I love the quote above by Jane Seymour. Think about this quote and think about someone you would describe as radiant.

Think about this person and ask yourself, what makes them radiant?

If you are thinking about the way they dress or how they look, then you are missing the point of radiance … because radiance comes from within.

Radiance is the person who smiles, laughs and brings energy with them that is infectious.

Often, radiance can be wiped from us due to everyday life getting in the way (that treadmill I talk about). From the 9-5 mundane job you are stuck in, to the busy schedule of family life. The only thing radiating from many people by the end of the day is tiredness.

So how can you become more radiant and spread that radiance to others?

 

Firstly, think about your life?

Is there something that drags you down?

Can you change this?

Sometimes we can’t. Sometimes we have to take a new perspective on the ‘thing’ that is affecting our radiance. Changing your thoughts to a situation can give you renewed energy.

Here’s a little exercise to get you started:

  1. Write down the things you can change: a quick change, or a change that will happen over a period of time.
  2. Write down a plan to how you can make these changes: writing down your thoughts, emotions and plans is a great way to become focused on the task at hand. If a certain change needs a long time-frame, write down the steps needed to make this change happen.
  3. Now, write down the things you can’t change, as much as you would like to, but you feel these things can’t be changed.
  4. Look at the things you can’t change and write down the positive aspects. Change the way you look at these things, think about how you could embrace them into your life, how can you view these things from a different perspective. This task may be hard, but you will be able to draw something from this. Learning to love whatever life throws at you, helps to release good energy rather than negative dull energy that will affect other areas of your life.

We often wake up on a morning, with all the tasks we’ve got to complete, things we’ve got to do … pulling ourselves from our bed, we then put ourselves on autopilot and make our way through the day. Sound familiar?

One of the best ways to start your day is with gratitude …

Before you get out of bed on a morning, think about the things you are grateful for in your life. Say thank-you aloud. If you can jump out of bed shouting ‘thank-you’ you’ll soon notice a difference in your mood … and people will soon notice your radiance.

Here are a few more tips on how you can become more radiant:

1. Practise mindfulness: You can practise mindfulness through meditation, or simply look through my blog, there are several blog posts that will help you practise mindfulness. From finding your quiet, to soothing your soul, plus there are plenty of therapeutic writing exercises.

2. Rise above your troubles: Life sometimes throws us a curveball, but often situations arise because they have a deeper meaning. The best way to do this, is to ask yourself: what am I learning from this situation? What can I be grateful for? How will this situation affect me in a year’s time? What can you do to make the situation better? Challenge yourself, fight your way through … get up every morning with a smile and a grateful heart and your radiance will shine through. 

3. Connect with others: When you’re out and about smile at others. A smile, a friendly hello or a small interaction with someone who crosses your path during the day, can give you an energetic boost. Don’t underestimate the power of connecting with others to increase your mood, this will inevitably lead to you becoming more radiant.

Making a conscious effort to be more radiant by bringing all of the above together. This is sure to bring out a radiance that will shine onto others.

You can read the previous blog post on the A-Z Inspirational Blog; R is for Radiance:

BECOME A MORE RADIANT YOU!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Embracing your time alone is good for the mind, soul and heart. Solitude is a great way to recharge your internal batteries. The world can often be busy and chaotic, we can be running from one place to another and not really taking concentrated time to be quiet; to just sit and breathe.

Research has shown that quiet-time relieves stress, tension and helps to boost a person’s mental state. Too much time alone can have an opposite effect, however, on a day-to-day basis when life is full of schedules, deadlines, places to be, things to do, it’s very important to find time to be and relish in quiet.

As a parent, I understand the limited ‘quiet time’ available, however, I have to ensure I do have quiet time, whether this is just 5-10 minutes before bed, or before the craziness starts on a morning, but I know it makes me a better parent. I know it gives me time to focus, re-adjust and feel gratitude.

Researchers have said that meditation is so important, however, many people find it hard to connect with their inner selves. There are many meditation downloads you can choose from that will help you find your inner peace, however, if you prefer to be a bit more active here are 5 ways to enjoy some quiet time and switch off from your hectic world:

1. Bath with candles – either quietly or listening to some soft music

I love baths. A hot soak with bubbles, candles and some soft music can be just the thing to soothe the soul. Being mum, it isn’t always possible to have a bath without the interruptions of children. If you have children who go to bed and sleep, that’s awesome, ‘us mums’ who didn’t succeed in that department praise you. However, those who have children who don’t sleep, need to find their quiet time, dare I say, probably even more so …

I’ve known myself to get in the bath at 1.am and onwards … just to feel the soak of the water and relax from a hectic day. I find water relaxing, although, I’m not a lover of swimming. I love stepping into the heat of the bath and just knowing that calmness surrounds me. I can’t use my laptop in the bath, I can’t run errands, I can’t be sorting the house out. It stops you from doing the tasks that can feel mundane and can relax your mind so that you can recharge and feel in control again.

2. Go walking

By going out walking, we all know it’s a great way to keep fit and healthy, but this is a great way to also find your quiet.

I reiterate this throughout my blog posts, walking in the fresh air is a natural and free way to lift your mood. Research has shown that exposing ourselves to fresh air can relieve stress and anxiety. It can affect the serotonin levels released in our bodies, which then leads to feeling happy and relaxed.

Researchers at New Mexico Highlands University (NMHU) found that the foot’s impact during walking sends pressure waves through the arteries that significantly modify and can increase the supply of blood to the brain. (See science daily)

So whether you walk in silence, or with your headphones on, you will feel immensely better after. You can listen to music or, like myself, listen to an audiobook (I use audible, I absolutely love it, a fab product if you love listening to stories).

3. Read

This is another of my favourites. I love reading all kinds of books, from losing myself in someone else’s fictional drama, learning more about the world of spirituality to being inspired by others who have achieved their goals. Whatever your hobbies and interest, you will find a book that will grab your attention.

4. Jigsaw Puzzles

There have been several studies to show that jigsaws are great for improving both mindfulness and brain activity. You can see more about this on Memory Jogging Puzzles.

Jigsaws have been around for centuries, so it’s not something new, but it may be something that someone hasn’t thought to partake in. Especially in the hustle and bustle of adulthood, the last thing we may consider doing is sitting down to put together a jigsaw.

We all know the world is now full of technology; phones, i-pads, tablets etc. but that isn’t finding our quiet time. Set-up a place in your house; kitchen, bedroom, office etc. where you know you can sit down, focus on a jigsaw and relish in some quiet time.

5. Colour Therapy

Colouring has always been popular for children, but when the colouring books came out for adults, I was in my element. I would colour with my girls when they were younger and found it so relaxing. Therefore having our own designs that are created especially for relaxation, I believe, is just one of the best ideas ever.

Natural Health Courses Website say … colour is just light of varying wavelengths and frequencies. Electromagnetic waves constantly surround us, and colour is part of those waves. Every single cell in the body needs light energy. Our cells absorb colour, and this affects us on every level, physically, emotionally and spiritually.

As above, when doing a jigsaw, find a quiet place to sit, chill and colour.

Why not visit my previous blog post on

‘ The Key to a Peaceful Life is a Quiet Mind’

and have a go at the therapeutic writing exercise

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Opportunities pass us by in life. It’s that simple. Sometimes we don’t even notice them, we dismiss them as an inconvenience. Often the opportunities we do recognise, we overthink the situation and they pass us by. We are embedded in our comfort zone and we are scared to move forward, so rather than grabbing an opportunity, we let it go.

Below, you can find ways to become more open to life’s opportunities. Open your mind, eyes and heart … watch the opportunities come to you once you allow them in.

1. VISUALISE THE OPPORTUNITY YOU WANT, THEN PAY ATTENTION!

We don’t all want the same things in life, it would be a boring world if we did. So think about the opportunities you’d like to be presented with; new job, more money, holiday, new relationship etc.

Visualising and believing you already have this opportunity is a great way to attract it to you. Know what you want and then open your eyes. Opportunities will soon present themselves to you: a promotion, a new job, meeting someone.

A great way to visualise is to write down your visions, dreams, goals etc. Even create a vision board; cut out pictures from magazines or download photos from the internet, paste them onto a board and imagine that you already have these opportunities.

You have to be clear in your mind what it is you want so that the universe can deliver these opportunities to you.

2. MAKE AN EFFORT TO CONNECT AND NETWORK WITH PEOPLE

Even if you’re not the most sociable of people, there are ways to connect with the outside world. If you work in a huge corporate company, there will be ways you can talk and build relationships with other people in different departments. Make conversations when you are in the lift or passing on the stairs. A smile can lead to a, ‘Hello’, to a, ‘Gosh, it’s cold outside’ … within weeks you could be having full-blown conversations about your lives. You never know who you are talking to, you never know where these conversations can lead to … an opportunity could arise and you could be in someone’s mind, simply because you are friendly.

If you don’t have the opportunity as above, building relationships professionally online is a great way to expand your network. LinkedIn is specially designed for business. Opportunities arise through such networks constantly, but it’s about building your own profile and looking out for these opportunities.

Even when you’re out and about; say for example you’re in a queue, strike up a conversation with the person in front of you, or compliment a stranger on something you notice. Again, you never know who you are speaking to, you never know what opportunities could arise. And, even if no opportunities come from these random conversations, you will feel good. Passing on the love to others; making them feel good will inevitably make you feel good. Your feel-good vibes will reflect out to the universe … and the universe will deliver more feel-good vibes back.

3. VOLUNTEER / JOIN A NEW CLUB 

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Are you passionate about something? Animals? Reading? Sewing? Exercise?

You could volunteer some of your time at a local project. There are plenty of projects looking for volunteers, from animal rescue places to vulnerable people projects. What makes you happy? You never know who else is volunteering. You never know the opportunities that can arise.

If the above doesn’t float your boat, how about joining a club; a book club, a running club or flower club, these are just examples. Set-up your own club if you can’t find something locally. You will be amazed at the type of people you will meet, and these meetings could lead to something bigger and better.

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4. SAY YES!

Sounds simple, right? But how many times have you said, ‘Yes,’ to something that makes you feel uncomfortable? How many times have you stopped yourself doing something because it scares you? Makes you nervous? How many times have you thought, ‘I wish I could, but I just can’t?’ This is where you have to let go of your inhibitions. Your barriers to opening up will be preventing opportunities coming your way. This is the time to take yourself out of your comfort zone and allow opportunities in.

5. SELL YOURSELF WHEREVER YOU GO!

Sound egotistical?

It doesn’t need to be. You don’t need to be conceited, you just need to be aware that you want people to think of you if an opportunity was to arise. For example; you want your boss to think of you when an opening for manager arises. Or even on a relationship level, you want Linda, from accounts, to think about you when her nephew becomes single.

It’s about being out there. It’s about others knowing about you. Selling yourself isn’t about talking all about YOU! YOU! YOU! It’s about interacting with others. Selling yourself is not only about your skills and abilities, it’s about your personality and character. Linda, from accounts, may like the idea that you’re not lazy and you’re very good at your job, but if you come across cold and insensitive, then you may be on her mind when her nephew is single, but it will be for the wrong reason! She’ll be keeping you far away.

Personality and character has much to do with success, in all areas of our lives. If people receive good vibes from yourself, they will automatically remember you. So wherever you go, smile, chat and be a bundle of light that people can’t forget.

Remember; the universe will deliver more light to you when you are shining yours.

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I’ve become a little obsessed with peace poles since I discovered them …

A what? You may be asking …

The Peace Pole Project

was created to spread peace across the world.

These are poles (they look similar to a fence post) and each side is decorated. When you create and plant a peace pole, you are connecting to people all over the world. There are thousands of peace poles across the globe. They are designed as reminders to give out love for world peace.

Peace Poles inscribed with the message, May Peace Prevail On Earth,
is a trademark icon of
The Peace Pole Project

Would you like to create your own? This is a great activity to do with children. Not only is it fun, but it will give them insight into spreading and feeling peace within themselves and for our world.

1. BUY YOUR POLE

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Your local garden centre or building supplies will have a range of wooden posts. If you’re not sure about using wood, you can use PVC, that is made to look like wood.

Ask the supplier what is the best way to prepare the posts; for painting and outside use. If you explain your project, they will advise the best equipment/materials needed.

But be prepared to; scrub, sand and use a primer. These will be the basics. There will be lots of drying time needed before you start decorating your pole.

2. DESIGN YOUR POLE

Decide what words, pictures and colours you would like on your pole. If you’re stuck for ideas, there’s plenty of images on Pinterest to get your creative juices flowing. Research other peace poles, write and plan your ideas.

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3. SET OUT YOUR DESIGN

It’s best to draft your design on a piece of paper before you actually start drawing/painting on your pole. So get to work with words, colours and wonderful pictures.

4. SKETCH LIGHTLY ONTO THE POLE

Once you are happy with your design, sketch lightly onto the pole, therefore if you make any mistakes, you can either rub them out or they are not as visible.

5. PAINT OR COLOUR YOUR POLE

Once you are happy with your sketching, start using colours to bring the pole to life. Depending on the type of post you have chosen, will depend on the type of colouring you can use. Again, when purchasing your post, ask for advice. Would felt-tips work, or is paint better? Get as much information from the store as possible.

6. FINISH OFF WITH VARNISH

When your colouring is complete, using a varnish, or similar product will protect your post from extreme weather conditions. You don’t want your peace pole dripping with ink after a rainstorm. Make sure you get advice from the store when you purchase your pole.

7. DISPLAY OUTSIDE AND SHOW THE WORLD

Secure the pole into the ground in your garden. You can even place them in plant pots if you have no place in your garden. Once you have displayed your pole, take a photo and upload onto the peace pole project website. You can also show others through social media what you have created, encourage others to take part and make their own peace poles.

Click here, if you would like to participate in a therapeutic writing exercise to help you find your inner peace? 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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10 Ways To Nourish Your Mind

Are you nourishing your mind?

In my last blog post on N is for Nourish, I talked about the importance of nourishing the mind. So this week, I thought I’d talk about ways in which you CAN nourish your mind.

When your mind is nourished, your body and soul will follow. Having a healthy mind is the first steps to having a healthy body & soul. Looking after your mind’s wellbeing is the key to living a happy life.

So here are some ways you can give your mind some TLC:

1.GO FOR A WALK

This is one of my favourites. Getting some fresh air is a great way to feel refreshed because it provides energy and the oxygen intake allows us to feel better. So a twenty-minute walk a day can really help to fight negative emotions, feelings and thoughts.

2. READ / LISTEN TO AUDIO BOOKS

Being a writer, I’m an avid reading. As much as I love fiction, I also love spiritual, inspirational and motivational books. Books that really help me grow and connect with my inner-self & guides. So if I am walking, I will stick on my headphones and listen to books about angels, past-lives, soul-development, living with passion etc. Being certified in the Law of Attraction, I practice mindfulness daily. It truly is important to keep our thoughts positive. When our minds are fresh and in a good place, as the Law of Attraction tells us, we’ll attract good things to us.

3. READ POSITIVE MESSAGES/QUOTES & AFFIRMATIONS

You will find endless positivity on my blog and my shop. When times were at their worst; I was pregnant with our second child, living at my in-laws (because my ex-husband’s business had taken a downward slope practically overnight), we had no idea when we would be able to afford to move out … it was all a bit of a mess! My own family weren’t around to support and it was a very hard time. However, it was at this point in my life when I started to collect inspirational quotes. I would write them down onto a spreadsheet and I couldn’t believe how much it helped.

I realised I had so much to be grateful for. I was pregnant with our 2nd child, how could I not be relishing in this love. We were so lucky that we didn’t need treatment, that I fell pregnant so easily (trust me, if anyone knows anything about depression and sex-drive, you’ll get that we were VERY lucky to fall pregnant so easily!). I was extremely grateful for that. We had a roof over our heads and my in-laws were so lovely, they really looked after us.

So once, I started to look at life from a gratitude point of view, my world changed. It wasn’t long before my husband got a business opportunity and we moved into a 2-bedroomed house, which we rented, but I was so grateful that we had the opportunity to move our life forward & not look at the negative. Since then, I read positive quotes & affirmations daily & I create my own. Hence the reason I set-up my online shop, as I feel it is important to surround yourself with reminders that you do have so much love to give and so much to be grateful for. You can also download my free inspirational messages book, which will show you how to make your own inspirational box.

4. WRITE DOWN POSITIVE MESSAGES/QUOTES & AFFIRMATIONS

As above, it’s just as important to write down quotes & affirmations. I think this really helped me. Just putting them into a spreadsheet. I wasn’t sure what I was going to do with them, but it truly helped. I did eventually make them into ‘annual quote a day’ books, and the process truly helped. It still does now. I’m a true believer this really works. In fact, my own quote is:

‘Positive messages throughout the day help to keep the negative thoughts away.’

You don’t need to use a spreadsheet, you can use a notebook or something that will inspire you. Buy a blackboard or a noticeboard and write down an affirmation/quote for the day. This will help the whole family come from a place of love and believe in themselves. Perfect for inspiring children. Just like the downloadable inspirational quotes will help to lift our children so that they become well-rounded adults who believe in themselves.

5. THERAPEUTIC WRITING

Now, this is my thing! Being an author, of course, I love writing and I love writing my inspirational blog, so I’m bound to say writing helps. But it’s actually a renowned form of therapy. It’s a great way to explore your emotions. The best way is to simply write, without thinking about WHAT you are writing. Just write. It’s like allowing your mind to be released of any pent-up frustrations. The best of it is, with therapeutic writing, you don’t need to be the best writer, best speller or know your grammar, because that’s not what it is about. It’s about writing for you and releasing toxic thoughts.

You will find writing prompts in my A-Z positive word blog.

Just pick a letter you’d like to work on, read the quotes and have a go at the exercise.

I found it also helps, that once my thoughts have been released, is to then think about what I want from a situation, so I write a ‘fantasy page’, I put out my desires to the universe but on paper, as if I’ve already received them, as if my desires have already happened and how that makes me feel. The thing with the Law of Attraction is, people struggle with imagination, so by writing down how something would make you feel, it’s easier to imagine it. It’s not only a great way to release, but it’s a great way to bring joy into your life. Experts at League City Integrative Counseling and Wellness will offer you guidance and expert advice.

6. LISTEN TO MUSIC / MEDITATE

When many people hear the word meditation, they believe that they can’t meditate, because they can’t sit still for five minutes and think of nothing. Admittedly, I found this a struggle at first, but after trying guided meditations I soon learned how to meditate alone. However, I found that music can be a huge avenue to relaxation, I found this out when I went to a Gabrielle Bernstein seminar. She played, ‘Titanium’ by Madilyn Bailey, she asked us all to stand up, close our eyes, put our hands in the air and feel the music … even as I write this I get shivers.

The feeling of joy and calmness filled my body. Since then, I truly listen to the music. I truly listen to the words and feel the music. A great way to listen to music is when you are out walking or when you are in the car (obviously not to close your eyes, but to feel it) … my girls and I are always blasting music and singing at the top of our voices. They had a friend in the car just yesterday, we blasted some music, we sang, we got our groove on … her friend said, ‘I never want to leave this car.’ It’s amazing how much a good sing-song can release those endorphins … so choose some of your favourite songs and get blasting those vocal cords.

7. START A PROJECT OF LOVE

Do something you love. This could be a scrapbook of a holiday, party or significant life event. Put aside some time to create something. If you’re not a creative person, do something that makes you happy. A passion project that will have you excited.

8. DECLUTTER / MAKE SPACE

This is kind of a given in the world of feng-shui. Clutter and mess can cause disorganisation. Now, I always say I have an ‘organised mess’ because I know where everything is, however, I have to admit I do work better when I’m not surrounded by wildness (I don’t mean nature, although, often feels like I’m sat in the middle of a zoo). There’s a wonderful feeling when you clear out the clutter that is causing your mind to feel like a chaotic roundabout. So book a day in your diary and clear out those cupboards … you may have things you can give to charity or for a car boot sale, whichever, you will feel such a calming release once you are decluttered.

9. INDULGE IN A CROSSWORD/WORDSEARCH/SUDOKU/JIGSAW PUZZLE

This to some people may sound extremely boring, but trust me, these activities truly work. Find something that you’re interested in, even sitting down to a colour therapy book is a great way to switch off, because your mind is concentrating on the task at hand, so other worries can be pushed to the back of your mind.

10. LIMIT TECHNOLOGY TIME

In this day and age, this last one is like swearing at people. How on earth did we live without such technology? When I was a teenager, I remember sitting on the stairs to use the house phone and making sure my sister didn’t pick up the other phone to listen in on our conversation. How times have changed? Don’t get me wrong … I do love the way technology has moved on and things we can do today are amazing, it makes running a business much easier: I can sit in my car on the school run and work on my phone – however, there comes a point when it’s too much. One of the sayings we’ve used as a family is, ‘When in the room, be in the room!’ This means, engage with each other. Make time for each other. Listen to each other. Spend time without our heads in any kind of technological device.

You can read more about nourishing the mind on my previous post;

have a go at the therapeutic writing exercise

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