It’s February the month of love …

Personally, I think every single day should be about love!

Every single day should start with gratitude, appreciation and knowing that if you come from a place of love, not much negativity can touch you.

This isn’t about having ‘the love of your life’, this about love for yourself and for others.

I may now be going into a slight loving rant about ‘love is the only way to look at the world and how your perspective will change when you come from a place of love …’ but I’m sure if you read my posts, you’ll already know this.

In this month’s blog post, I thought it only fair to share the love with your loved ones. On the 14th February, people go all out to show their other half how much they mean to them, but sometimes the simplest, but most thoughtful, gifts can be the gem that catches their heart.

You can see the following designs on my online shop; purchase, download, print and frame.

10 PRINTS FOR ONLY £4.99 IN 2 DIFFERENT SIZES; 8X10 & 4X6 … YOU CAN USE THEM OVER AND OVER AGAIN

Show your other half how much they set your soul on fire.

All the above are available on my online inspiring vibes shop.

You can get all 10 prints for ONLY £4.99 … in 2 different sizes!

SPREAD THE LOVE

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It’s January, the beginning of a New Year, we’re all fired up to achieve our resolutions, we know we’re going to make this ‘THE BEST YEAR EVER!’

We usually get New Year’s Day out of the way …

Day 2: We are on it!

Day 3 – We did well yesterday, we’ve got this!

Day 4 – This could be harder than we thought!

Day 5 – We give-up maybe next year …

The above may seem extreme, but most of us have been there. Many of us have had good intentions and not even reached day 2, let alone day 5.

I’m of the opinion that it doesn’t matter what day it is, you’ll know when you are ready to make a change. Even when you’re ready, the first few days can feel empowering … and we can start to lose our motivation, or belief, because things are not happening as fast as we would like them too.

If you read my blog or my writings, you’ll know one of my mantras is:

‘small steps count’

There’s a saying: ‘If this was your last day, what would you do today?’

Well, my answer to that is: ‘Take my daughters out of school, drive to hills, drink champagne and have a picnic!’

Now let’s be honest, if I lived every day like it was my last, I’d be an alcoholic and the social services would be making enquiries …

So, on a serious note, I get the meaning behind this quote … but it’s more realistic to ask yourself this question:

‘If I was to die tomorrow, what would I regret NOT doing?’

They’ll be things you want to achieve in your life, and today is the day to think about these things and start putting some plans in place.

If you read my blog, you’ll know I’m obsessed with therapeutic writing. Brainstorming is somewhat the same, you are releasing your thoughts onto paper. Once you do this, think about a plan and a strategy that will help you achieve your goal.

Now here’s the hardest part: putting that plan in place and sticking to it. Every day is important, every day is a new day. Every day is a chance to start again and stay focused. Don’t worry if you have a wobbly day, don’t continue down that spiral, pick yourself up and start again the next day.

One of my favourite quotes is from Zig Ziglar:

‘People often say that motivation doesn’t last. Well, neither does bathing, that’s why we recommend it daily’

It’s important to keep yourself motivated daily to ensure your goals will be achieved.

Another of my own mantras is:

‘Positive messages throughout the day, help to keep the negative thoughts away’

Surrounding yourself with positive quotes, messages and affirmations are a wonderful way to keep motivated.

They will help you believe in yourself, focus and work hard towards your dream.

In this post, I’ve included 30 affirmations.

These can be purchased and downloaded on my online shop.

Available in 2 different sizes; 4×6 and 8×10.

You can even make this post a favourite and refer back to it daily!

I just personally love having quotes around my home, not only for myself but as inspiration for my daughters and anyone who enters our home.

See below the affirmations you could download, print and frame.

All the above are available on my online inspiring vibes shop.

You can get all 30 prints for ONLY £10.00 … in 2 different sizes!

You can use them to motivate yourself or give as a gift to a loved one who may need a boost.

Or inspire colleagues by placing around your workspace.

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How often do you stop to take in your wonderful life? How often do you make a conscious effort to stop what you are doing and take stock of your life? Do you feel too busy and too tired? Can you see the beauty or only the barriers?

In life, there is only one guarantee … it will eventually end! As morbid as that sounds, as much as I believe in past-lives and our souls journeying through many lifetimes, this particular lifetime will come to an end at some point. Hopefully, it’s a long way off, however, what are doing to cherish the moments in this lifetime? Are you on the treadmill of life? Just letting the days pass you by?

Here are 5 signs you are zooming through life …

1.You don’t have time for family or friends you make excuses not to see people because you feel as if your schedule is already hectic.

2. You feel as if your free-time doesn’t exist – you don’t feel as if you have a minute to yourself and when you do, you’re far too tired to do anything. 

3. You don’t seem to have the motivation to do things – if you’re overtired or overwhelmed by your to-do list it can be hard to motivate yourself to do other things. 

4. Every day is a blur and you can’t wait for Friday – if you’re going through the motions of a 9-5 job, hanging onto your weekends, this is a sure sign that you’re simply existing rather than living.

5. You have nothing to look forward too – this doesn’t have to be a holiday or time away, it could be an evening with friends, a night at the cinema … if you have nothing to look forward to, get something booked in your diary.

What can you do to slow things down

All the above link in together, you are wading through each day, waiting for it to end. But you’re too busy to stop doing what needs to be done, you’re lacking the energy to make the changes. Now, if you’re on, what I call, ‘the treadmill of life’, it’s time to make some changes.

You may need some drastic changes; such as a change of lifestyle. This could be a change of job or a healthy change to your routine. Joining a gym or a club. If you feel you need a complete change, think about the things that would make you happy.

I love this question: What would you do if you knew you couldn’t fail?

If you want big changes in your life sometimes we have to put small steps in place to make this happen. We often don’t make those changes because we can’t see the woods for the trees. Start writing a plan and brainstorm some ideas.

Ask yourself: What can I do today to start making changes?

However, you may not need the changes to be so drastic. You may just feel the mundane routine of life is passing you by. You may feel the excitement is just not there. You can put small things into place such as meeting with friends. Organise a night at the cinema or at the local quiz night. Do something with people who make you laugh. This will soon give you something to look forward to. Start filling your diary up with events. Not so much that you stress yourself out, but even if it’s once a month, even better if you can commit to once a week, but even arranging the first event is a step forward. Once you surround yourself with people whose company you enjoy, you will want to make more time to be with them.

Life is too short to be getting up every morning, getting on life’s treadmill and not getting off until it’s time for bed.

Make the changes, make something happen … push yourself to slow down and enjoy the ride.

If you’d like to read about zooming in on life’s possibilities and take part in a therapeutic writing exercise,

to see how you can zoom in on the positives of life,

you can read the previous blog post here

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How many times have you said, ‘Yes’ to someone, when you really mean, ‘No’? And how many times has this stressed you out?

When we say, ‘Yes’ too many times, people can start taking advantage. Does this remind you of anyone?

Do you know of someone who says, ‘Yes’, when you know they mean, ‘No’?

This comes down to self-care. When you put others before yourself, you don’t allow yourself to grow. Sometimes we don’t have a choice, we have family commitments, work commitments and other commitments that must be fulfilled. However, there are times when we are asked to do something, and we feel we can’t say, ‘No’.

So we often say, ‘Yes’, and suffer the consequences of it interfering in our own lives. This can lead to resentment. This has a ripple effect that can lead to uncomfortableness within friendship and family groups.

Saying, ‘No’ is about setting personal boundaries. Once you know what your boundaries are, and others know what your boundaries are, they will have to respect this. It’s time to get rid of the guilt. Once you practice self-care, you’ll have more to give other people, and yes, sometimes this means saying, ‘NO!’

Daring to set boundaries is about having the courage to love ourselves even when we risk disappointing others

Brene Brown

I felt the need to write about this subject, as it has been something I have struggled with myself. I was an all-around yes person! I’d fit people in, change plans for other people and end up in many situations helping others. I would bend over backwards to help anyone even at the detriment of myself. However, I’ve learnt to say ‘No’ – at first it was hard. I felt guilty. I felt I was letting people down, however, as time went on I realised those who care me, truly understand why I was saying no. This didn’t happen overnight … and even now, I can find myself in a situation and I think, am I being tested? Because I am a person who is full of love and I love helping people. However, I have to judge now whether there is too much implication on my own life. If I feel the situation doesn’t suit me, I simply say, no!

I judge the situation because sometimes, I say, ‘Yes’ and I mean it, but I feel happiness at saying yes.

You too, will feel happiness, if the ‘yes’ suits you. Our mind, body and soul, knows if a situation suits us. We know when we say, ‘Yes’ and we mean it! We also know the feeling of that dark cloud that comes over us when we say, ‘Yes’ but we mean, ‘No’: that frustration, irritation and disappointment. When we are experiencing those feelings, it’s time to draw on our boundaries, it’s time to draw a line of what we are willing to accept.

We can say, ‘Yes’ when we mean, ‘No’ for many reasons: we don’t want to appear selfish, we don’t want to let someone down, we don’t want to seem rude, we don’t want the person to feel rejected … but in the process of saying ‘Yes’, you are doing these things to yourself.

If you read my blog posts, you’ll know I always ask you to come from a place of ‘love’ – so you may ask yourself, ‘How can I be showing love if I’m saying no?’ But ask yourself this … ‘If you are feeling resentment, if you are feeling begrudged, how is that coming from a place of love?’ You are not showing love to the person in question and you are not showing love to yourself. So there’s not much love flowing here … and with the rule of the Law of Attraction, you will attract more resentment! It’s amazing how this works.

So this isn’t asking you to say, ‘No’ to everything and everyone, as I said, you will know when you truly mean ‘Yes!’ It feels good. You are then sending love.

So, if you have the courage, which I know you do, to say, ‘No’ and mean, ‘No’, you may feel guilty, you may feel you are letting that person down, but ask yourself what are you gaining from this? Give yourself a hug, be proud of your decision and know that you are sending love to yourself and in turn, this will spread to others … and guess what, you’ll attract more love to yourself.

So, I talked a lot about saying ‘Yes’ when we mean ‘No’ … however, there are times when we should be ‘Yes’ and we don’t!

Read here, how to turn-up & say Yes …

Say YES to yourself!

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There are many therapies that allow people to express themselves through creativity.

If you read my blog, you’ll know that one of my favourite avenues is writing. Therapeutic writing, automatic writing and self-reflective writing are all amazing avenues to express emotions, feelings and thoughts. Writing therapy has become increasingly popular. But not everyone feels comfortable with expressing themselves through this form.

There are so many ways in which we can connect with our inner selves. There are many creative avenues and many of these avenues are used in a professional capacity.

Let’s take a look at a few, you may find a creative outlet for yourself:

Music therapy

Music can be calming, soothing or upbeat and fun. It’s great for energy release and is often used for meditation. Usually, in music therapy, people work with numerous instruments, they connect with the sounds and this can be accompanied by singing.

You can see, The British Association for Music Therapy, which gives a professional overview of this type of therapy.

However, if you’d like to know more about using music therapy in your home, Education.com, have created a very informative article that includes a range of wonderful Music Therapy Techniques to Try at Home.

Dance Therapy/Movement

Dance/movement therapy in the US, or dance psychotherapy in the UK, uses dance to express emotion.

It is thought to be an awesome avenue for self-expression. It is also a way of keeping fit, but for those who are less mobile, or have chronic illnesses, it can help with muscle flexibility. These, in turn, help to improve self-confidence, which leads to a healthier state of mind.

You can read more on the association of dance movement psychotherapy.

Art Therapy

Art therapy is extremely popular. It is used with children, teenagers, adults and older people. It is used with all kinds of groups from those with physical disabilities, mental health issues and other vulnerable groups.

Again this type of therapy allows an individual to express themselves through, drawing, painting or creating something. It’s a great way to focus on the task at hand, it can improve dexterity, skills and overall well-being.

Either creating something yourself or joining an art therapy group, you will soon use this type of therapy to connect with your soul. A wonderful and renowned way of expressing yourself.

You can read more here about Art Therapy.

Dramatherapy

This is another popular psychological therapy that is used with vulnerable groups. It is a great way to improve emotional well-being. Students can use their own experiences to express their feelings, through stories, role-play, dress-up etc.

You can see more about dramatherapy here. 

Expressing yourself through creativity at home

The therapies above are to give you an indication of the type of therapies that are available.

You can use any of the above and try them at home by yourself, or even ask a group of friends to join you.

You could try colour therapy, sewing, textiles, journaling, painting, crafts … there is so much available to you. It doesn’t have to cost much money. Once you start working on a project of love, you’ll find you have so much to express. Once you start expressing in your chosen form, watch how your mind, body and soul feel better.

If you would like to see more about expressing yourself and how it can help you in life

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