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Inspirational Words: How to find your ZING for life

This week’s positive word

on our A-Z Inspirational Journey …

Z is for


Zing … what a strange but beautiful word.

Hopefully this post, will help you find your Zing!

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If someone asked me to describe what it means to find my zing … I’d use words like, sparkling, vibrancy, exhilarating, tantalising … Does this describe your life?

Don’t worry, most people will say no here! But wouldn’t it be lovely to be one of those people who says, ‘Yes’, my life is full of zing.

I like to be honest in my posts, if you haven’t noticed already … but life is full of challenges. You may have faced something or you are facing something that is a complete upheaval in your life and you read these posts wondering if all this fluffy stuff is true. Trust me when I say, I couldn’t have written a blog that consists of an A-Z Inspirational Journey if I didn’t think it was true.

Life has thrown many many MANY challenges my way! Once I’d learned about the Law of Attraction I realised that it was me holding back on the good in my life. It was me that was attracting the negativity. Sometimes we have to let go of negativity to bring the positive into our lives. Whether that be a situation or a person. It may seem like the hardest thing to do at the time. Look for the signs, ask for help from the Angels and they will guide you.

Finding you zing for life is the reason you are here – your zing is your passion and your purpose. Your passion is what gives you the motivation to drive forward, which will add that extra zing into your life. Just how Emma Watson describes it;

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You’ll find when you’ve found your passion and you have that extra zing in your life, that life becomes a journey of little zings. Little zings that are made up of little things. Little things that you may have taken for granted, not learned to appreciate until you find your Zing.

Now, I could talk all day about what your zing is, but you may be wondering how you can go about finding your Zing …

This week’s therapeutic creative writing exercise (and the last of this A-Z’s Inspirational Journey)


  • Start by closing your eyes, breathing for 10 minutes or longer if needed. 
  • Imagine, while you’re breathing, your ‘ideal’ life – where are you? Who are you with?
  • In this ‘ideal’ life, imagine your alarm going off on a morning, imagine yourself jumping out of bed and knowing your day is going to be filled with happiness.
  • Imagine, what would give you that happiness? What you would do that would make you happy?
  • Some people may feel nothing … but imagine that you do have a purpose. I believe everyone has a purpose, so it’s sad if you feel you don’t have one. So let’s think about this … What is your passion? What are your hobbies? What makes you tick? There must be something … if you are feeling quite low and you’re unsure of where you’re meant to be, try thinking back to being a child … ‘When I grow-up I want to be a …’ If it’s never too late to change your profession, your goals, your dreams … we change as we get older, we become interested in different things, but what makes us unique is our own special mission. Many people have forgotten their mission, bogged down by finance worries, work pressure, family strains … many people have lost their zing.
  • So write down what you would be doing in your ideal life, when you were younger did you say you wanted to be a nurse? Did you fulfil this dream? If not, what are you doing at the moment? Are you helping others? Are you working in a caring role? Try and look inside yourself and really thing about what makes you tick. When you find it, when you start putting plans in place to pursue it, you will start to find that zing … that calling. The reason you are here.
  • If you’re still struggling, this is great time to do some freestyle writing. Freestyle writing is an awesome way to let go of your emotions and find out what and where our blockages are. What is really happening in our world? Where can we put things back on track to understand where we want to be.

Life has and will continue to throw challenges at you, but as I’ve talked about before all challenges are relative. What we need to do is open our hearts, minds and eyes to what is really happening in our world. Whatever is going on in your world, whatever pressures, struggles, problems, challenges you are facing, once you find your zing: your passion, your purpose, your reason for living … you will work your way through these barriers, in fact, you will bash down these barriers like the flimsy walls that they are, not the concrete jail you feel you are stuck within.

Remember, you deserve to find your zing; your passion, your purpose, your reason for living 🙂

Wishing you love, happiness and fulfilment always

Victoria xx

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Inspirational Words: Become a younger version of YOU!

This week’s positive word

on our A-Z Inspirational Journey …

Y is for


In this blog I wanted to talk to you about how young you FEEL! Not how old you are? But how young do you feel?

You see, being young isn’t about age, it’s about how you feel. There are people who are in their twenties who live a very old life. There are people in their 50s 60s 70s and upwards who live an amazingly young life. Check out this video of a 96-year-old yoga instructor:

Ask yourself how old do you feel physically, mentally and emotionally?

Life can throw a lot of challenges at us. How you deal with these challenges or how you choose to see them in your life, can reflect how old you actually feel. Our challenges in life are relative to our lifestyle, for example, one thing that would give someone a nervous breakdown, may flow easily over someone else’s head.

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The above is quite a depressing quote, not one that I would usually use for an inspirational blog. But I thought it was perfect for what I’m trying to say. People age because of what life throws at them. So it’s up to us to deal with the challenges and let little things go. Don’t dwell on stuff. Don’t let dwell on the small stuff … and don’t dwell on the big stuff … imagine everything is happening for a reason, look out for the signs and understand that if you let things go, you will age gracefully.

How old you feel is really a reflection on how you’ve viewed your actual life experiences, such as some people have been through so much and their way of dealing with things is to just to panic and feel stressed. While others could be going through the same but deal with it on a higher manageable level. Again, it’s all relative. If you think about the Law of Attraction, those who manage their thoughts to a positive outcome will endeavour to do so. Those who are stressing, will bring themselves more stress.

This is easier said than done, I realise this, hence the reason I write my blog, to inspire people to look at the bigger picture. To look at what you want even when it feels as if everything is against you. Look at the positive outcomes that can come from a bad situation, think about the reasons these things are happening and focus on good, the positive and don’t allow yourself to be swallowed up by the negativity. In cases where you find this hard it’s best to look at things you can be grateful for. Write a gratitude list. Even down to the fact you have clean running water keep you alive.

Imagine if you were to take these life experiences and learn from them, giving you the opportunity to feel young again.

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There are a lot of factors that can make us older than we actually are. Not as young as we would like to. For example: perhaps you’ve had a stress in your life that has led to sleepless nights or you’ve gained bad habits that have led to a bad diet or maybe drinking too much alcohol as a way of coping. A coping mechanism that is actually aging you internally and externally. This is where your emotional age can add to your physical age and you don’t feel very young.

But we’re only here once, so let’s stop making excuses and start living young …

Here’s this week’s therapeutic creative writing exercise:


Sleep is a huge factor in making us feel older than we are. It’s proven that lack of sleep does affect your physical and mental age, you can read an article here from Healthy Sleep Texas.

So, do you feel you are not getting enough sleep? Do you find it hard to drop off to sleep? Do you wake in the middle of the night unable to get back to sleep? This is a great time to do some therapeutic writing. Well, actually it’s not an ideal time, earlier in the day is much better … but if you’re just getting started on this exercise and you’re unsure what is actually keeping you awake at night, it’s best to start this way for a few nights and then bring the writing earlier to the day to help wash away the thoughts before bedtime.

So to start with, if you feel you can’t sleep, start writing down what is keeping you awake. Whatever is going around in your head, write it down. Keep a notebook next to your bed and simply write until you feel you have released all your emotions.

The next morning, take a look at these notes, then try to bring this therapeutic writing to more a reasonable time of the day.

Writing a journal is an extremely relaxing way to de-stress. You can read here a great article from 2nd Story Counselling, that will give you 7 great tips on keeping a journal, which will hopefully help you sleep better.

So once you’ve started with some true self-reflection with your creative writing, you’ll start to see patterns of behaviour, emotions, feelings that could be dragging you down and making you feel older than you are.

If it helps write some sentences about how you would like to feel young and how you can help yourself feel young. What do you see when you see youth?

Here’s three tips to help you live a younger more vibrant life:

* Eat Healthy & Drink Plenty Of Water – This is a given. The healthier you eat the more energy you will have. Your skin will look fresher and revitalised. There is plenty of information out there to help you have a better diet.

* Exercise – This is another given. People who exercise feel younger, fitter and healthier, these tips really go without saying. Now maybe you’ve reached an age where you feel the aches and pains, it’s easier said than done to go for a 3-mile run, your back hurts, your knees hurt etc. One of the best exercises to help the aging process is yoga and pilates. If you haven’t viewed the video at the top, please do. Simple stretches can help you feel young again. Don’t give up on exercise altogether. Find something you can do and watch the magic happen to your body.

* Mindset – I believe this is the most important part in feeling young. This is the ultimate barrier to letting yourself feel old. Are you letting life drag you down? Are you letting stuff get on top of you? Mindset is a huge factor in helping to play a part in enabling you to feel young.

The mind is wonderful and powerful! More than most realise.

If you’re interested in finding out how you can change your mindset, you can read through my A-Z Inspirational Journey, each blog post has been designed to help you change your mindset from negative to positive. It takes work if you’re in a dark place, but it can be done. Please read back through the posts, take your time, each post has a therapeutic writing exercise and some tips on helping you become a more positive you. A younger you! This journey starts with Appreciation.

Wishing you love, happiness and fulfilment always

Victoria xx

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Inspirational Words: How To Manifest Your Dreams Through Excitement

This week’s positive word

on our A-Z Inspirational Journey …

X = EX


Yes, I’m using EX instead X in this inspirational blog journey, plus there are so many positive words that can be used for ‘E’ alone, and there are so many words that can be used for EX, that I decided to jazz up this A-Z a little. No this is not a cop-out, I don’t want to start making words up, although, I do actually LOVE making words up. Many authors make words up. The author I admire the most for the best made-up words is Roald Dahl, with words such as Whizzpopper and Trogglehumper (you can see more of Roald Dahl’s fantastic words here).

But I disgress, but it’s little things like this that I get excited about. Yes, I get excited about new words and about Roald Dahl’s books. My girls are at an age where they are loving his stories, so it’s exciting to watch their faces as they discover his fabulous stories.

(If you’re not happy with my use of EX and you are now on a mission to prove me wrong, with as many X positive words that you can possibly find, please go ahead, I’d love to see hear from you with your ideas. In the last A-Z, I used the word Xenodochial you can see that here. Yes, it’s a word and it actually means:

So, let’s talking about the words and let’s dicuss excitement … what is it you’re actually excited about? Anything?

If you ask many people this question, they get stumped. They haven’t got a holiday booked … they haven’t got any nights out planned … because they feel as if they should have something prepared in their lives. Something they can look forward too. Now I’ve asked that question if you’re one of those people now thinking, but I haven’t got anything planned … how boring is my life? I have nothing to be excited about. Think again …

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See, here’s the thing, I think it’s important to be excited about something daily, and if I was only excited about a holiday coming up (which we haven’t got coming up and haven’t booked anywhere, as of yet), I’d be pretty damn miserable with my life. I’d be pretty upset that I was excited about something that was happening six months away. What’s to be excited about in between that? What do you have to be excited about daily or even weekly?

It’s like when people are happy that it’s a Friday and the weekend has arrived. I remember those days, and I swear they were painful. If you’re there now, let’s look at how we can help you get excited about your life again. How Monday mornings can become the new Friday nights …



We live in a society where unhappiness has become accepted. People are unhappy because they don’t have the best job, they are working 9-5 to pay the bills, there’s a constant demand on time and money. We watch over people achieving their dreams and goals and this upsets us, because why can they do it and we can’t.

It’s all about mind set … those who are living the life that you want to live is because they dreamed it, believed it and made it happen. They were excited about their days ahead and were grateful for all that they had. Getting up every morning and complaining will only lead to more complaining, because looking at everything that’s wrong in your life will only lead to more things to complain about, when there is so much to be grateful for and excited about.

When I first watched the secret, I realised why things were going wrong in my life. I wasn’t being grateful at all. Life was hard. A struggle. I manifested more struggling. When I turned this around, when I got excited because a bill had been paid (even excited about the late bill payments) and truly grateful, life started to offer more to me. The more I became excited, then more I had to be excited about. I would be excited about food in the cupboard, a treat at the shops … I love the following quote, it says it all …

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It was hard work being positive when I felt there was little to be positive about. However, once I changed my thoughts around my life started to change. Don’t get me wrong, I’m not a robot. Yes, believe me even as a Law of Attraction & NLP Practitioner, I have days were I hit a brick wall and have to really bring that excitement into my life. I’m human … with a busy life of running a household, looking after two kids and a hubby who works away a lot … life can feel as if I’m on the magic roundabout … yes, with the drugs. But I know how to work my thoughts so that the day will go as planned and I will have little or no drama. Yes, we still have the odd drama, such as the boiler breaking down, a leak from the kitchen tap that sprayed like a waterfall … but these are things that happen. I don’t think it’s bad luck. The boiler is 10 years old, we’ve done well to get this far. Plus, I was grateful we just needed 2 main parts replacing not a completely new boiler. The tap needed fixing, so was bound to explode at some point, and was actually rather funny when I ran outside to some workmen, shouting for help like some kind of, ‘Damsel in Distress’ – who did help me, after looking at me like I’d been let out for the day. You see, there’s always a way of looking at the negatives.

We put so much pressure on ourselves that we don’t enjoy the day-to-day living. Once the day-to-day living is enjoyed, life becomes an exciting journey. Remember that feeling as a child? Being excited about the simplest things …

So what am I excited about today? Well, believe it or not, it’s new app!

I have so much I WANT to achieve in life that there’s not enough hours in the day. So if there’s a way I can multi-task and kill two birds with one stone, I will. Usually when I walk Daisy, our gorgeous Cocker Spaniel, I will listen to an audio book from audible. However, because I’ve had so many ideas for my fiction I’ve been on a mssion to get my next book moving. So I’ve searched high and low for an app that I can speak into and it will write out the text for me. I found some that were rubbish … however, I’ve found one called Dragon Dictation. I think it’s brilliant and I used it for the first time today to help with this blog post.

It means I can walk along, talking to myself, without looking crazy (because it looks like I’m on my phone). When I’ve finished dictating, there is a quick and easy way to forward the text to a variety of places. So I simply pressed the email icon and it’s emailed to me. How awesome is that?

Now don’t get me wrong, it’s not word perfect. I was excited to get home and see some of the interpretations. Here’s a few that made me giggle:

this could be something as simple as a daisy daisy (This last bit is me shouting at the dog …) That did make me giggle (little things 🙂 )

yes I’m leaving me with the law of attraction practitioner in Hanapepe who (I have no idea how I’m going to leave myself and is Hanapepe an actual place?)

very exciting because I am now door when I want to listen because I love the skin (I couldn’t work out what on earth I was trying to say here)

But other than the above, most of it was correct.

It’s little things like this that I get excited about, so when the big things happen, I’m ecstatic. This brilliant app, has just allowed me to do two jobs at once. It’s awesome.

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If you read my blog posts, you’ll understand being a LAO Practitioner, I’m an avid manifestation and visualisation user. There are things in my life that I’ve manifested by being excited about them before they’ve actually arrived in my life. There are things I’ve seen other people manifest because of believing and feeling that excitement before it arrives.

So this week’s creative writing exercise is, How to Manifest your Dreams through Excitement. It’s best to read through the steps before starting this exercise …

  1. Start by writing down what it is you want.
    • I love using the analogy – ‘wanting a promotion’ … this could relate to moving up the career ladder, setting-up your own business, promoting your life in some way that would benefit you. Maybe you would like to lose weight, be healthier or fitter: Write this down and try to be as specific as you can.


  1. Now you need to take 5-10 minutes out to relax. Breathe deeply … and let’s role-play. (Children find it easier to manifest because they don’t have the barriers or blockages that have built upon us layer by layer over the years …) let the barriers go and believe anything is possible.


  1. Now imagine receiving an email or letter telling you of this new promotion. Imagine you’ve just got your first sale or good review with your new business. Imagine standing on the scales or measuring your body and being the size you aim to be. You’ve reached your goal. The universe has delivered your wishes. It’s yours. How does that feel? Feel and breathe that excitement. No barriers or blockages … It’s yours, how does that feel? At this point, if you would like to, you can open your eyes and write down how you feel. Keep these words for step 5.


  1. Close your eyes again, imagine your dressing for the job. This new promotion, new business or dream of yours may require a new outfit. You maybe imagining yourself slimmer, fitter and healthier. How would you feel if you could fit into that dress that you so desperately want to wear?

If you haven’t an outfit in mind, this is a great manifesting technique. Choose the outfit you would love to wear if you were slimmer … imagine that feeling of wearing that outfit. Imagine that feeling of slipping into that dress, and know what you have to do to get there. This is your chance to take that step towards a happier life. Just feel the excitement of being there, living it and wearing it.

Even if it’s not truly happening around you, believe it is, live your days as if it is and watch your dreams manifest. Feel the excitement. If you’re feeling excited about your goal, you’ll find yourself naturally working towards it. The universe will help you when you give out excitement it will give you more to be excited about.


  1. The last step is to imagine you have received your goal/dream etc. and with the excitement you feel gratitude and appreciation. Be thankful. The words you wrote out earlier regarding your excited feelings, bring them into affirmations. For example: I feel amazing and so grateful for now being the manager of the store … (obviously fill in your dream). Whenever you’re feeling low or flat, you can read these and remember that excitement. Gratitude and appreciation will help you feel excited about things to come.

Now, it’s important to say here, you may do all of the above and you may not receive what you wanted. Firstly go back over your steps and ensure you are feeling the excitement daily. Sometimes our dreams can take days, weeks, months or years … it depends how big the dream is.

You’ll have heard the quote: ‘It takes 20 years to make an overnight success – Eddie Cantor’. If you have vision and a dream, be excited about it before it happens. Bring that excitement into your life. NEVER GIVE UP.

If it’s something that you feel could happen instantly and it doesn’t, and you may think the Law of Attraction isn’t working … well, the Law of Attraction is always working but so are the Angels. So if the Angels know there is something better for you out there, they will point you in the right direction. Keep your eyes open for exciting opportunities.

You may be feeling so frustrated but it’s important to NEVER TO GIVE UP. Be excited that you’re communicating the angels. Many people find this hard because most have to see to believe, but when it comes to the Law of Attraction the key is to believe to see.

Take this week’s creative writing exercise: Do this daily and you will soon be manifesting yourself to an exciting life.

Wishing you love, happiness and fulfilment always

Victoria xx

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Inspirational Words: How to welcome challenges into your life

This week’s positive word

on our A-Z Inspirational Journey …

W is for


Today I wanted to talk to you about welcoming challenges into your life … you may be thinking that doesn’t sound very positive! How on earth can challenges be positive?

Challenges are draining, exhausting, depressing … sound familiar?

Well, in this blog post I want you to think about challenges in a completely different light. I want you to imagine that the challenges you are facing are the pinnacle of what will make your life better.

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You may feel as if this is not possible, your challenges are far too big. But I’ll ask one question: Are you seriously ill? If you are, I send you all the love in the world and wish you a healthy future. I truly appreciate you reading my blog and I hope you find some inspiration from the posts. I’d also advise you go to the Hay House website, if you haven’t already and read ‘You Can Heal Your Life’ by Louise Hay, and you can also read Louise Hay Interview with The Telegraph here (the journalist is a little bit sceptical but you can’t knock Louise Hay for her vibrant, inspiring encouragement). I’m not saying Louise Hay will cure you, but she will help you look at life a little differently.

So if you’re not seriously ill but are facing challenges that are making you ill, such as financial pressure, work difficulties, relationship problems, there is way to look at these aspects of your life differently. You may feel I’ve lightened your issues by asking if you’re seriously ill – quite the opposite. I understand the sleepless nights, the physically feeling sick with worry, the head that aches because you feel as if it’s in a vice … yes, hands-up, I’ve been there. I’ve been at a point where my problems have made me ill.

But since learning about the Law of Attraction and positive thinking I’ve realised that sweating the small, or big stuff, can actually make things a whole lot worse. It’s best to let it all go and welcome any disruptions, challenges or changes head on. Imagine they are there for a reason.

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Now, that’s not me saying ignore the problems in your life, bury them under your skin, don’t let them affect you, that will never work because then they become deep rooted issues, issues that take over your world unconsciously, which is worse than addressing them and thinking about them consciously. Now don’t get me wrong, I still face challenges … I bet Louise Hay, and her team, still have a challenge or two, however, it’s how we deal with these challenges that makes the difference to our lives.

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Imagine if you were to welcome and embrace any challenge into your life, imagine you were going to learn something from the challenge. Welcome the change it will bring to you.

In this week’s therapeutic writing exercise, let’s look at:


1/ WRITE DOWN YOUR CHALLENGES: Write down what challenges you are facing at the moment, this could be a list of more than one challenge, an individual sentence will be sufficient at this stage.

2/ TAKE ONE CHALLENGE APART: Sometimes we are so overwhelmed with a particular challenge that we can’t face welcoming it, because we don’t know where it starts or ends. So break it down. Take one of your challenges, maybe at this stage one of the challenges that you feel may be easily fixed, as this will encourage you to move onto more challenging challenges. Bullet point the parts that are upsetting you, making you angry or making you feel helpless.

3/ ACKNOWLEDGE THOSE FEELINGS: Why am I asking you to acknowledge these feelings? Because these are the feelings that are holding you back. You can’t move on and face these challenges while you keep all this anger, worthlessness or whatever it is you’re feeling, pent-up inside of you. You must welcome those feelings. Those feelings are there for a reason, so they must be welcomed so you can help solve the challenges.

So acknowledge that you are angry because … or you are hurt because …

Write these feelings down. Scribble away at this stage to your heart’s content. Imagine you are John Coffey from the Green Mile, releasing all those awful bugs and letting go of the nastiness. Dramatic? But whatever helps you understand you are a wonderful being and that all this ‘stuff’ isn’t you, then imagine releasing the toxins in the best way you see fit. Imagine as your pen scrawls across the paper you are releasing the toxins: the bugs.


Now, let’s look at what you can learn from the challenges. Imagine these challenges are happening for a reason, they are part of your life lessons. Ask yourself questions to help prompt some answers, such as:

  • Should you be more grateful?
  • Are you focusing on too many negatives?
  • Are you looking at all opportunities available to you?
  • What can YOU DO to make your days better?
  • Are you in the wrong job?
  • What job would you like to do?
  • Do you need to make more effort in your relationship or do you need to move on?

I understand these are basic questions that may feel like I’m making light of certain challenges, but these basic questions can lead to your wants; they can help you focus on the solution rather than the problem. Too many people focus on the negative rather than the positive (you can read the positive thoughts post here) which can lead to them thinking their challenges are bigger than they are. Again, that’s not me dismissing what you’re feeling, as our emotions make us heightened to what is actually bothering us. However, let’s take these challenges and ask yourself, ‘What welcomed learning can I take from this?’ What have you learnt, or can you learn, from the challenges you are facing? What can you welcome into your life from these challenges?

5/ MEDITATE: Okay, you may be thinking, how can I meditate now you’ve just let me overload about how upset I am? And what I can learn from things … I’ve now too much to think about … if these are your thoughts … STOP!

At this stage breathe. Breathe deeply and close your eyes. If you haven’t mastered the art of meditation, this is the time in your life to start. Meditation will help you release all that pent-up overload that is fogging your brain. Meditation will help you release negativity and fill you with positivity. It helps to unload all that blackness that could actually be creating the challenges that don’t need to be there. You must welcome calmness into your life to enable you to learn anything from your challenges.

6/ TURN YOUR LEARNING INTO AFFIRMATIONS: If you’ve read my blog posts you’ll know that I’m a lover of affirmations. I surround myself with positivity. My office walls are full of inspiring messages. I awake to affirmations by my bedside. I have affirmations at my desk. I have affirmations everywhere. I must mention, Louise Hay again, but she is the ultimate guru on affirmations. So this is where you can really turn your challenge into a positive. Write out what you want from these challenges, for example,

  • I am so grateful for … (fill in blank: work, family, relationship etc.)
  • I am in a loving relationship.
  • I am financially-free.
  • I am a grateful, positive person who sees the good in all.

You decide what it is you want from your life. You decide what you can learn from these challenges.

Get excited about the challenges and seek something from them, it’ll be there waiting for you to discover it and you should welcome the learning with open arms.

Wishing you love, happiness and fulfilment always

Victoria xx

If you’d like help in surrounding yourself with positivity, you can download your very own FREE inspirational guide here.