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This week’s inspirational word

J IS FOR JUMP

Jumping doesn’t sound like the most inspirational of words, however, the connotation behind it can mean so much more than we can imagine. Let’s look at it from the verb that it is, ‘Jump’ – Give yourself a shake on a morning, stick on some tunes and jump! Yes, if you’ve got kids, get them to join in and jump, dance and shake away all that negativity that may be hanging over you first thing on a morning. Not only is this a great way to start your day, if you do have kids, you’ll be showing them the best way to live their life.Once you’ve jumped around the kitchen in your pj’s, you’ll feel that you can jump into life.

Starting your morning routine with a jump is a great way to increase your energy levels. Increased energy levels will allow you to live life from a positive angle.

Ok, so maybe you don’t have any inclination to jump out of bed on a morning and dance around the kitchen, but on a serious note, you should look at jumping into a life you want and deserve. A leap into your passions, the things that make you tick. If you jump into your life and follow your heart, you’ll want to jump out of bed every morning and dance around the kitchen.

I know, it seems like a catch-22 situation … but you must take the plunge to live a different life, if the life you are leading at the moment isn’t serving you. You must take the jump to make the changes and grow. When you take the leap you have to hold on and fly with it. There’s no point half-heartedly attempting, yes take small steps, but your heart and soul needs to be in it, even if the steps are small, because if the slightest hiccup occurs, you’ll be running the other way fast. Once you start running the other way it’s hard to get back on track. But when you take a jump that fills your body with joy, you will knock down any barriers that come your way.

Sometimes we need an extra push to take a plunge, take a risk or simply live our life. Fear is your ego talking. Telling you not to take the jump. Fear will stop you leading the life you truly deserve. If you listen to your fear, you will allow circumstances, situations and people to get in the way of the life you SHOULD be leading.

Is there something you long to do with your life? Is there a dream you wish to fulfil? Waiting for circumstances to change or be perfect before you take that jump, will inevitably leave you standing still; stuck in the same spot. If you feel an urge to make a change in your life, follow your instincts, follow your gut and make it happen.

Jump into the life you want; the life you deserve – only you can make these changes. If jumping feels scary then do it in stages, take baby steps, because remember the smallest steps count.

In this week’s therapeutic writing exercise, ask yourself these questions; (and then free write for as long as needed)

If I could take one jump in my life, what would it be?

Why would I want to take this jump?

What difference would this jump make to my life?

How would it improve my energy levels?

What can I do to make this jump happen?

Remember: Positive messages throughout the day, helps the negative thoughts stay away.

So be inspired daily with this

free inspirational guide.

Love & happiness to you always

Victoria xx

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This week’s inspirational word

I IS FOR IMAGINATION

We use logic every day. We live our lives logically. That’s the way the world works. That’s what we’ve had brainwashed into us since we realised all the make-believe playing we did as a child was just that, play! It was us using our imagination to create a whole new world. More than likely you were told that imagination is for children. As we grow out of childhood, the play stops. As teenagers, we want to be just that, ‘teenagers’, we don’t want to labelled immature and childish, so as we grow older we stop using our imaginations as much.

We become adults and more often than not, in the daily routine of life, we forget how to use our imagination. We get caught up in chores, tasks and deadlines, we forget to use our inner child to bring to us what we want from life. We might have children and watch them use their imaginations to play, we feel nostalgic and, maybe a little sad, because we think, if only life could be all imagination and play. As adults, we forget this is one of the key ingredients to living a happier more fulfilled life.

Here she goes again, I hear you saying, with her fluffy view on life … I love it if you did say that. I do have a very fluffy view on life. Proudly so. Life is full of joy and happiness. When I think about how wonderful life is, I feel all marshmallowy inside. I’m warmed by the miracles and magic that have happened in my own life and I know that’s why I have to write these blog posts, to get you to understand the fulfilment you can have in your own life, if you simply imagine it.

As I always tell people, I haven’t always been so bubbly and positive … gosh, in my early twenties, I was probably the biggest mood-hoover roaming the earth! But it is amazing what can happen when you start coming from a place of love, gratitude and joy. Amazing things happen.

The Law of Attraction works. It is always working whether you have positive or negative thoughts, it is working and it is delivering back to you those thoughts. So just imagine, if you could imagine something and make it happen!

Have you heard the saying, ‘Fake it, until you make it’? Think about this, while you’re faking it, you’re imagining living the life you want. So whether you want to run your own business, be healthier or have more ‘me-time’ – if you start to imagine these things are happening. They soon will. It sounds simple. If it is that simple, why isn’t this working for everyone?

The thing is, it is working, but people are not believing either in themselves, their ideas, their imagination or all of these things. So the Law of Attraction is working … if you don’t truly believe in this imaginary world then you’re telling the universe it is imaginary. You’re not allowing yourself to be deserving of this imaginery world. Your imagination is so powerful, but a true core belief has to come with it.

The Law of Attraction works simply; what you think about you attract. So use your imagination to attract the life you want … the life you deserve.

Imagine a life full of laughter, joy and happiness … sit back for five minutes and imagine yourself in this state of euphoria.

Now let’s use this week’s therapeutic writing exercise to help you get there;

Simply use the free-writing technique to answer this question; (just write, don’t stop writing until you have poured out onto the paper the life you wish to imagine).

Question: Write your own story … write a story of bliss, happiness, joy … where are you? What are you doing? What does your life look like?Imagine your best life … what does it look like? Use your senses to imagine this life … what can you see? Hear? Smell? Touch? Taste?

Remember: Positive messages throughout the day, helps the negative thoughts stay away.

So be inspired daily with this

free inspirational guide.

Love & happiness to you always

Victoria xx

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This week’s inspirational word

H IS FOR HEART

‘Love’ is one of my favourite words … once you start living a life of love, rather than, jealousy, anger, hatred etc. you realise how wonderful life can be. So opening up your heart and letting the world in, is the greatest gift you can give yourself.

The best way to open your heart is to look at all the things you have to be grateful for. There is so much in your life that you could be taking for granted; your family, your health, your job … Once you start realising how blessed you are, your heart will naturally sore.

Life, for myself, has not always been easy. There have been devastating family fallouts, to a point I didn’t know how to get out of bed on a morning. Over time I’ve learned to live with the situation, as much as I didn’t want to. I’ve learned to forgive even when the other person is no longer around me. I’ve learned that my heart is strong. My giving heart has allowed me to experience other forms of love from friends who have become my family.

Now don’t get me wrong, at one point in my life I felt so alone. You made have heard the saying, ‘there’s a difference between being alone and being lonely.’ You can be in a crowd with thousands of people and still feel lonely. When you have lost that connection with the outside world, your ability to feel with your heart becomes extremely hard. I remember feeling so angry.  This anger didn’t last a day or a week, it lasted for years. It was like a disease inside of me, I couldn’t seem to get myself out of this ball of fury.

If you know much about the Law of Attraction, you’ll understand when I say I just seem to have more and more things to be angry about. It was at this time that a friend of mine introduced me to ‘The Secret.’ The secret changed my life. Since then I have read and learned so much more about the Law of Attraction, the universe, angels and God. There is an indescribable peace within my soul now. Since I lived my life coming from a place of love and having a generous heart, guess what? Yes … I’ve received more love back than I could ever have imagined possible.

So now, whatever the situation or circumstance that years ago would have had me seething, I give my heart and come from a place of love. This didn’t happen overnight. It did take practice to think with my heart. To practice living my life with all my heart. To come from a place of pure love. If you struggle with this, I always say, start with gratitude. Once you start practising gratitude daily you will automatically start coming from a place of love. Today, I wouldn’t know how to live any other way. Living through love and giving my heart always, is so natural to me now. Now, don’t get me wrong there are times when I get upset, of course there is, but the bounce back time to love, understanding and pure heartfelt gratitude is much quicker. I can turn this negative emotion around in seconds. Wouldn’t you love to be able to do that?

Life is full of wonder. Once you open your heart to this amazing prospect you will understand how your heart can be filled with joy. Having a grateful, giving and non-judgemental heart will open you up to an amazing life of warmth.

There are so many wonderful things happening in life and around us, feeling these precious things with our heart and soul is the most amazing experience. Once you start to live from your heart, from a place of love you will receive more love … your heart will sore.

Try it this week, when someone upsets you, stop and think. Don’t just shout or confront them back. Use your heart to give. Breathe deeply and imagine wrapping your arms around this person and smothering them with love. This doesn’t mean that people can walk all over you. The exact opposite, because once you come from a place of love, once you use your heart to make your life decisions, you will find that some people are no longer in your life. We attract our tribe … meaning you attract those in your life who are similar. So if you see something in someone you don’t like, have a little self-analyse of yourself and your own behaviours. It is time to no longer be a mood-hoover, it’s time be the loving, kind, giving individual you were put on this earth to be.

In week’s therapeutic writing exercise let’s look at gratefulness;

1/ Write a list of all the things you are grateful for in your life. What makes your heart swell? Kids, a cosy home, friends, family etc. Really think about all the good in your life.

2/ Write a list of the things you would like to change, at each point, ask yourself why. Write down what you can do to change it. What is your heart telling you to do?

If you feel these questions are too particular, just write … write about your grateful heart. How can you make your heart more grateful? How can you make your heart swell and sore? What can you do differently? Writing with a loving heart is a great way to start understanding your grateful heart.

Remember: Positive messages throughout the day, helps the negative thoughts stay away.

So be inspired daily with this

free inspirational guide.

Love & happiness to you always

Victoria xx

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This week’s inspirational word

G IS FOR GROWTH

 

Becoming stagnant in life is very easily done.

We become accustomed to the routine of life; waking up – kids at school – job – pick kids up – dinner – bed! In addition to that, there will be a mixture of after-school activities, parent taxi-service, household chores and other essential tasks that need fulfilling. Sound familiar?

So then when we talk about growth on a personal level, we often feel we don’t have the capacity to fit anything else in, let alone look after ourselves. Wouldn’t it be great to just feel stable? Really … do we need to bring in the extra pressure of personal growth?

Being stuck in a rut is actually damaging to your health. Read here research from Harvard Medical School about the dangers; Samuel Parkes Cadman said, “the only difference between a rut and a grave is a matter of depth.”

Let’s look at this last quote … ‘unlearning old limits’ … so when we talk about being stuck in a rut, what part of your life do you feel reflects this rut? What old beliefs, if any, do you feel are holding you back?

Is there an area in your life that you want to grow and learn new ways of living? Or as we said above, unlearn habits and limitations? This could be your career, health, family … there could be an area in your life you feel is lacking. It’s your choice to push yourself forward and grow in this area. We always have a choice to either stay where we are or make the changes needed to live the life we want and deserve. Even if these changes are small, a small change made daily is better than no change at all. You will soon see results in this area of your life.

The key to change and growth is staying focused. Sometimes when we need to grow it can be hard work. It can be an effort that we really are not sure we have the energy to pursue. But you can do this. You got this. If you feel a pull towards a certain change, an area in your life that needs your attention so you can grow and prosper then go with it. That pull is there for a reason, you need to follow that pull. Don’t be pushing it back. You may even tell yourself you are pushing it back until ‘later’ … but does ‘later’ ever come? Forget whatever else is going on in your life, and yes, sometimes it isn’t the right time to make changes, but if you feel that it’s never the right time to make changes, then there never will be a right time, so just do it. Just start putting steps in place to push yourself forward.

Continue to grow even when it feels too hard … because this will be the time when you desperately need to grow. Growing will leave these hard times behind.

In this week’s therapeutic writing exercises, let’s look at how you can help yourself grow …

Let’s focus on where you’d like to be in the future. Thinking ahead will help you focus on the tasks that need to be fulfilled to achieve these goals. I’m all for living in the moment, but if you’re not growing as a person, if you feel stuck in a rut, you’re not really living in the moment.

This is a free-writing exercise, so simply write down what comes into your head … (we are going to work back over as it will help you focus on your long-term goals and break them down).

1/ Where would you WANT to be in 10 years time?

2/ Where would you WANT to be in 5 years time?

3/ Where would you WANT to be in 1 year’s time?

Now take each question and break it down … what do you need to do to reach these achievements? Obvious question is, what can you do today to help yourself grow? What can you do today to take you closer to your goal? This includes, what do you need to stop doing to grow? What old beliefs and limitations do you need to change?

Remember; small steps count. Ask yourself; what would you thank yourself for tomorrow?

Throughout all this exercise, remember; YOU GOT THIS! You are strong! You have these urges, passions and goals because you are meant to achieve them. We are all here for a reason, you need to ask yourself if you are fulfilling your reasons for being? If you feel as if you are not growing into the person you want to be, what can you do to make this happen?

If you feel the above questions are too difficult to think about? You’re not sure where you want to be, simply write. Write about the life you’d like to have, where you’d like to be in the future, write about want you feel is holding you back, write about your unlimited beliefs and limitation … simply write and you will find your answers to the above questions.

Remember: Positive messages throughout the day, helps the negative thoughts stay away.

So be inspired daily with this

free inspirational guide.

Love & happiness to you always

Victoria xx

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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This week’s inspirational word

F IS FOR FOCUS

Admittedly this is one word I can struggle with … FOCUS!

What? And I’m writing a blog on it?

Yes … because I’ve had to learn several ways to stay focused on one particular task. I often have many projects on the go at once, which is never a great thing, but they are all projects I want to do. When I lose focus, nothing gets finished. I have projects hanging over me and I wonder which is a priority … then the kids are off school with their half-term holidays which seem to come round pretty fast! Once again, projects are put back, as the chaotic life with kids envelopes our world.

Sound familiar?

The first quote by Eric Thomas and this second quote by T.F.Hodge, seem to contradict each other a little. However, put them together, they do make perfect sense. If you have set yourself a task, then you have a specific outcome you desire. However, focusing daily on steps that will help you reach that outcome is the best way forward.

So in times of life’s upheavals, focus on where you want to be daily, do something in that given moment to help you to move closer to the outcome. Putting plans and steps in place will help you focus on the tasks that need to be achieved.

In this week’s therapeutic creative writing exercise, we are going to FOCUS on lists …

Lists are a fantastic way to off-load everything you need to do and everything you ‘want’ to do. I find, the ‘want’ seems to stay somewhere in the distance when the ‘need to dos’ take over.

How can writing a simple list be classed as therapeutic writing? Try it and see how therapeutic it feels. Even more so, see how therapeutic it feels when you can start ticking off the things you have achieved. Especially, ‘your wants’ list.

So in this exercise, the key is to write 2 lists …

Your first list is your ‘need to do’ list – this could be anything from making kids packed lunches to filing tax returns … get scribbling away! If it helps think about your chores throughout the day, write down the things you MUST do daily.

Your second list is your ‘want to do’ list – this is all the things you would love to squeeze in; this could be a drink with friends, buying a new pair of shoes or simply have a relaxing bath without a child coming in to use the toilet! Obviously, you might want to elaborate a bit more than relaxing baths, such as, developing a new career, starting a healthier lifestyle or achieving a goal that is out of your comfort zone.

Only you can decide what to put on your list, as these are your ‘wants’ – you’ll realise once you start focusing and achieving these ‘wants’ life becomes a happier place to be. A happier place leads to an increase in positive energy, once your positive energy increases so will your focus.

Once you have your lists, you will complete the ‘need to dos’ and they will be a priority, but now focus on something you would love to do. Can you put steps in place to work towards these ‘want’ daily? Even choose one of your ‘wants’ to work towards.

Remember, SMALL STEPS COUNT!

What can you do to start ticking off your ‘want’ list?

Talking about serious personal-development ‘wants’ now – your ‘want’ could be that you’d like to start your own business, you’d like to experiment with a new hobby or you’d like to change a habit. These goals may not seem like a priority to you, however, making them a priority will enhance your well-being and mindfulness. Doing something you love can often make people feel guilty, but focus on the feel-good factor and watch your life improve ten-fold.

Once you focus on what you want from life, you will receive more of what you want. Focus on being grateful for all that you receive and the opportunities available to you – grab your life with both hands. Remember that the universe is always projecting back to us our thoughts. So whatever we focus on, we gain more of. So focus on what you want and make your life amazing.

Remember: Positive messages throughout the day, helps the negative thoughts stay away.

So be inspired daily with this

free inspirational guide.

Love & happiness to you always

Victoria xx