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This week’s inspirational word

L IS FOR LAUGHTER

You’ll have heard the saying, ‘Laughter is the best form of medicine’ … if not, read this awesome health article.

Science says: Laughter decreases stress hormones and increases immune cells and infection-fighting antibodies, thus improving your resistance to disease. Laughter triggers the release of endorphins, the body’s natural feel-good chemicals. Endorphins promote an overall sense of well-being and can even temporarily relieve pain.

For me, laughter is essential in my every day living. Now, admittedly, I do have a wicked sense of humour, so I do find lots of things funny. I laugh at myself, I laugh with my girls, I laugh with my friends. I like to laugh. I’m not quite sure how people get through their days without a dose of laughter.

You may be thinking at this moment, I have nothing to laugh about. There’s always something to laugh about. ALWAYS! Okay, do you find yourself being annoyed when you hear people laughing, because, life just isn’t funny! Why do some people get to have such a good time and you’re feeling down and miserable. How did you get the raw deal?

Ok, this is where we go back to basics … gratitude! Write a list of all things you are grateful for in your life. This will move you slightly out of the heady zone. The zone of self-pity and low self-worth. Really study these things you have in your life, don’t focus on the things that are bringing you down, focus on the good. This is a sure way to start to bring more laughter into your life.

If you are really feeling that laughter is just not happening at the moment, then go for a walk. Walking in the outside air, in nature, is a great way to release endorphins, which will make you feel better which in turn can lead to more laughter.

Even if you’re not feeling the need to laugh, sometimes if we are in a situation that requires us to be polite, fake laughter can lead to real laughter. Try it with just smiling to yourself. Smile to your heart’s content. Smile until it actually does lead to laughter.

We can all find different things funny, I find most things funny, from comedians to practical jokes … I can find myself in situations where I shouldn’t laugh, but I do! They are the worst. But that’s because I don’t take myself or life too seriously. I like laughing. Laughter is good for the soul.

So find something that is bound to make you laugh; there are endless clips on youtube – from babies giggling to harmless pranks. Spend time with people who make you laugh. If you find these people are few and far between, maybe look at picking up some new hobbies, join some groups and meet new people. Friends should be the people we go to in times of sorrow, the shoulder to cry on, but they are also the people you should turn to if you need a good old belly laugh. Once you start to feel happier, you’ll attract happier people into your life, which will lead to more laughter. So start pasting on that smile and attract more smiley people to you.

This week, is not only about therapeutic writing, we are going to take some physical actions;

Firstly, using the free-writing technique, ask yourself these questions;

1/ When was the last time you laughed? Properly laughed … felt it from inside …

2/ Write about a few situations in your life that have made you laugh …

2/ What makes you laugh? Comedy shows, jokes, conversations with friends … there will be certain things in your life that trigger a release of laughter, think about this and write about it.

Secondly, actions …

This week your task is to do something that makes you laugh … really laugh … from the above writing exercise, you will surely find something in your life that truly makes you giggle. Have fun. Get those laughter lines and memories made … once you increase your laughter levels, watch the joy in your life increase.

Remember: Positive messages throughout the day, helps the negative thoughts stay away.

So be inspired daily with this

free inspirational guide.

Love & happiness to you always

Victoria xx

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This week’s inspirational word

K IS FOR KARMA

Karma … another of my favourite words!

What you give out … you get back. Simple!

Yes, it really is that simple! Once you realise this, you will reap the rewards of an amazing life.

My motto in life is to, ‘Spread and send the love’. My daughters have this motto instilled in their way of life, to a point that even their friends repeat it … At the ages of 11 and 9 years old, they tell people to, ‘Send the love’. Admittedly sometimes they struggle with the concept as they are learning about life and people, but we talk through situations and circumstances to allow them to understand that they can’t change the behaviour of others, they can only choose their own behaviour. They can only choose their own reaction.

This is the thing with karma, many people think it is a punishment or reward, but it is simply a reflection of the life the person is living. Choose happy, loving actions and karma will reflect back a happy, loving life. Just like the ‘Law of Attraction’ – what you put out there, you get back. Karma talks more about your actions, where the Law of Attraction relates to not just actions but to your thoughts too.

We can’t change someone else’s behaviour, so if they hurt us that is their doing and that will be reflected back to them, it’s not our place to reflect it back to them, how we react to that hurt will be reflected back to us. If you seek to spread love rather than cause disruptions in the lives of others, then you will receive that love back. People in your life who do not serve your loving purpose will dwindle away because they are not serving you or your purpose. Unless of course, you keep attracting them back to you! If this is the case, ask yourself why? It could be they need you to show them your loving ways.

We say simple things such as, ‘What you put out there, you get back.’ But when we really look into our life, we don’t understand some behaviours of others, so we judge them … this judging leads to negative thoughts … these negative thoughts lead to negative outcomes. It’s like a little circle that keeps turning. But it is very simple, you just have to believe and live your life with love. Live your life happily, not judging others, letting people live the life they want, while you live the life you want.

Think about how you treat people and see how you feel people treat you. Sometimes it’s hard to analyse ourselves. We can be very judgemental of ourselves but then we can display behaviours that we don’t even realise we possess. Maybe watch the behaviour of others, you may not see some of the karmic energy working in the background, but it will be there. When you start to see these energies working, you will soon get a buzz from being the loving, non-judgemental person you were put here to be.

Now, don’t get me wrong, some people are mood-hoovers, miserable, complainers … there are people out there who like to see others suffer, who relish in the joy of upsetting others or the failures of others. Sometimes these people are in our life as lessons. We need to rise above their negativity and spread out our own positive thoughts and beliefs. Once you stop reacting negatively towards others, even when you are faced with negative people, you will start to attract more positive people into your life. It’s like a little chain reaction. So be joyful and happy for others. Be the person who wants peace in the world. Carry your pure heart and soul and watch karma work for you, not against you.

 In this week’s therapeutic exercise think about the actions you have taken this week, free writing style;

Write about the actions you have taken and how you think these actions have influenced your life?

What has happened recently in your life that you feel you may have influenced by Karma?

What could you change in your life, so that Karma reflects good intentions back to you?

Remember: Positive messages throughout the day, helps the negative thoughts stay away.

So be inspired daily with this

free inspirational guide.

Love & happiness to you always

Victoria xx

 

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This week’s inspirational word

J IS FOR JUMP

Jumping doesn’t sound like the most inspirational of words, however, the connotation behind it can mean so much more than we can imagine. Let’s look at it from the verb that it is, ‘Jump’ – Give yourself a shake on a morning, stick on some tunes and jump! Yes, if you’ve got kids, get them to join in and jump, dance and shake away all that negativity that may be hanging over you first thing on a morning. Not only is this a great way to start your day, if you do have kids, you’ll be showing them the best way to live their life.Once you’ve jumped around the kitchen in your pj’s, you’ll feel that you can jump into life.

Starting your morning routine with a jump is a great way to increase your energy levels. Increased energy levels will allow you to live life from a positive angle.

Ok, so maybe you don’t have any inclination to jump out of bed on a morning and dance around the kitchen, but on a serious note, you should look at jumping into a life you want and deserve. A leap into your passions, the things that make you tick. If you jump into your life and follow your heart, you’ll want to jump out of bed every morning and dance around the kitchen.

I know, it seems like a catch-22 situation … but you must take the plunge to live a different life, if the life you are leading at the moment isn’t serving you. You must take the jump to make the changes and grow. When you take the leap you have to hold on and fly with it. There’s no point half-heartedly attempting, yes take small steps, but your heart and soul needs to be in it, even if the steps are small, because if the slightest hiccup occurs, you’ll be running the other way fast. Once you start running the other way it’s hard to get back on track. But when you take a jump that fills your body with joy, you will knock down any barriers that come your way.

Sometimes we need an extra push to take a plunge, take a risk or simply live our life. Fear is your ego talking. Telling you not to take the jump. Fear will stop you leading the life you truly deserve. If you listen to your fear, you will allow circumstances, situations and people to get in the way of the life you SHOULD be leading.

Is there something you long to do with your life? Is there a dream you wish to fulfil? Waiting for circumstances to change or be perfect before you take that jump, will inevitably leave you standing still; stuck in the same spot. If you feel an urge to make a change in your life, follow your instincts, follow your gut and make it happen.

Jump into the life you want; the life you deserve – only you can make these changes. If jumping feels scary then do it in stages, take baby steps, because remember the smallest steps count.

In this week’s therapeutic writing exercise, ask yourself these questions; (and then free write for as long as needed)

If I could take one jump in my life, what would it be?

Why would I want to take this jump?

What difference would this jump make to my life?

How would it improve my energy levels?

What can I do to make this jump happen?

Remember: Positive messages throughout the day, helps the negative thoughts stay away.

So be inspired daily with this

free inspirational guide.

Love & happiness to you always

Victoria xx

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This week’s inspirational word

I IS FOR IMAGINATION

We use logic every day. We live our lives logically. That’s the way the world works. That’s what we’ve had brainwashed into us since we realised all the make-believe playing we did as a child was just that, play! It was us using our imagination to create a whole new world. More than likely you were told that imagination is for children. As we grow out of childhood, the play stops. As teenagers, we want to be just that, ‘teenagers’, we don’t want to labelled immature and childish, so as we grow older we stop using our imaginations as much.

We become adults and more often than not, in the daily routine of life, we forget how to use our imagination. We get caught up in chores, tasks and deadlines, we forget to use our inner child to bring to us what we want from life. We might have children and watch them use their imaginations to play, we feel nostalgic and, maybe a little sad, because we think, if only life could be all imagination and play. As adults, we forget this is one of the key ingredients to living a happier more fulfilled life.

Here she goes again, I hear you saying, with her fluffy view on life … I love it if you did say that. I do have a very fluffy view on life. Proudly so. Life is full of joy and happiness. When I think about how wonderful life is, I feel all marshmallowy inside. I’m warmed by the miracles and magic that have happened in my own life and I know that’s why I have to write these blog posts, to get you to understand the fulfilment you can have in your own life, if you simply imagine it.

As I always tell people, I haven’t always been so bubbly and positive … gosh, in my early twenties, I was probably the biggest mood-hoover roaming the earth! But it is amazing what can happen when you start coming from a place of love, gratitude and joy. Amazing things happen.

The Law of Attraction works. It is always working whether you have positive or negative thoughts, it is working and it is delivering back to you those thoughts. So just imagine, if you could imagine something and make it happen!

Have you heard the saying, ‘Fake it, until you make it’? Think about this, while you’re faking it, you’re imagining living the life you want. So whether you want to run your own business, be healthier or have more ‘me-time’ – if you start to imagine these things are happening. They soon will. It sounds simple. If it is that simple, why isn’t this working for everyone?

The thing is, it is working, but people are not believing either in themselves, their ideas, their imagination or all of these things. So the Law of Attraction is working … if you don’t truly believe in this imaginary world then you’re telling the universe it is imaginary. You’re not allowing yourself to be deserving of this imaginery world. Your imagination is so powerful, but a true core belief has to come with it.

The Law of Attraction works simply; what you think about you attract. So use your imagination to attract the life you want … the life you deserve.

Imagine a life full of laughter, joy and happiness … sit back for five minutes and imagine yourself in this state of euphoria.

Now let’s use this week’s therapeutic writing exercise to help you get there;

Simply use the free-writing technique to answer this question; (just write, don’t stop writing until you have poured out onto the paper the life you wish to imagine).

Question: Write your own story … write a story of bliss, happiness, joy … where are you? What are you doing? What does your life look like?Imagine your best life … what does it look like? Use your senses to imagine this life … what can you see? Hear? Smell? Touch? Taste?

Remember: Positive messages throughout the day, helps the negative thoughts stay away.

So be inspired daily with this

free inspirational guide.

Love & happiness to you always

Victoria xx

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This week’s inspirational word

H IS FOR HEART

‘Love’ is one of my favourite words … once you start living a life of love, rather than, jealousy, anger, hatred etc. you realise how wonderful life can be. So opening up your heart and letting the world in, is the greatest gift you can give yourself.

The best way to open your heart is to look at all the things you have to be grateful for. There is so much in your life that you could be taking for granted; your family, your health, your job … Once you start realising how blessed you are, your heart will naturally sore.

Life, for myself, has not always been easy. There have been devastating family fallouts, to a point I didn’t know how to get out of bed on a morning. Over time I’ve learned to live with the situation, as much as I didn’t want to. I’ve learned to forgive even when the other person is no longer around me. I’ve learned that my heart is strong. My giving heart has allowed me to experience other forms of love from friends who have become my family.

Now don’t get me wrong, at one point in my life I felt so alone. You made have heard the saying, ‘there’s a difference between being alone and being lonely.’ You can be in a crowd with thousands of people and still feel lonely. When you have lost that connection with the outside world, your ability to feel with your heart becomes extremely hard. I remember feeling so angry.  This anger didn’t last a day or a week, it lasted for years. It was like a disease inside of me, I couldn’t seem to get myself out of this ball of fury.

If you know much about the Law of Attraction, you’ll understand when I say I just seem to have more and more things to be angry about. It was at this time that a friend of mine introduced me to ‘The Secret.’ The secret changed my life. Since then I have read and learned so much more about the Law of Attraction, the universe, angels and God. There is an indescribable peace within my soul now. Since I lived my life coming from a place of love and having a generous heart, guess what? Yes … I’ve received more love back than I could ever have imagined possible.

So now, whatever the situation or circumstance that years ago would have had me seething, I give my heart and come from a place of love. This didn’t happen overnight. It did take practice to think with my heart. To practice living my life with all my heart. To come from a place of pure love. If you struggle with this, I always say, start with gratitude. Once you start practising gratitude daily you will automatically start coming from a place of love. Today, I wouldn’t know how to live any other way. Living through love and giving my heart always, is so natural to me now. Now, don’t get me wrong there are times when I get upset, of course there is, but the bounce back time to love, understanding and pure heartfelt gratitude is much quicker. I can turn this negative emotion around in seconds. Wouldn’t you love to be able to do that?

Life is full of wonder. Once you open your heart to this amazing prospect you will understand how your heart can be filled with joy. Having a grateful, giving and non-judgemental heart will open you up to an amazing life of warmth.

There are so many wonderful things happening in life and around us, feeling these precious things with our heart and soul is the most amazing experience. Once you start to live from your heart, from a place of love you will receive more love … your heart will sore.

Try it this week, when someone upsets you, stop and think. Don’t just shout or confront them back. Use your heart to give. Breathe deeply and imagine wrapping your arms around this person and smothering them with love. This doesn’t mean that people can walk all over you. The exact opposite, because once you come from a place of love, once you use your heart to make your life decisions, you will find that some people are no longer in your life. We attract our tribe … meaning you attract those in your life who are similar. So if you see something in someone you don’t like, have a little self-analyse of yourself and your own behaviours. It is time to no longer be a mood-hoover, it’s time be the loving, kind, giving individual you were put on this earth to be.

In week’s therapeutic writing exercise let’s look at gratefulness;

1/ Write a list of all the things you are grateful for in your life. What makes your heart swell? Kids, a cosy home, friends, family etc. Really think about all the good in your life.

2/ Write a list of the things you would like to change, at each point, ask yourself why. Write down what you can do to change it. What is your heart telling you to do?

If you feel these questions are too particular, just write … write about your grateful heart. How can you make your heart more grateful? How can you make your heart swell and sore? What can you do differently? Writing with a loving heart is a great way to start understanding your grateful heart.

Remember: Positive messages throughout the day, helps the negative thoughts stay away.

So be inspired daily with this

free inspirational guide.

Love & happiness to you always

Victoria xx