’t think the benefits would outway that 1st glass of wine … but the way I’m feeling today that can’t be the case 🙂 xx

An alternative to caffeine

Diet and exerciseI’ve found a new alternative to caffeine, and I had to share it with you.

If you’ve read some of my other blog posts, you’ll see a few weeks ago I had a tooth removed. Now I thought it would be like having a filling. How silly of me. The amount of people who said to me beforehand, ‘I’ve had a tooth out, it was fine,’ waving their hand dismissively. Well, either these people have a higher pain threshold than me (which could easily be the case – although, I do like to state I did give birth to two children with just gas and air, yes, I was extremely proud of myself! Admittedly, Gabriella was induced, I kept missing the gas and air and felt EVERYTHING! If she’d been the first there would have been no more!)

Anyway, so after having my tooth removed, I was not good for a week or so. I think this was a combination of things. On top of the amount of painkillers I was taking, I didn’t feel like eating, but I think one of the main things that made me feel so rubbish was cutting out diet drinks and energy drinks. Although I needed a boost I couldn’t bear the fizzy taste around my tooth. Now, I live off this stuff. I know it’s not good for my body etc. I’m lectured endlessly. However, I work late, I’m up early and the day has to keep going in between. So I’ve always relied on these types of drinks to keep me going. I don’t like tea or coffee, so have always (like the majority us) needed caffeine to function. But when I say I’ve relied on these drinks, I’m mean for the last 20 years or so. Having at least four cans a day (in fact, sometimes litres of the stuff in ONE day). This is quite hard to admit, it’s embarrassing really, but when you read further I want you understand if I can cut these drinks out, anyone can!

Now, the other thing that affects me, is I still have my baby-weight (don’t laugh – I realise my girls are 6 and 4 years old). ‘It takes 9 months to put it on and 9 months to take it off’ as the theory goes. I listened to that theory 9 months after, then just put it to the back of my head. B.C (before children) I was one of those women that most of us hate: good metoblism, size 10, ate what I wanted, hardly ever exercised, and stupidly took it for granted. Then I had babies … if you have children, you’ll know the story from here. So now I’m a size 14, weighing a stone and half more than I did B.C, I’ve battled with losing those extra pounds like many women. I do fad diets: I lose a bit, then I put it all back on.

So with the weight thing in mind, as well as wanting to have more energy, I started searching for alternatives, I was already going through the withdrawal: pounding headaches, feeling lethargic and sluggish, so I needed to make some major changes. I don’t want to diet (who does!) but I want to change the way I think about eating. I want to feel healthier and have natural energy.

So after searching I found Kimberly Snyder  a celebrity nutritionist and best-selling author. I looked through Kimberly’s site, and was entranced. She gave so many reasons as too why certain foods work, don’t work and she gave alternatives. You must read Kimberly’s blog. Her Green Glowing Smoothie is a must. Undeniably, it doesn’t look that nice, and I did think as I was making it, ‘Nope, this isn’t going to work. I need to like it, and this doesn’t look that appetising.’ But I was very surprised: it’s so lovely and very refreshing. I’m loving it. She’s also advises on different seeds to include in your diet. So I’ve incorporated mung beans  into my diet. 88g is 85 calories, so I measure this out on a morning, and pick throughout the day. In fact, as I type this I have a glass of Green Glowing Smoothie and Mung Beans on my desk. This is only my fourth day and I can’t tell you how different I feel. I feel better than as if I was drinking lots of caffeine drinks. I think it helps because I do like to eat, chew or generally have something to nibble at (all the time), so both the smoothie and the mung beans are there readily available to just munch on.

Apparently, it takes 21 days to change a habit, so although I’m further along with not having fizzy drinks, I’m looking forward to reaching 21 days and incorporating the Green Glowing Smoothie in my diet for ever.

If you want to lose weight and have more energy, I would definitely recommend you sign up to Kimberly Synder’s blog today. I can’t believe the change in my body, skin and energy is such a short space of time. So it can only get better from here.

Here’s to a happier healthier lifestyle, good luck x